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I'm a birthmom in a fully open adoption. My birthdaughter has the most amazing parents in the world, and her life and family are just beautiful.

I miss her tons and tons on a regular basis, however..... Like today...

Can I post on this board, or is there somewhere more appropriate? Any other birthmoms around?
 

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I'm a birthmom, an adoptee (I think that's the right term, I was adopted by my parents when I was a few months old) and a new mom at 37.

I placed a daughter up for adoption 18 years ago
:, I can't believe it's been that long ago! I feel good about the whole thing in many ways, in part because of my positive experience with my parents. Both adoptions in my life were closed adoptions, and I've never met my birth parents. I'm open to meeting my birth parents, or my birth daughter.

Glad to hear from another birthmom! (I like your user name)
 

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Thanks for the reply! Definately nice to meet you!!

I just got off the phone with my birthdaughter's mom... I adore talking to her, she's so amazing.

I also feel really good about the decision to place, but think about her at times too. When I placed, we had agreed on visits on occasion, however I moved 3000 miles away last October, so it's not really possible now, although, for the most part, I think that has really helped me in moving forward as well
 

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Another birthmom here, but I don't often come into this forum. I placed my daughter in an open adoption 7 1/2 years ago. I have a 2.5 year old daughter and another one due in December.

I wish you all the luck in the world for your open adoption relationship.

-Kate
 

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Hi, I have been reading some of your thoughts as birthmoms this morning and it has been very helpful for me. I am 35 and have 4 wonderful boys and just recently found my birthmother. I have the most wonderful parents in the world and chose to find my bm mostly for biological reasons. we have been writing each other e-mails for a few months now and I have been going through many emotions. I realize now that she has always been a part of me. She now wants to meet me and I am not sure I want to take this step, I feel like it would be a betrayel to my parents. So... all this to say that reading thoughts from birthmoms helps me to understand a bit of her side of things so thank you for your honesty.
 

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Thank everyone for the replies!

Today is significant for me, with regards to my birthdaughter. It was 2 years ago today, that I found out I was pregnant with her, and exactly 1 year ago today that I last saw her...

I miss her today... Not in a bad way though, if that makes sense... Kinda in the way that I'm thinking of her, knowing she's doing well, and just wishing I could stop by and say 'hey', ya know?
 

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I'm a birthmom too! I have a very open adoption also with my son's parents. He is 16 now and doing great. I'm also an adoption professional so it sort of came full circle for me. Glad to know there are a few of us out there.
 
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