[Arduinna]

eh, maybe it's just that 2 days seems to be my limit for any house guest. Maybe it's that I like my privacy, or that he doesn't eat any of the vegetables I cook and replies for her anytime I ask dd a question os that he is overly solicitous but damn dd's boyfriend is getting on my nerves.<br><br>
and the hints that he wants to stay instead of going back home on the day he is scheduled to isn't helping matters. But he is not staying one more day past his flight time <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br><br>
Is it Monday yet? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy">

 

[SusanElizabeth]

I think it says something really nice about you that he doesn't want to leave. I know how tiring it can be to have company for an extended period of time, but one thing you have to say is that obviously your home is comfortable for other people to be in. I know how I feel when I'm at my in-laws -- I can't wait to leave!!!

 

[UnschoolnMa]

That would be super annoying. Particularly the answering for her bit. Ackk! Hang in there.

 

[UUMom]

You are being very respectful by biting your tongue, however difficult that is!<br><br>
I am crossing my fingers he goes home soon! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Later, you can let your dd process with you.

 

[Arduinna]

<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> thanks I'm glad that someone understands. I think it's probably hard for her too since she is used to alot of private time also. I'm sure we will talk about it next week.

 

[chloeM]

mabe all of the above. I hate having house guests and i hate being one. I neeeeed my privacy and get anxious after 2 hours, you beat me out by a couple days

 

[Ann-Marita]

Arduinna, I feel for you. I've been following your posts, leading up to this visit by your dd's boyfriend.<br><br>
I really don't deal well with houseguests. I have enough trouble sleeping as it is, much less if there is someone else in the house rattling around at 6am (FIL).<br><br>
Yeah, the answering for her would really get on my nerves. Don't you just want to say "She HAS a voice, I'm asking HER the question, so just zip it, BF." Not that I ever WOULD say that - just that I'd want to, a little.<br><br>
Hang in there. It will be over soon.

 

[Arduinna]

OMGs last night she locked herself out of her room and it got silly with her boyfriend telling dh how he needed to deal with it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes"><br><br>
sigh<br><br>
I swear I haven't said a thing out loud yet. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">

 

[Ann-Marita]

<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">

 

[Arduinna]

I know boys are silly huh?<br><br>
So I went to breakfast with dh, the kids were still sleeping and poor dh got an earful. Don't get me wrong, he is a good kid and he treats her really well and she is good at setting her own personal boundries from overhearing them talking. I guess we have been just the three of us for so long that it is wierd. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">

 

[SusanElizabeth]

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She locked herself out of her room? I'm confused. Did she do this on purpose?

 

[Arduinna]

no she didn't do it on purpose <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">

 

[Arduinna]

OMG shut up already! We don't need to know every freaking cool thing you know about every video game.<br><br><br>
thank you.

 

[nolonger]

Ugh. I feel for you. My dd's boyfriend is essentially a good kid and I'm glad to have him around as much as I do (they essentially live together but bounce back and forth between my home and his mother's home) but after being single as long as I have, I'm not used to gender politics and I'm CERTAINLY not used to seeing dd put up with the way het men treat het women.<br><br>
Mostly they're okay, but when they had some friends over and I saw him speaking for her and her being in that silent, shy role I used to cop when I was her age, I just wanted to shake her!<br><br>
She seems embarassed by my presence, but I still make a point of interacting with them and trying to be an individual to him instead of "the old lady's old lady".<br><br>
If she won't be assertive around him, then I guess I have to.

 

[Arduinna]

<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br><br>
yeah I make a point of interacting with them too. And I'm still going to kinda go on a live my life same as before. So now I'm playing my punk music on my computor while they are in the other room playing video games <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I'm not taking the old ladys old lady role either <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">

 

[Millie Ivy]

ewww. he sounds like an ex of mine...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:<br><br>
Sorry, he's probably very nice, but everything in you OP squicks me out bc of a guy I dated. "That's a lovely dress, Mrs Cleaver"<br><br><br>
*shudder*

 

[Ann-Marita]

So, Arduinna, how's it going? Your dd's boyfriend is leaving tomorrow, right? Are you and your dh ready to get your privacy back?

 

[BelgianSheepDog]

Yeah 2 days is about my limit for being or having a guest, totally.<br><br>
And <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: ugh, boys at that age can be so freaking pedantic and annoying! The way they just glaze and start reciting crap about video games or whatever that no one else cares about.

 

[Arduinna]

<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br><br>
today is the last day, trip to the airport this afternoon <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
It was fun but I'm so glad it's over.

 

[Arduinna]

ackkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk kkkkkkkkkkkkkk<br><br><br><br>
go freaking home already.<br><br><br>
I've never met anyone that had to explain how they do things differently no matter what is happening. Shut up already. No one cares. It's not freaking rocket science to heat something up in the microwave.<br><br><br><br><br><br><br>
And I overheard him telling his dad on the phone this morning that he wants to her to come to *insert state he lives in*<br><br><br>
Not<br><br><br><br>
going<br><br><br>
to<br><br><br><br><br>
happen<br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br>
at least not until she is 18 and I have no say in the matter<br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br>
:bonks self on head