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I am super emotional today so maybe venting will help.<br><br>
Yesterday I asked our family doctor's office if they could do the newborn screening since we're having a homebirth and our midwife does not do that. The receptionist looked at me like I had 3 heads and then just kind of trailed off after shaking her head and saying, "We don't do that..."<br><br>
I honestly think she had no clue what I was asking so she just said they don't do instead of checking. Whatever.<br><br>
Practically no one homebirths around this area so I'm not even sure how we'll find a homebirth friendly pediatrician but maybe I'm just being cynical. I'm just frustrated.<br><br>
Our state health department also says to ask our doctor for a referral to a local hearing center or place they can do the hearing test. After the look I got yesterday I'm fairly sure my doctor's office won't have any idea what to do in that situation and they didn't seem too keen on attempting to work with me on it.<br>
Now I'm thinking we'll skip the hearing test completely but that still leaves me on the search for a pediatrician.<br><br>
I guess I'll just call and ask if they can do the newborn screening in their office. I'm expecting a few awkward conversations with confused nurses/receptionists.<br><br>
I guess I'm feeling sorry for myself. I'm just tired of dealing with all the looks we've been getting for some of our choices lately. It can wear you down after awhile.<br><br>
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You can probably go in to the hospital for the newborn screen and hearing test, when the babe is a few days old. If s/he's already been seen by a ped. they have no reason to freak out. When my first was born in the hospital, we left after 12 hours so had to go back a couple days later for the newborn screen (in the lab-- not even in the mother/baby unit).<br>
Most small ped. practices won't have the newborn screen, a big practice *may* but I wouldn't let that be the determining factor in choosing your ped.
 

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Where in the Midwest are you? I'm in MN, and even my DEM, non-licensed, homebirth midwife can do the newborn blood screen and fill out the referral for the hearing test. I'd also ask your doctor or his nurse directly about the screen, the receptionist probably *didn't* know what you were talking about.<br><br>
Any particular reason why you're looking for a ped for the baby instead of using your family doc? I know they're all different, but mine was very nonchalant about homebirth and had no problems taking over care of DS2 when we decided to bring him in.<br><br>
Sorry they're all being goobers about it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I wanted to chime in and say that I have had a lot of problems trying to speak to receptionists and CNAs that didn't know what I was talking about so they acted like *I* was crazy. (Why can't they just say, "oh I don't know, hold on and I will ask!") If you can speak to the Dr. yourself, I'd try that before totally throwing in the towel.<br>
Good luck mama!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Where in the Midwest are you? I'm in MN, and even my DEM, non-licensed, homebirth midwife can do the newborn blood screen and fill out the referral for the hearing test. I'd also ask your doctor or his nurse directly about the screen, the receptionist probably *didn't* know what you were talking about.<br><br>
Any particular reason why you're looking for a ped for the baby instead of using your family doc? I know they're all different, but mine was very nonchalant about homebirth and had no problems taking over care of DS2 when we decided to bring him in.<br><br>
Sorry they're all being goobers about it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"></div>
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We're in Southwest Missouri. The state health department told us to just ask our doctor to do the screening.<br>
From what I can tell, they just aren't familiar with how to handle things when someone homebirths.<br><br>
I'm looking for a ped because our family doctor's office can't do the screening so I just need someone to do that. I called the hospital and they seemed equally miffed on what to do or how to even handle my question. I was told since the baby wouldn't be a patient there, they couldn't do it.<br><br>
I would ask my midwife for some suggestions but she's in NW Arkansas and rarely attends births up here. I think I'll just talk to her about it when I visit her next and see what she says. I believe her apprentice actually lives in MO and recently gave birth so maybe she'll have some answers.<br><br>
When I call around, most people just don't know how to handle my questions it seems.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I wanted to chime in and say that I have had a lot of problems trying to speak to receptionists and CNAs that didn't know what I was talking about so they acted like *I* was crazy. (Why can't they just say, "oh I don't know, hold on and I will ask!") If you can speak to the Dr. yourself, I'd try that before totally throwing in the towel.<br>
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Thank you. My DS actually has an appointment next week so I think I'll go ahead and ask our Dr. directly and see what he says.<br><br>
Admittedly, I am a bit timid about it because so far when the fact that we're having a homebirth is put out there on the table most people are disgusted or brush us off in a way.<br><br>
I really like our doctor so I'm hoping he'll be nonchalant about the whole thing and have some answers for me.
 

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Good luck with figuring all this out... I don't have any suggestions beyond what the PP have said, but just wanted to send some encouragement your way. Just think, once you've got this stuff figured out (and you will!) you can help pave the way, and give advice to others who want to homebirth as well. Being a trailblazer can be weary, but hopefully someone else can benefit from your experience and good example! Good luck, mama!
 

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Yes, as PP said, talk to the doctor before you decide they're going to treat you badly. I had a conversation like I wasn't speaking English when I called to make my DD's first doc appointment....at 6 weeks. The receptionist couldn't seem to grok that she wasn't born in a hospital and had been cared for by our midwives for the first 6 weeks. The doctor wasn't phased at all.<br><br>
As for the newborn screen, I seem to recall ours was done by mail! They did some blood drops on a card and sent it in. Maybe that's an Oregon thing. And we made our own appointment for a hearing screen, mostly at our own initiation, because our DD was so calm around loud noises, we were starting to get worried!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm looking for a ped because our family doctor's office can't do the screening so I just need someone to do that.</div>
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Did the doctor actually tell you that or are you going by what the receptionist told you? "Family" doctor means they (usually) treat everyone from infants to the elderly, and it's not unheard of for a baby to need to have the blood screening repeated after they've been discharged from the hospital.
 

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I would figure this out before baby comes...I didn't with my last baby (first HB) and no one would take us when I called about an infant wellness check up--because of the HB.<br><br>
This time, I'm calling before baby is born and just saying I'm having my baby out of town and need a dr locally for checkups. (Which is technically true, since I'm living in the county, not town, lol).<br><br>
I understand how you feel. It isn't nice that you get treated like you're insane when you're trying to get a dr for your baby. I gave up. My mw did the infant screening, tho. dd has never been to a dr at 3 yrs old. Oh well. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> I really just wanted one "Just in case"...
 

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I would suggest being more specific. So say you want to book an appointment for the PKU test, rather than a "newborn screen". They might not know what all goes into a screen, but be fine doing the PKU test. You might also call a local blood testing lab, as they might be more likely to do it.<br><br>
I know what you mean about people looking at you sideways. We homebirthed DD, and you wouldn't believe the number of times I heard "well, they did that at the hospital before you took her home." Um, were you listening people? She never was in a hospital! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
Good luck and hang in there. Our ped didn't quite know what to do about the homebirth thing, but is still an excellent doc for our little one. Just be specific about what you want. You can also just book a "well baby" appointment, and ask about the tests you want done at that time. Receptionists really don't know as much as the docs.
 
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