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I am 36 weeks pregnant and I am having a severe depression. Part is because my husband left me, but I am channeling it towards the baby I think. I feel this baby is the cause of all my problems and I don't really love her and feel the bond that I should. I feel everything in my life was good until I got pregnant with her. My husband loved me, I was working full time, I could actually sleep through the night.<br><br>
Now I know I am going to be stuck alone in my house with her, taking care of her alone. My husband has only been gone 3 days, but the problems have been ongoing since I got pregnant. He will leave for a week at a time and come back and ignore me and talk to girls online. I chose to seperate this time for good because I found out he had actually cheated on me.
 

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Yes, you certainly can have PPD before you deliver. Yours sounds like more of a situational thing, but you should seek treatment, anyway. You would benefit from a therapist and possibly, but not definitely, some medication.<br><br>
I hope things look up for you soon.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yes, you certainly can have PPD before you deliver. Yours sounds like more of a situational thing, but you should seek treatment, anyway. You would benefit from a therapist and possibly, but not definitely, some medication.<br><br>
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Please get some help before you're in the midst of healing from the birth, caring for a new baby, and fluctuating hormones. Support (theraputic, medical, social, any or all of these!) is so important!!
 

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I don't have insurance, but it should be approved by next week. I am thinking about going to therapy and my husband is going too to sort out his problems.
 

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I have PPD and it definitely started before I gave birth. One extra bit of information: I felt kinda trapped by the baby and felt really detached from her when she was born, but breastfeeding helped TREMENDOUSLY! It creates a bond that is just unexplainable. If it weren't for that I don't know where I'd be. Hang in there! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s
 

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I plan to breastfeed, so I hope it does create the bond. But right now I have all the nrevousness of being a first time mom and being scared of resenting my baby!
 

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oh sister, how tough! Make duaa, and seek treatment. Honestly, it could be a number of things, extreme stress can wreak havoc on your thyroid and adrenals that could also cause depression. I know this was the case for me, as well as your situation please get help now before the baby is here and it's more difficult to get out of the house while healing from the birth.<br>
Do you have a midwife, family, some sisters you could talk to?<br>
I'll be thinking of you sis and making duaa.<br>
may Allah make things easy on you and give you peace and blessings<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s
 

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I thought I was the only one. My husband hasn't walked out the door but he was not a very nice person during the pregnancy, had an ad on adultfriendfinder and match.com for "research purposes" and told me that b/c of prior issues in our marriage, if I had miscarried he would have left me.<br><br>
(At the time we were having a tiff b/c of ongoing "friendship" he was having with someone online as well).<br><br>
Where can you get help? I don't want to talk to my Dad...flashbacks of all the ugly things he did to me when I was little are starting to come back now that I'm pregnant.<br><br>
Are there specific therapists out there you can talk to?<br><br>
I'm really glad that isra1986 posted her note...
 
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