Originally Posted by katallen
They may think it is AP to spank because Dr. Sears, who came out with the AP books says you can be AP and spank. I don't think they could call themselves gentle though.
Originally Posted by bec
My thoughts on AP are that there is a wide range of the "ideals" that might not work with a particular family. That doesn't eliminate them from following the AP philosophy, either. There are many AP families that don't breastfeed, or aren't able to wear their babies, or don't cosleep.
With that said, I think there are a couple of practices that absolutely are not compatible with AP. Spanking and CIO are the biggest ones, in my mind. And we're talking about deliberately deciding that CIO is the way to go. Or that spanking is the main method of discipline. I say this to distinguish from an other wise AP household that has spanked in a desperate moment of loss of temper, or walked out on a screaming kid to collect themselves. We're all human, and we are none of us perfect.
Generally, I despise the AP checklist. I hate the mommy-wars, and the "I'm more AP than you because..." But, I do not believe it is possible to reconcile spanking within the AP framework.
Originally Posted by thismama
They can call themselves whatever they like but that don't make it true.