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A while back I saw a thread on this board about non-coercive parenting. (Can't find the thread again, it was a long time ago.) Anyway, I've been thinking about it ever since, and I really don't understand it. It doesn't make much sense to me, but I'm thinking that's because I do'nt know much about it. Just as many mainstreamers think that a non-spanking approach is nuts because they don't understand it, you know? So can someone please explain it to me? What does it mean? What do you do if baby HATES diaper changes and refuses to let you change a poopy? Do you just leave it on there? Or what if he refuses to take baths, as many babies do? What if baby is doing something dangerous? Is redirection a part of non-coercive parenting, or no? Does this parenting style continue with older children, and if so, how do you modify it to meet an older child's needs (such as encouraging him to do homework, or brush his teeth, or take a shower, etc.)? What other things can you tell me about it that I'm not thinking of?<br><br>
Please understand, I'm not asking these questions from a judgmental standpoint. I'm asking because I've been thinking about it, and I am just really curious.
 

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If you do a search in "search this forum" (top right corner of the page) with "non-coercive", you'll find many threads discussing this. You asked about many different situations and most have been addressed with much "discussion", not always gentle. So, I don't want to link them here.<br><br>
Personally, our goal isn't "non-coercion", it is mutually agreeable solutions. The focus is on meeting underlying needs of both the parent and child. You can read more about that in the Consensual Living tribe. <a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=493985" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=493985</a><br><br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">If you do a search in "search this forum" (top right corner of the page) with "non-coercive", you'll find many threads discussing this. You asked about many different situations and most have been addressed with much "discussion", not always gentle. So, I don't want to link them here.<br><br>
Personally, our goal isn't "non-coercion", it is mutually agreeable solutions. The focus is on meeting underlying needs of both the parent and child. You can read more about that in the Consensual Living tribe. <a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=493985" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=493985</a><br><br><br>
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Oh. Dur. I didn't realize that you could search for threads. Thanks, I'll do that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Oh. Dur. I didn't realize that you could search for threads. Thanks, I'll do that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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Yes! It is such a resource. If you wonder about <i>baths, carseats, tooth brushing, diaper, safety, manners, bedtimes, sugar, sharing, siblings, hitting, chores, etc</i>. just type those in and you can see individual posts or whole threads related to GD and the specific issue. It is so helpful.<br><br>
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Hmm. Well I've read through some of the threads, and I still do'nt get it. I'll keep reading. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Thanks again for pointing me in the right direction to search for threads, I had no idea you could do that.
 
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