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Hi all! I am new to MDC and was planning on writing with some questions about night time parenting, but after reading the guidelines and some responses, and i am not sure how welcome my questions would be. Please allow me to explain; if there is a more appropriate forum, I'd like to know, but i don't think there is. We started co-sleeping with our baby boy from the day he was born, and I still take him into my bed in the deep of the night. But it's not working for me. I've developed carpal tunnel in both wrists, both arms are numb and elbows sore each morning. My back is also pretty sore. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> This is from the way I sleep next to my little guy. He's restless and I try not to move! So I am having some (other!)dilemmas and would be grateful for some mama experience- but can i post here if we're not trying to co-sleep? If not here, then where? Thanks. Bentijackie
 

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This a co-sleeping advocacy forum. That doesn't mean that people who don't co-sleep aren't welcome here. Co-sleeping doesn't work for every parent or baby. So if you don't co-sleep will probably get recommendation to co-sleep but you disregard what doesn't work for you.<br>
If you <b>practice CIO and want to promote CIO</b> to others on this board, that is not acceptable. I think just about everything else is open for discussion.<br><br>
So here's my 2 cents worth: I don't know how old your DS is but I remember trying to keep still. Gradually as babies get older they can settle back down when you roll over reposition. I used to sleep with DS on my arm and try not to move. Now he sleeps between DH and I and squirms occassionally. I only nurse when he can't settle himself back down.<br>
So theres my co-sleeping plug. Do what you will with it. Feel free to post away.
 

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I agree that it will get better if you give it a little time. My DD is 12 months and I've probably been able to move around in my sleep since she was 7 months or so. I remember the sore elbows and sore hips from trying to stay in one position all night. It will get better! Also, it's very common for new moms to develop carpal tunnel and it almost certainly has nothing to do with co-sleeping. Carpal Tunnel Syndrome is a repetitive stress injury, which means you get it by making a movement over and over and over, not by staying still all night long, kwim? I also had CTS from the time DD was about 2 months until she was about 6 months maybe. It was from picking her up and holding her all the time. As she's gotten more mobile and needed less holding, it has gone away on its own.
 

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thanks for your replies, InochiZo and Richelle- my brain is hazy from lack of sleep but InochiZo you are concise and clear. I get what this forum's for. Richelle- I had CTS before and during my pregnancy; I think it's what i have now, too, and it is definately aggravated by the way I sleep! I am glad to hear yours has gotten better, and i am glad to hear both of you say that you are able to move around more. I am going to sleep tonight more hopeful than the past few because I am trying to have my little guy sleep next to our bed in his co-sleeper, but in the bottom of it, not in the raised position. (The first thing he does, before actually even awaking, is stand up- he's 1 y.o., and he'd surely fall out). So I can keep my hand on him. I hope this works. Thanks again!
 

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I don't know if this is an issue for you or not but I was curious if you could possibly be not moving and not sleeping good because you may possibly have an underlying fear of rolling over on him?<br>
Understandable if so because I did with my first DC and sometimes felt the same way.<br>
I agree with the above it will get better over time, you could also try a side car arrangment if you think he and you need more room (take one side of his crib and slide it next to your bed) that way he can fall asleep next to you and then you can slide him over.<br>
Don't know if any of that advice helps or not. I just want to say tha CS'ing can be a wonderful thing but it is a growing process as with all aspects of parenting! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I too had cts during pregnancy and pp. It has gotten much better! (DS is 6.5 months.) I like to feed DS and then when he's done, I move myself lower on the bed so my head it even with his head. I feel safer this way because if the covers get too high (over his head) they will be over my head too. Also, I don't worry about rolling on him or feel as nervous b/c we are head to head. That might help you cosleep with fewer worries.
 
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