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Hi everyone,<br>
I am just wondering if you can share your nightweaning experience. What age was your dc, what did you do, how long did it take, how did your dc respond, etc. I am seriously considering nightweaning my 16 month old dd. I have tried in the past and usually it worked, she started sleeping 7-8 hours stretches. But I noticed that she was very clingy in the days following and I felt that she wasn't ready. Plus, she got a few ear infections and I just went back to nursing her through the night. I think, looking back, that the clinginess was due to the ear infections. My dd is a lovely, independent, full of life kind of child. I would never want to break her spirit, even if it means nursing her all night.<br>
For the most part, she has only woken up 2-3 times during our co-sleeping experience. But we are moving in a month and my dh has already left, been gone for a month, because he had to start a new job. With just me taking care of her I just don't feel rested enough. I want to be able to have the energy to do more with her during the day.<br>
I also feel that she is somewhat ready. Whenever she nurses, she always rolls back over and falls asleep on her own. I think she is just waking and looking to nurse out of habit. I am thinking about starting this tonight. I plan on just rocking her when she wakes up. Last time I just kind of pretended I was sleeping and she did go back to sleep after a few minutes but I kind of feel like I was being mean by ignoring her.<br>
So, I would love to hear everyone elses experiences. Even the negetive ones. I also don't plan on continueing with this if my dd seems at all different during the day!<br>
Thanks!<br>
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HI-<br>
It sounds like it is a prime time to night wean. My DD is 16mo and we started but then the dreaded molars came. Back to square nothing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br>
I wanted to let you know there is a very supportive Mama-led Weaning forum over in Breastfeeding and Beyond. You will find good suggestions and support if you visit.<br>
Best of luck...with the move too!
 

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I tried to night-wean my DS when he was 2 and he would have nothing to do with it! He wouldn't accept any substitutes (water, juice), he wouldn't wait "until the sun comes up," etc. So I put the night-weaning on hold for a while. He was more receptive when he was closer to 3. But that's not to say that other toddlers wouldn't be ready and willing at 2. My DS just wasn't.
 

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It helped a lot for the kids to be verbally understanding things like "in the morning," or "when the sun comes up." We offered actual snacks as well as drinks through the night. We sometimes had to walk them, rock them, etc. Personally, for me it's not worth the effort unless I'm totally unable to sleep through any nursing at all (like when pregnant).<br><br>
both my big boys were most receptive after 2.5. Night-weaning was much much more tiring than continuing nursing, for at least a week. Of course, then it was better. My now-15mo is totally not ready, I think.<br><br>
It might be a mistake to night wean before a big life change (moving). You might very well have to do it all over after you move. I'd be amazed, to be honest, if the night-weaning stuck in a new house. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
As much as I'd hate to move while exhausted, my personal choice would be to hold off until after the move AND after my baby was adjusted to the new house, and then try (several more months at least).
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">It helped a lot for the kids to be verbally understanding things like "in the morning," or "when the sun comes up." We offered actual snacks as well as drinks through the night. We sometimes had to walk them, rock them, etc. Personally, for me it's not worth the effort unless I'm totally unable to sleep through any nursing at all (like when pregnant).<br><br>
both my big boys were most receptive after 2.5. Night-weaning was much much more tiring than continuing nursing, for at least a week. Of course, then it was better. My now-15mo is totally not ready, I think.<br><br>
It might be a mistake to night wean before a big life change (moving). You might very well have to do it all over after you move. I'd be amazed, to be honest, if the night-weaning stuck in a new house. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
As much as I'd hate to move while exhausted, my personal choice would be to hold off until after the move AND after my baby was adjusted to the new house, and then try (several more months at least).</div>
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Yeah, I was thinking this as well. I am just worried because it really seems like my dd is not rested anymore during the day. I know how important sleep is for children and I really don't want to see her so tired. For a while she was down to one nap but now she seems so tired in the morning and she needs two naps again. I just want her to be rested. I mean, she goes to bed around 7 every night and we have a very consistant routine and bedtime, but lately she just doesn't seem well rested in the morning. This is what is concerning me the most.<br>
But I do agree that with the move coming, it may not be the best time. I am just so confused!<br>
Thanks!
 

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well, you're smart to consider her sleep needs, and to think twice about big changes when there's a move happening. IMO :)<br><br>
My toddler who's nearly the same age often wakes up too early in the morning and right away poops! Then an hour later he's asleep. I think he just has to get up to make that poop. who knows....<br><br>
Did you see the thread about how many naps toddlers are taking? I can't believe how many 14-16mo babies are down to one nap! Mine could make it till 12-1 to nap, but he sure does better with two shorter naps.<br><br>
good luck!
 

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Thanks for the advice. I really gave it some thought and decided against it at this time. My dd is back to her normal, rested, self. She actually was experiencing an allergic reaction to an insect bite and I think that is why she was having such a hard time sleeping, and being so tired (both her and I ) was what made me consider night-weaning. But, all is back to normal and her and I are not ready. Every morning she climbs up onto me and plants a HUGE kiss right on my lips and says "hi momma". It's almost like she is thanking me for being there with her all night and meeting this need she still has.<br>
As long as she is well rested, then I won't make any changes.<br>
Thanks!<br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">her and I are not ready. Every morning she climbs up onto me and plants a HUGE kiss right on my lips and says "hi momma". It's almost like she is thanking me for being there with her all night and meeting this need she still has.</div>
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I nightweaned DS in February/March. He was going on 2. All attempts prior to that were fruitless. But I got pregnant in late January, and was having a lot of nipple pain, so I think I was really motivated to make it happen this time.<br><br>
There was some fussing at night at first, but I snuggled him, held him, sang to him etc. I knew in advance that I would not be sleeping much. He had not slept through the night up to that point, and I was really ready for some rest. He usually sleeps through now, but of course now I'm 20 weeks pg, so I'm not sleeping through!<br><br>
Oh, and DS and I both had bad colds in April, so I allowed him to night nurse again during that period. If he really needed the comforting, I would not deny him that in the middle of the night.
 
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