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I'm a perpetual worrier. If the baby isn't moving, I worry that something is wrong. If the baby is moving, she's moving so much that I get worried she'll get tangled up in the cord or tie a knot in it. I wish I could just relax!<br>
Anybody else like this?
 

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Yes, I wish I could say it's better once they're out, but it's a new kind of worry. You do mellow out a bit after awhile, I've been told by my midwife I'm very laidback, but when I first had dd, I was so hypervigilant about EVERYTHING. It gets better, but I think you have to get into this zen mama groove before it does. Some women take to motherhood like a fish to water, they're very calm and relaxed about everything, but I wasn't like that.
 

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Worry is the work of pregnancy...and motherhood.<br><br>
I worry all of the time. It has become second nature to me so it doesn't bother me as much, but I still worry ALL of the time. I try to remember that I only have so much control of things.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Yup, I do the same thing, Casey.<br><br>
I'm much better this time than last pg, but I think it's par for the course. Someone on here reminded me that worrying about it can't change the outcome, so I try to keep that in mind. And have faith. It's hard though!
 

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Thanks, everyone! Sometimes I just wish she could be born already, so I could just hold her and watch her breathe. But then I realize it's really ridiculous to think I'm going to stop worrying once she's born. I'll be worrying about every cough, every little bump, if she's gaining enough weight, if she's getting enough milk... the list goes on. I hope I'll be able to find that easygoing mama groove with time.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Thanks, everyone! Sometimes I just wish she could be born already, so I could just hold her and watch her breathe. But then I realize it's really ridiculous to think I'm going to stop worrying once she's born. I'll be worrying about every cough, every little bump, if she's gaining enough weight, if she's getting enough milk... the list goes on. I hope I'll be able to find that easygoing mama groove with time.</div>
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Yup, you will. My dd is three years old, and I still check to make sure she is breathing at night sometimes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: (for that matter, I am almost 39, and my mom still worries about me...)<br><br>
I did relax a LOT when she hit the one year mark, though, and it gets easier as they get older because they can walk and talk and tell you when something is wrong or when they are hungry or thirsty, etc.<br><br>
But even though this is my second pg, I still worry about things going wrong. I think it is just normal, when you love someone as much as we love our little babies, that you want nothing to happen to them, and worry is born. As Suz said, though, worrying really doesn't change anything, and is only a drain on our already limited energy. My therapist advised just distracting myself when it gets too bad - she said that constant reassurance only loops back around to worry again. It is counterintuitive, but it really does work.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm a perpetual worrier. If the baby isn't moving, I worry that something is wrong. If the baby is moving, she's moving so much that I get worried she'll get tangled up in the cord or tie a knot in it. I wish I could just relax!<br>
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Hi Casey....I am not in your DDC but, you couldn't have summed up how I am feeling better. Worry is exhausting isn't it...I just wish I could relax and go with the flow like everyone else.<br><br>
I am so anxious to meet my little one. I know you are too. If it helps PM me and maybe we can calm each other....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I definitely have periods of worrying about everything I do. My husband always says, "It's fine, it's going to be fine" which alternates between comfortaing and annoying. Sometimes it helps me to think about how millions of babies are born fine without their mothers taking the precautions that I am trying to take. Of course, then I think, I'm probably the 1 in 100,00 that "it" will happen to! It's much too easy to obsess! Like you, I can't wait to see if the baby is okay!
 
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