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Any ideas? My 15 month old dd goes to sleep easily at bedtime, even comes up to me and does the "sleepies" and nurse signs with her hands, nurses to sleep in the rocker, I put her in her crib in our room(until I bring her into bed with us for the night when it is time for us to go to sleep). But in the last couple of weeks she has started to wake up crying after an hour or so. One of us goes and picks her up, rocks her(I nurse her) and she goes back to sleep UNTIL we try to put her back in her crib. Then she wakes up and cries until we do the whole thing again. so my entire evening is often spent trying to get her to stay asleep and my dh is starting to question my no cry ideas and feels maybe we are doing something wrong. I am not sure myself. I am AP all the way and we cosleep but I need her in the crib until I am there, for safety. I read No cry sleep solution, doesnt seem to address the kid who will not let you put them down! I am sure this has been addressed a ton on this board, but I am new, hope someone has an idea or two!
 

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Does she sleep well once she's asleep in your bed? I'm trying to narrow down the isssue . . .
 

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she sleeps pretty well once she is in bed with me, she does wake up during the night but I just nurse a little and she goes back out. So it is mainly from the first time she wakes up until i go to bed for the night that is the issue... so here is our night..<br>
7:30-8 or so... nurse, rock, lay her down in crib. She is asleep.<br>
9 or so-she wakes crying, we rock, nurse etc for a half hour or so, until she is really out again. She falls asleep. We lay her in her crib very, very gently. She wakes crying. We do this over and over until I am ready to go to bed, and i take her into bed and nurse her to sleep and stay there with her.<br><br>
I am pretty patient, but as I said, my husband is starting to say maybe we are doing something wrong. We haven't spent any time together in the evening in weeks as all we do is try to get her back to sleep.<br><br>
Hope that clarifies it,let me know if it does not! Thank you!
 

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Your evening sounds a lot like what ours was like. This is what worked for us at that age . . .didn't solve everything but it did improve things.<br><br>
My DH started putting DD to bed. I'd nurse her, but she wouldn't fall asleep. Then he'd give her a bath and read to her. My DH is EXTREMELY patient (more than I am) though so I think that helped a lot. He did rock her to sleep, but I started putting her to sleep awake. It took a leap of faith to do this, but over time (w/o crying) it did work. So, you might try that . . . a routine with DH and/or putting her to sleep awake (this one is much harder and may have to be when she's older).
 

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My dd was much younger when she stopped being able to be put down. Is it possible to baby proof your room and put the crib mattress in there and have her lay down and go to sleep so you don't have to put her down, she's already down? Or, like the pp mentioned, having your husband put her to sleep.<br><br>
And, if your dh starts saying you need to let dd cry, you can talk to him about how he'd feel if you left him to cry alone in a room. What would happen to your relationship w/ him if you routinely began to ignore his communication w/ you?<br><br>
Are there other ways the two of you can spend time together? Have any family or friends who can give you some alone time. Have any friends who have similar parenting philosophies you could swap baby sitting with?<br><br>
GOod luck. I know how hard it is to have a child who fights sleep and a dh who's less than confident in doing what you think is best. BTDT.<br><br>
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we are having the same problem...DH is getting kind of tired of the routine..and quite frankly some nights I am too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Hopefully this is just a stage and she'll be back in her normal routine soon! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
(Jesse, sahm to 3 babies (DD5,DS3 and DS10mos. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave">)
 
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