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This is the stupidest thing ever, but I just can't seem to keep from crying over it anyway. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br><br>
I am part of a sewing group that meets once a month. Last month someone mentioned something about making baby booties and was quickly shushed and told that was a secret. Well, I ended up thinking it must be a secret surprise for me, since I'm pg, and I thought they might do something for me at this meeting.<br><br>
They didn't. And I feel disappointed and stupid. I know I'm hormonal and sensitive and that it's really no big deal, but it just really hurt my feelings. And I went into this saying that I was probably just setting myself up! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"><br><br>
But, I did win the door prize and it was some beautiful and very expensive lace that I don't have any idea what I'm going to do with. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: So I should be happier than I am.<br><br>
Our Christmas party is Dec 11 and I'm thinking I'm not going to make it...the 11th is one of my "due" dates (11th, 13th, and 14th...u/s, my date, date on my record) and the location is an hour away from my home.<br><br>
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Aaaw! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">: I totally get it. I cry at any little thing. I wish someone was doing something for me this time around. My family figures as long as you have stuff from the first, who cares. Wish someone would think enough to celebrate this journey with me. *expletive* Now I'm crying again.
 

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My sister says it's the prerogative of a pregnant woman to cry whenever she damn well feels like it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br>
One time in the first trimester I was walking down the street bawling because I thought someone had made a rude comment about my puppy.
 

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Oh I'm sorry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> It sucks to be disappointed. Don't feel stupid for being upset over it.
 

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Thanks everyone. I feel better this morning. But this was literally an hour of crying...I cried all the way home from the meeting! I'm just glad the tears didn't start flowing until I got in the van. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blush.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blush"><br><br>
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I'm glad you are feeling better. If i makes you feel better, I cry over stuff like that too.
 

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I cried in a restaurant because they didn't have a Greek salad wrap so I totally understand.
 

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i haven't cried about it, but I really am annoyed that there's another lady in our HS group who is due the same day as me- and she's getting a shower and I'm not. This is my 6th child, this is her 7th or 8th child- and last time we were pregnant together, the same thing happened.<br><br>
ALSO- there's another lady who NO ONE LIKES. She's gossipy, rude, materialistic, her kids are annoying and she never has anything nice to say about anyone, EVER. She volunteers to do something for the group and cancels at the last minute, leaving everyone else to pick up her slack. She's only 4 mos pregnant, and she's moving out of state. They had a "surprise" going away party & shower for her last night. HECK NO I didn't go. I don't even like the lady, why am I going to buy a gift for her to take all the way across the country with her snooty self? I'd rather buy something for my own baby and spend the evening with my kids. Most people I know were going simply because they were glad to see her go.
 

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Isn't it the worst to be disappointed like that! Don't apologize at all--it's perfectly normal to have those feelings, and I'm sorry they didn't do anything for you.<br><br>
If it helps any (this story helps me when I can't stop crying over one thing or another) I once had a girlfriend who told me that when she was pregnant she burst into sobs at a grocery store over a head of cabbage. She was tired and didn't feel well, and had her in-laws coming over for dinner with the menu planned, and that morning while approaching the cabbage display in the grocery store another woman grabbed the last one right in front of her. She said she lost it right there. The store manager even had to come out to see if he could console her and see what was going on. She said she just stood there and wailed for a good 15 minutes while people stared before she could even bring herself together enough to head out to the car. So see, we pregnant women cry about lots of things, and that's our prerogative!
 

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Kristyn, your story made me think of one my mom has always told about her best friend. She was due with her first and got pulled over by a cop for speeding. He wrote her a ticket and she burst into tears. He went back to his car, but she still sat in her car on the side of the road just sobbing. He walked back after a few minutes and said, "Lady, if it's going to upset you that much just give me the ticket back and I'll tear it up" And he did!<br><br>
It was such a combination of things last night. The main thing, though, is that I have a hard time ever feeling like I belong to a group (it didn't help that I chose a place to sit last night only to have both ppl who were sitting there pick up their things and move leaving me by myself...I did move to another table and the ladies there were warm and welcoming, but no one *wanted* to sit with me, YK?) and I just kinda felt left out and unimportant. And then compound that with the guilt of feeling like I was being selfish for wanting them to honor me and the pregnancy (and geesh, you should see the things these ladies sew! I was hoping for a little bonnet or booties or something! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent">)<br><br>
When I was pg with my first, I was teaching and pg with 2 other teachers. They left at the end of the year and a shower was held for them just before school was out (we were all due in the fall). I was planning on going back, but had the tachycardia issues I'm famous for and only made the first day of pro dev before the kids came before I had to bow out. They didn't do a shower for me at all. It hurt my feelings and it was so weird, b/c I didn't *need* a thing and really couldn't have used anything else (I had 2 showers through church and family) but I felt left out and looked over anyway.<br><br>
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Oh, yeah, and I almost started crying last week when the auto mechanic told me I couldn't get my car inspected until I got my address updated with the insurance company. I have no idea why, I guess just the frustration, but my eyes were filling up with tears. The poor guy was really, really, really sweet and apologetic and I think he could tell he was dealing with a hormonal pregnant woman. I could just see him frantically praying that I wouldn't go postal on him. In retrospect, it's actually really funny.<br>
Oh, and it took a 30-second phone call to get the address updated. So totally not a big deal.
 

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i cried two days ago because we were out of bread.<br><br>
i had just made tofu "egg" salad and was really looking forward to a sandwich, and then i opened the fridge and there was no bread and my honey was happily eating his veggie burger on the couch between two slices of toast.<br><br>
so i started crying. and then he felt so bad that went to the grocery store and bought me bread, pickles, chips, and a root beer to eat with my sandwich. and then i cried again because i was so ashamed of crying the first time and THEN tears of happiness because i don't deserve him.<br><br>
we are hormonal nightmares! you are entitled to some irrational tears.
 

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I cried Sunday at a Thanksgiving meal with friends because the person next to me started passing the stuffing while I was up getting something and I was certain that there would be no stuffing left for me by the time it got all the way back around the table to me. Of course, there was plenty of stuffing for me, I even ended up having seconds <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">so i started crying. and then he felt so bad that went to the grocery store and bought me bread, pickles, chips, and a root beer to eat with my sandwich. and then i cried again because i was so ashamed of crying the first time and THEN tears of happiness because i don't deserve him.</div>
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Oh man. I have been in that EXACT situation.
 

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I've cried so many times this pregnancy over stupid stuff, like when my husband got the wrong pickles at the store. The most recent time was on Sunday at my "Blessings baby shower" they played a song and I could not stop crying. I felt so silly <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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I cry all the time! It is especially when I am tired so it is usually in the evenings with DH. He isn't usually doing anything wrong, I am just very sensitive about things.
 

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That's priceless. That's the kind of thing we just have to start laughing about as quickly as possible. It's the only way to stay sane in the third tri.
 

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Tears are pricking my eyes right now because I just ate a chocolatey Luna bar and a chocolatey biscotti and I'm still hungry and all I want is chocolate, and I'll never be satisfied. Because everything chocolate I could possibly eat will eventually just get into my belly and then I won't be eating it anymore. And now I want to cry because there is no neverending chocolate bar in my life. And I think I might. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 

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it's funny how many of these are food-related. i cried a lot about food with my first pregnancy toward the end, especially.
 

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I've been crying, too. I would have been disappointed by that, too. I wish I could sew -- I'd make you some booties or a bonnet and send them your way.<br><br>
I bawled my head off all day yesterday, too. It started when I went to get my allergy shot & they wouldn't let me because I got there a minute bit too late. (They were still doing shots but if I'd had a reaction a doctor wouldn't have bene able to help me.) I'd struggled to pack two 2-year olds into the car who were exercising their rights as 2-year olds to be completely combative to any request I made. Seriously, they would have refused big bowls of ice cream just to be contrary.<br><br>
And the day went from there . . .
 
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