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my son hateeeeessssss his car seat..hates it. he screams and cries the whole time he is in it except when he sleeps. it really tears my heart out because it is the only place where i can't immediatly pick him up when he cries....so it almost feels like crying it out...hes all alone in the backseat, crying and noone is helping him...any advice?
 

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Either sit in back with him if someone else drives, or just plan not to go many places for awhile. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> Sometimes listening to music can help, or singing. Most babies will outgrow the screaming phase in the car.<br><br>
<-- mom to 3 children who all HATED the car as infants. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> mama, I know exactly what you mean. My 3mo does the exact same thing. It always makes me feel horrible. I think she is just starting to grow out of it, but when she does cry I find it unbearable. Many a car trip has been spent with her crying in the backseat, and me crying in the front. If I can stop to calm her down I do, but sometimes after stopping twice, checking her diaper, feeding her and cuddling her, the best thing I can do is get her home as quick as possible which may mean letting her cry. It does feel like CIO, but sometimes it can't be helped. When I get home I just make sure to cuddle and love her as much as I can. And of course when DH and I go somewhere together I always sit in the backseat with the babe, which seems to help. Good luck and lets just pray they grow out of it soon.
 

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Is he still in an infant seat? dd was MUCH happier once we moved her to a convertible seat. She wanted to sit up more.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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My ds used to cry and scream through every car ride, it's starting to subside now at 5 mo. He is usually okay now, unless he's already in a bad mood or the sun is shining on him. I started playing soothing classical music and nursing him in the backseat before every trip and it seemed to help. I do think that most of the reason that things are better is because he is growing out of the hatred he had for the car, though. I can finally make it to playgroup more because I'm not afraid of driving with him (Yippee!).
 

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This started getting better for us around 4 months. We switched to a convertible seat, I started listening to books on tape instead of music, we got a sunshade, and we got a lightup toy that plays music.<br><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FKids-II-Einstein-Music-Mirror%2Fdp%2FB000A40WC2%2Fref%3Dsr_1_3%2F002-1964285-9331205%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbaby-products%26qid%3D1177982244%26sr%3D8-3" target="_blank">http://www.amazon.com/Kids-II-Einste...7982244&sr=8-3</a><br><br>
Now, at 8 months, he is still fond of the books on tape. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> He screams bloody murder if we try to play more than one song. And he still likes his caterpillar. But, he's much happier in the car these days.
 

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oh, it's so hard, isn't it?<br>
we're in the same boat here at 8 months--and maybe even getting worse lately <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br>
convertible seat did nothing to help us.<br>
just try to limit your trips as much as possible and sit in the back if someone else can drive.
 

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ds2 hated his infant seat, but as soon as we switched him to the marathon rear facing at 2 months old, he was infinitely happier. His infant seat was very narrow (peg perego) and his poor chubby body was really cramped, but in the marathon he had a lot more room to be comfortable and started really enjoying car rides.
 

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my first didn't like the carseat. my second HATED the carseat. i just tried to limit my trips as much as possible when he was a baby. if he was really sleepy, he would go to sleep in the car, so i tried to wait until he was about to fall asleep to go anywhere. things got better around 18 months and now at 2 he doesn't mind the carseat at all, even on long trips. and i got lucky the third time around, my 6 month old actually *likes* the car.
 

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Both my DD's have hated the carseat, we just limit car rides. Hang in there.
 

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DD is 8 mo and we have been going through this. On weekends, dh drives and I sit in the back. If she starts to fuss, I lean over and offer her my breast. If I have to drive with dd alone, I walk around the neighborhood with dd in the sling until she falls asleep, then I put her in the carseat. It takes a lot of patience to get her back in the car to go home. I pretty much need to stay out for a few hours to wear her down enough to fall asleep again. This means no quick trips to the store; every car ride means a full day out. I almost never left the house this past winter. I have looked for solutions, but nothing else works - no toys or songs can soothe her. I'm trying to use public transport for fun outings, but it is not practical for shopping.
 

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it'll get better in about 18 months <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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Oh, I forgot to add....<br><br>
For us, when my son could see me, that made things infinitely worse. So, if we were going anywhere, I drove (his seat is directly behind mine; we have no center seat in the back), and he couldn't see me. If my dh sits in the backseat, he is fine, but when he sees me, he wants OUT yesterday. When we're out and about, we nurse in the seat next to his carseat, so I think that is what is associated with that seat. It makes him crazy to see me in the nursing seat, while he has to be locked up in his carseat. YMMV.
 

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Well, our DS got better about it sometime around age 2 <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">. Seriously. What worked, even when he was small, was a cd of annoying kids singing songs (he would seriously stop crying when they started, then cry during the pause between songs). The best of all was the DVD player. Yeah, I know, but if Baby Einstein allowed me to leave the house, then so be it!! It got mildly better when he was ffing, but knowing what I know now, I would have just left him rfing longer. It wasn't the cure-all (he was one year and 25lbs...I didn't turn him "early"). He also liked it if I drove with one hand and touched the top of his head (his seat was rfing in the middle).
 

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mine too! She would cry til she lost her breath and would turn blue! needless to say there weren't too many places that were that important the first three months. IT DOES GET BETTER!!! I just made sure her arms were able to get to her mouth (that starts about 3 mo) and I got a mirror. I and she loved it and she didn't feel so alone. Also when you dc gets a little better, ds will cry a little before going to sleep in the car- but it is a different cry and you won't be all worried. Hang in there!<br><br>
oh, I forgot- I use to put my dd in the seat while we were home- when she was happy, and would keep her in for a while so that she would become accustomed to it. Also doing little drives around the neighborhood is good to teach them that rides aren't forever and that way you can get home quickly if need be.
 
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