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Since my ds was born 3 months ago, I have tried and tried to get him to go into a carrier. I've tried pouches, the Bjorn, and now the Moby. The result is always the same-fussing, crying, tears. Sometimes he will be content for 5-10 minutes, then he realizes something like, "oops, I'm supposed to hate these things," and he starts fussing or crying. I make sure he's not uncomfortable, his little limbs are all right, he has a clean diaper, he's not hungry, etc., but nothing helps. It's very diffifult to go out of the house and do anything with just the two of us unless he is fast asleep. That's the only time he'll stay in a carrier for any length of time. Thank goodness that my dh carries him everywhere when all three of us go out. I have a stroller, but I can't use it until he has good head control. I really want to be able to carry my baby everywhere, but for my baby, I have to physically hold him, and I can't do that all day long. I recently decided that he would HAVE to go in it at some points throughout the day, like when he doesn't want to be put down, but I have stuff to do, like make food or do laundry. He'd just have to fuss during those times. But I did that today while making dinner, and he screamed, got red-faced, and had tears. I took him out, held him in the same way the carrier was holding him, and he fell asleep. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">:<br>
There go my pregnancy visions of having a baby on me all the time <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br>
Should I just throw in the towel and use a stroller when out, and learn to do everything at home either around his moods or while he's in my arms? Or is ther any advice for how to get this baby loving the carrier?
 

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MAybe he doesn't feel secure enough in the carrier? I know when dd was little she swam in the pouches so she didn't like it. The bjorn puts pressur on the hips so maybe that was uncomfortable. The moby seems like the best bet if that is the case. Have you tried different carries. Maybe he wants to face out instead of in or vice versa. How does your dh carry him. Maybe if you could mimick the carry he uses he would like it better. Don't through in the towel yet There are still so many possibilities.
 

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I know exactly what you're going through! We went through the same thing until DD was about 5 months and started enjoying the hip carry position. Changed my life!
 

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Slightly offtopic:<br>
I automatically carry older babies facing outward (not in a carrier yet, anyone want to let me pratice?? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> ), apparently that's the only way I liked to be carried when I was a baby. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I can so totally relate! My 10 week old just really doesn't want to be in the sling. He will sit in sometimes for his dad, but for me, forget it. He wants to nurse, but is uncomfortable. He doesn't like to be all squished up while nursing.<br><br>
You are right, it is difficult to go out and do anything. I have always relied on my sling and nursed in them, so now I feel "naked" carrying around a nursing baby who is not discreet at all! He doesn't like the shirt touching him or stuff around his head.<br><br>
Plus he is a car-screamer! He is usually a very content happy baby at home, so I have been spending alot more time there! Since I have 4 other kids that need to go places, my husband and I have been tag-teaming, so at least I am getting out of the house every day, a necessity for my own sanity.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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Success! I tried turning ds around in the moby wrap today, facing forward, and he loves it. I wasn't going to put him in like that for another month, since I thought that 4 months was the earliest I should do that, but he has good head control and isn't wobbly in it at all. Plus, the shoulder pieces provide support, too. I was able to tidy up the house today and do more than sit in the rocking chair. I am really looking forward to being able to run errands without fearing my baby may have a meltdown at any moment. It's a pain to have to zoom through everything at top speed. I guess some babies just don't like being scrunched up, and don't feel happy and secure, like they are SUPPOSED to feel. Haha, babies...
 
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