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We're having issues with our case worker....primarily, she does not want to send our homestudy when we inquire about children. We have found several children that met our criteria. We have asked if she could fax over our home study to the other caseworkers, who were expecting it. 2 weeks later and she has sent none. In talking to her, she has tried to discourage us against certain children(in other states). It seems she has an agenda of some sort, though I'm not sure exactly what. She is also pushing us to get liscensed for foster care. Have any of you encountered something like this? Also, how long would you give this worker before switching to another agency?
 

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Does she know that you know that she's not sent in the paperwork when requested?<br><br>
Have you talked to her directly about it?<br><br>
It is part of the social worker's job to discourage prospective adoptive parents from kids that likely won't be a good fit, so if I were turned down a few times, I would not take it too personally so long as it was explained why s/he thought our home was not what the child needed. And in talking about it, maybe there was a communication mishap that needs to be corrected (in that she thinks your requirements are more stringent than they are, perhaps?)<br><br>
What reasons does she give for discouragement? What does she say about dropping the ball on sending the homestudy? I would try to get information about that first, before you move on to the next worker--because if there *are* genuine matching issues, switching workers won't really help much. If she's just delaying because of carelessness/can't give a reason, then you might find more attention from a less stretched worker. Depending on your area you may not have much in the way of choices though.
 

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Thank you for your response, Tigerchild. She told us numerous times she would be sending in our homestudy and upon receiving emails from the children's case workers, I learned she still had not. My husband talked to her after I did and she acted like she was hearing about sending in the home study for the first time. We are pretty clear on factors we will/will not accept(ie: no physical issues or sexual abuse). Emotional and learning delays we are open to. The children we are persuing inquiries on fit our criteria. I have also received further information from their case worker, ensuring it is a good fit. Being that I've never done this before, I'm not sure if I'm expecting too much from our case worker or not. I've been told to maintain at least once or twice a week contact and I've not gone over that. This week we only contacted her the one time. I know it takes quick acting when you find a child and in order to do that, I need a caseworker who is willing to do her part....
 

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I think it's well within reasonable expectations that a SW would send in a homestudy when she said she would. :/ That sounds like a burning out and/or overloaded person to me. I could see forgetting once, I mean, mistakes do happen...but more than that, or on a regular basis, and that tells me that there's something going on. It's probably not personal.<br><br>
Can you talk to her supervisor? Maybe you can get placed with a different worker at the same agency. You could always explain that your requests to send out homestudies are not being followed through on (be sure to have the dates where this occured). It's something the supervisor should know about too. If she's burning out or can't handle the caseload, you're probably not the only one that it's happening to.<br><br>
If there's no supervisor or no one to go "up the chain" to, do you know if your homstudy is "portable"? If you go to a new agency, then you might have to get another one, especially if this person neglects to send it to the new agency too. :/ I know that there's varying degrees of portability though. I would find that out first and weigh that against giving it a little more time or potentially having to go get a new one with a new agency. It may be more efficient to call it and start over (and hopefully walk with your homestudy!), or it might be better to try and switch workers within an agency or set a time limit for improvement so that at least you are seeing some light at the end of the tunnel, KWIM?
 

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This happened to me, ALOT, with my first agency. My adoption worker was very nice, promptly returned emails, but never sent my homestudy out. I did alot of my own networking/inquiring, and inquired on TONS of kids (many out of state)..i would catch the worker in lies, for example, i would inquire on kids in Oregon which requires "worker to worker" contact only. I'd send the inquiry and never hear back, so i'd send an email to the website, and they would say they sent a bulletin/info to my worker. I'd ask my worker, she'd say "i never got it", i'd go back to the website person, they would say they couldnt talk to me, to talk to my worker, the info was sent. The worker would deny she got anything.<br><br>
Then, when inquiring on kids in my own state, she would say "i talked to the worker, the child is already matched" but the child would stay on the listing for months so clearly they werent matched (in my state kids are usually removed pretty soon after a potential match is identified.) Or she would say that the child's issues were more than i said i wanted to handle, but in discussing more, i would find out that wasnt true (i had VERY broad criteria) she was just making assumptions about what i would accept without even asking me. I found out that most adoptable kids in my state were adopted by their foster parents, so i asked to be foster licensed, but she basically refused that. She told me that there "were no kids under age 10 to foster or adopt" because obviously no kids under ten are abused or neglected right? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> And this new info was in direct contradiction to what i was told in training and during the homestudy process (which was that it wasnt outrageous to expect a placement of a child between, say, 5yrs and 10 yrs ols.)<br><br>
The last straw came when i inquired on a 9 yr old African American boy listed on AdoptUskids, but who was in my home state. The child's worker called me, said she spoke with my adoption worker, but she was curious as to why i inquired on him because "your worker said you really just wanted a Caucasian child...." oh.my.god! seriously!?! It was such a lie, in fact it was stated in my homestudy (which my worker did not write, a contract worker wrote it) that i was open as to the race of the child. My worker denied she said that. But it was clear to me that she did not think a black child should be placed with me, and that perhaps she did not approve of our "lifestyle" (somewhat crunchy, non vaxing, HSing single mom out in the suburbs)<br><br>
So at that point, i switched agencies and while i've had my issues with this current agency i received my son shortly after getting foster licensed and adopted him within the year so i dont have too many complaints.<br><br>
I would be very frank with your worker, ask point blank questions and perhaps ask her "when will you send the homestudy out?" (specific day) and if she does not follow through, call her supervisor. If that doesnt work, i would absolutely consider switching agencies.<br><br>
Are you able to send out your own homestudy? I had a little more luck doing that, at least i could get the ball rolling before having to involve my worker.
 

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I'm going to inquire whether we can start sending out our own homestudy. My fear is, if we get on her bad side, she is going to work with us even less. She started out wonderfully. We thought we clicked. She loved our family, told us she was willing to work as long as we did our part, etc...I've been contaced by 2 case workers today, asking if she had sent out our homestudy, as they never received it<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 
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