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Today at Wal-Mart I was breastfeeding my daughter. I was wearing her in my babyhawk with a blanket on the side that I am feeding her from so you can't tell I am nursing unless you just look out for stuff like that. Anyways the cashier was talking to me about slings b/c babywearing is always a topic of conversation here in smalltown Texas. The conversation was pretty friendly and whatnot. My 11 mo old dd popped her head up and I asked,"are you done eating?" and the cashier says,"Oh? You are breastfeeding her in that?" I said yes, It's very easy and convienent to feed her in the mei-tai. She then goes on to tell me,"That's good you do it in that thing. The other day a Mexican woman was in here was in here with her baby and she wipped her boob out and did it right in front of everyone!" I was like, so? She was feeding her baby what's the big deal??? She goes on to say that management was in an uproar bc this is a "family store" and "what if children saw" I was like WTH?!?!? It is natural and good for the baby. Maybe more women would breastfeed if ppl didn't freak out about it. She made a comment on how they should have rooms for "that". I said what??? Every breastfeeding mom needs to be isolated from society to feed her child? Breasts are for breastfeeding it's society that has the problem! She kept giving lame excuses to defend herself and I kept repeating"I do not agree with you" about 5 times. We paid for our stuff (yes I should've returned it but I was running late and needed to get home with my stuff for dinner). And when we were leaving the cashier was obviously talking crap about the situation to the lady (who was eavesdropping) behind us in line.<br><br>
I tried to call the manager to complain but he won't be in until tomorrow. The employees need to be informed that NIP is protected under Texas state law and they should not even comment on it if they are going to be negative. ESP to a breastfeeding mom! I feel sorry for the poor Hispanic lady that the cashier was talking about. She probably got a million evil glares from the employees. I just hope she's still nursing her baby wherever she is.<br><br>
Any suggestions on what to say to him that might make a difference?
 

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That cashier and my neighbor should get together. (he got angry at me for nursing in my backyard!)<br><br>
I would definitely call or write or both. I mean, their cashier was talking about discrimination of customers; hopefully the managment will take that seriously!
 

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"It's a familystore"?!?<br>
If it's a familystore, why is it not okay to feed a hungry baby in there? I don't get it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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Wal-mart is my favorite place to NIP. I go to the front of the store where the registers are sit on a bench and proudly BF my 21 mth old DD.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
I double dog dare someone to say something negative to me.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nono.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nono">
 

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Yeap, the walmrts by me have benchs like every 2-3 food isles. It never fails that DS needs to nurse and when the cart is too full to nurse him in the sling and push the cart; then I park at the benches and nurse. It's always good for a few curious glances, but so far no one has said anything.<br><br>
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I would tell the manager that while she DOES have a right to her opinion (stupid and uninformed though it may be), as a customer, you resent being "preached" to, especially when she knows you are also a breastfeeding mother.<br><br>
I wouldn't get into too much education about the laws or benefits of BF, I would concentrate on the rudness of a cashier trying to push her personal opinions on you, after you made it clear that you didn't wish to discuss it, or disagreed with her stance. That sets the two of you up as advesaries... not something a manager should want between his staff and his customers!
 

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Her: "It's a family store"<br><br>
Me: "Yes, and it's so wonderful that families are so welcome here and that BFing is protected under state law!" with a big, cheesy smile.
 

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Good for you for not just nodding and agreeing like alot of people would have! I would have also asked her what, exactly, the woman's ethnicity had to do with anything. People tend to get all flustered when their bigotry is pointed out to them, which is kinda fun to watch sometimes.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Oh she'd hate me then, 'cause I go around in Wal-Mart with DD in the seat of the cart and I just lean over a little and nurse her. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Sadly, there really isn't much you can do beyond informing them of state law. There's not, to my knowledge, a law forbidding you to open your mouth and make a total ass out of yourself.
 

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I make a point of nursing every time I go to Walmart! Dh thinks I'm being silly.
 

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As far as ideas of what to say that will make a difference:<br>
"As a customer..."<br>
"Please let me know what action you will take in this matter so I can reassure all my friends."
 

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I would calll the walmart corporate complaint number (I believe it is 1-800-WALMART). They tend to kick store's booty when they find out about employee issues. Walmart corp. tends to always be the customer is ALWAYS right... and esp. when something legal is involved they get the store whipped into shape fast. BIL used to work for walmart and says that the number gets things changed fast when there is a problem.
 

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I called the manager this morning and I told him,"I am concerned that your employees are ignorant of the Texas state law protecting mothers who breastfeed in public. If a customer is ever asked to leave (bc of breastfeeding) the company would be put into a position where they could possibly be sued and have a lot of bad press." I also suggested that they make a store policy and educate their employees at the next store meeting. He said he has only been the manager there for 2 months and he doesn't recall the incident that the cashier was telling me about. Also he said okay about all my suggestions. I was probably just blown off though. I'll probably call the 1800WALMART just to be sure. Thanks!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I was probably just blown off though. I'll probably call the 1800WALMART just to be sure. Thanks!</div>
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Call the number and you can e-mail corporate as back up (you can include the Texas bf law link). I sent them an e-mail once (corporate) and the store called me back ASAP <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> .
 

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I was in Walmart once. My daughter wasn't there--but my mother in law decided to announce to all of the cashiers that my 2 and a half year old daughter is still nursing. The cashier that was checking us out and both of the cashiers on either side gasped.. and two of them, IN TANDEM said, "You need to get that baby off the tit!"<br><br>
Family store, my butt!<br><br>
I love California, though, I have NEVER had anyone say a THING to me here.
 

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Yeah, Walmart - blech...a few weeks back DH had Avery in the Kozy on his back, she was asleep & the cashier GASPED "You're breaking her neck!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: Um, ok...?
 

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People need to learn to mind their own <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/censored.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="censored"> business.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Not that we need anymore reasons, but yet another reason to not shop at Walmart.</div>
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Nothing wrong with shopping at Walmart in and of itself...well okay, if you can put up with the overwhelming amount of human stupidity that seems to run hand-in-hand with the store...I call this "Walmart Mentality", a result of what I call the "Walmart Society". Even little things like ignorant customers trying to cash out at an aisle that it <i>clearly</i> closed (light is off, yet customers still try to come to the aisle) or walking up to you and saying "do you work here?" despite you not wearing one of those blue vests (today, I was "guarding" our work cart [we merchandise in Walmart] and some crazy lady starts bugging me, and when I told her I don't speak much Spanish, she got all offended and blabbered something insulting about a Walmart employee not speaking Spanish in PR...sheesh, how many vestless Walmart employees have you ever seen in denim shorts, black Crocks, and a t-shirt featuring a vomiting monkey?).<br><br>
Penn & Teller did an excellent "Walmart Hatred Is Bull****" which can be found on youtube. I used to be on the "Walmart is the thing to hate" bandwagon too until I saw that video.
 
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