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ok. so dd used to be really good around her first birthday. She would nurse a few times through the day may or may not nurse to sleep and when she did I could get up once she was a sleep and do things around the house. We then moved in with my mom and she was very uncomfortable in her surroundings, as was I. somehow we ended up in a 'nurse the entire time I nap' routine. She doesn't nurse at all durring the day anymore, just to go to sleep. and even then she wakes right up in a panic when I try to move away (I should mention we moved out of my mothers 2 months ago and she is already much happier in her new surrounding) My problem is, that the current situation is not going to work for very much longer, DH and I are TTC and with a new baby, DD's current arrangment is going to impossible.<br>
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I think it's the age. I wouldn't stress about it and give it a few more months (while gently working on slipping away when she naps)<br><br>
In no way would I ever consider weaning for this issue. Weaning because of this issue could simply be the end of naps.<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think it's the age. I wouldn't stress about it and give it a few more months (while gently working on slipping away when she naps)<br><br>
In no way would I ever consider weaning for this issue. Weaning because of this issue could simply be the end of naps.<br><br>
-Angela</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">:<br><br>
Also, if she is nursing to keep you close (mine does this too sometimes), weaning her may make her more insecure, leading to a lot of new and more difficult insecure-attachment behaviors.<br><br>
The easiest way to get past an issue like clinging due to insecurity, is to let them cling. Cling back. Give them all the clinging they need. Then they can move on. If you try to deal with it by trying to teach them not to cling, or that clinging won't get them what they are after, they never become less insecure.<br><br>
That's it. I'm never saying the word "cling" again <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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plus, sooo much can change by the time you get pregnant and have the new baby! that's a long way off. i used to be sure that ds would never do this or that, but then he does it to my surprise! a lot can change in 9 mos. or, what if you wean and then don't conceive for a longer period than you would have liked?<br><br>
maybe you could enjoy the naptime! ds (16mos) needs me to sleep for naps too and so i spend the 2-3 hours watching movies (on mute, haha). it's a rest for me too!
 

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Thanks mamas. It truly is nice to know that I am not alone on this. I never thought the word wean would ever cross my mind actually and when I talked to DH about it, he made a face lol<br><br>
I guess I am more worried that I have started her into a habit that is bad and she may never 'grow out' of
 

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Yep, that's exactly it. You'll have to go off to college with her because she will always need to nurse to sleep <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
I think we all worry about that and feel like that at some point, but take a step back and it seems pretty silly, huh?<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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Yep, that's exactly it. You'll have to go off to college with her because she will always need to nurse to sleep <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
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Do you promise? Think of how much more studying my DD would get done if she needed to nurse to sleep - no late nights, no partying, no sleepovers with the boyfriends... thanks Angela - that's a great idea!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Do you promise? Think of how much more studying my DD would get done if she needed to nurse to sleep - no late nights, no partying, no sleepovers with the boyfriends... thanks Angela - that's a great idea!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"></div>
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-Angela
 
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