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I tend to get wordy so I'll try to make this short and sweet. My daughter is 15 and has had her own cell phone since she was 12. Her dad (my ex) pays nothing on it as he thought it was an unnecessary extravagance at her age. Well, now that she's 15 and out and about more you can bet he uses it to keep in contact...but...I digress. Ever since I added her to my account I've had overages to pay each month with the exception of maybe 6 months scattered here and there. Each time it gets worse. I've changed our plan to accommodate more minutes. I've changed it to include text messages and I've changed it to have unlimited text messages for her. I have replaced her phone twice. Once when we switched providers and once when hers got hosed up...the buttons were literally messed up from texting so much. Last month I paid $100 extra for Internet charges that she wasn't even supposed to have access to. I evidently thought I had blocked all of that. So, I call and have it blocked and explain to her why. She completely understood (or so I thought) and had no problem with it. This still left her with minutes to use and unlimited texts. So my husband is looking at the bill and it's $300 when it should be right around $100. We see that part of that is from the last billing when they blocked the Internet (dates after) so yeah, guess I have to pay it. But...part of it is SHE IS STILL DOING IT. The provider didn't block it like they said and even after I had the conversation with her...she is doing it. Not only that, she is texting her friends on school nights after 11:00and all hours from 1 or 2 and even 4 in the morning. Some are media texts...meaning she is sending or receiving pictures...or something. These are included in her text plan but still. So, I am livid. I sat crying when I saw the bill because that's a whole lot of Christmas, you know? And, after I explained to her how expensive that crap is she continued to do it. My husband and I are printing everything out and going over every bit of it with her because we want to know what she is sending. He said sometimes if an email address is tied into the phone it automatically "checks" for new mail resulting in a charge. That may be one or two of the new charges but not all. I want to take her phone away until after Christmas. I also want it handed to me with the passcode UNLOCKED. I want to see what she is sending. Now, part of me thinks this could be an invasion of privacy but the other part of me thinks - hey - I am paying the bill and have been and have dealt with paying extra on nearly every bill for 3 years now. And yes, she has been grounded from her phone before but only for a week at a time. I am so upset. Thoughts? Suggestions?