Ceserean Birth Support Thread August/September

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coloradoalice

Discussion Starter · Aug 10, 2006

Well, it's August 9th and I don't see a new thread yet, so starting one!

There have been a lot of posts about ceserean sections lately so hopefully we can all help eachother out.

I'm Alice, mommy of Gracie my homebirth transport turned c-section, and Ian my VBAC turned c-section.

Hi to everyone out there!

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Emilie

· #2 · Aug 10, 2006

they made a whole forum for VBAC Alice.

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coloradoalice

Discussion Starter · #3 · Aug 10, 2006

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they made a whole forum for VBAC Alice.

Yep I know. I lurk there too! This thread however is for Ceserean Birth support, and there is a thread every other month or so. It's to help those of us who have had ceserean sections work through the issues that come along with having a surgical birth. I guess I should have made that more clear in my OP.

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turtlewomyn

· #4 · Aug 10, 2006

Hi, its Kristen, mom to Savannah, I had a primary c-section 10 months ago for "fetal macrosomia". A late term/post dates (although the due date they gave me was questionable) ultrasound estimated a 9lb10oz baby and I let my midwife and her doctors coerce me into a scheduled c-section. I have since learned a lot more, and am still dealing with lots of anger about this section that I feel was unnecessary.

wifeandmom

· #5 · Aug 10, 2006

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Originally Posted by turtlewomyn
Hi, its Kristen, mom to Savannah, I had a primary c-section 10 months ago for "fetal macrosomia". A late term/post dates (although the due date they gave me was questionable) ultrasound estimated a 9lb8.5oz baby and I let my midwife and her doctors coerce me into a scheduled c-section. I have since learned a lot more, and am still dealing with lots of anger about this section that I feel was unnecessary.

Wow. That stinks. How big did your daughter end up being?

Of course, even if she was 10+ pounds, women have pushed out babies that big before with no trouble, as it really depends on your body, the baby's position, etc.

I hate to hear things like this, truly I do. They didn't even let you TRY?

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turtlewomyn

· #6 · Aug 10, 2006

wifeandmom
I think this whole big baby thing is a new trend. She ended up being 9lb8.5oz (a week after the u/s that said she was 9lb10oz) so they were very close. They convinced me I wasn't going into labor because she was so big, and that if I went into labor on my own, they would le me "try" to have her, but would hold me close to the friedmans' curve. I scheduled the section for the next monday (this was a consult with the dr on Thursday) hoping she would come out on her own during the weekend. THey also tried to say I had missed GD (due to size and an AFI of 25). I know better now. It was hard when I was 40+weeks pregnant, and having a lot of pressure from our families to just do what the midwife and doctor tell you to do. Next time I plan to use a better midwife, for an out of hospital VBAC. I also plan to avoid ultrasounds and any other medical interventions that can cause problems (a 12 week u/s caused them to move up my due date by ten days, even though I know when I ovulated, and of course the last one showed them how "big" she was). I secretly hope that I will push out a bigger baby next time, so I can rub it in everyones face!!!!

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coloradoalice

Discussion Starter · #7 · Aug 11, 2006

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Originally Posted by turtlewomyn
I secretly hope that I will push out a bigger baby next time, so I can rub it in everyones face!!!!

I hope you do too!! I love stories where mamas have bigger babies than the last one that the doctors told them they couldn't *possibly* give birth to naturally!

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coloradoalice

Discussion Starter · #8 · Aug 15, 2006

Do you guys have difficulity talking to those that have had vaginal births? Especially those that go on and on about how easy and wonderful and all that it is?

I would have loved to have a natural vaginal birth. It was my goal both times. It just simply was not to be and it is something that I mourn very deeply. My sister just had a baby, her second. She is totally mainstream, does whatever her doctor says. Anyway, this time around she ended up with a super crunchy OB who suggested my sister was an awesome canidate for a water birth.

She had her baby a little over a week ago. About 5 hours start to finish. No contractions until after 5 cm. A hospital water birth!!!!! No pain meds, no nothing!! Called me less than an hour after the birth ready to just walk out the door to go home.

I want to be happy for her, but the truth is I'm just sad and mad. My births were the polar opposite and so difficult and traumatic.

Anyone else know what I mean?

intorainbowz

· #9 · Aug 19, 2006

ITA on being jealous of women who had easy births. I am even more jealous of women who got to hold/see their babies right after birth. I wanted that so bad.

I am at peace with the decision to do the c/s. What follows I am not at peace with.

I will say, I am terrified to have a VBAC. I don't think it is in the cards for me. After the IUGR and everything I went through with Sydney, I honestly feel that going into labor and pushing would be just asking for it.

Not everything went as planned. I posted my original writing of Sydney's birth story here I was in no means ready to really write her birth story. I am writing it now, but I feel I'm writing a book.

Any, it is good to be among other c/s women.

fenwickmama

· #10 · Aug 20, 2006

can i join in? i had a failed induction followed by csec 6 weeks ago. turns out cord was tightly wrapped so i guess it would have been csec either way but i still feel robbed of the whole laboring experience-there was definitely nothing natural about my son's birth-stupid pitocin and iv for 3 days, hospital for 5 days. ugh!

ita about the jealousy thing (or whatever you wanna call it-for me, i'm jealous dammit). i just had a friend give birth-she's totally mainstream-wanted an epidural, was ambivalent about csec-she labored at home for 12 hours and went in dilated to 4 blah blah pushed for 30 mins and baby! anyway, she sent me the link to her 1st week baby pics and i was so upset by all the pics of her beforehand laboring and of the freshly born baby, pic of her first holding him, first latch etc. we didn't get all those shots, cuz 1) i didn't ever labor and 2) no cameras in operating/recovery rooms.

obviously i've got some mental healing to still do...

Lovinmy2babies+1

· #11 · Aug 20, 2006

As much as I've been fighting, I think I'm going to have to give in to a repeat section.

I'm depressed, angry, and hurt. I wish so much I could just enjoy my pregnancy instead of worry about the birth.

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egoldber

· #12 · Aug 20, 2006

Hi! I've had 2 C-sections, one non-emergency (PPROM at 37 weeks, failed induction, asynclitic baby) and one emergency (uterine rupture and placental abruption). I'm due with number 3 in November, and I'll be having a planned cesarean at around 37 weeks (following an amnio to check for lung maturity).

I'm working with my OB to make this section more a birth than a surgery. For me, the main thing I want from this is to be able to hold DD as soon as she is born. My hospital has the baby with mom in recovery and typically the baby does not leave the OR until you do (unless the surgery takes an unusually long time for some reason). My hospital also does full-time rooming in and baby doesn't go to the nursery unless you want them to. All newborn procedures are typically done in the room. This was my experience with my first DD at the same hospital.

coloradoalice

Discussion Starter · #13 · Aug 21, 2006

Hey,

I just found a c-section tribe in FYT!!! For those that have had and will only have c-sections! It appears to be a lot more active than the support threads here in B&B. I've subbed and thought some of you might be interested.

Alice

chiromama

· #14 · Aug 21, 2006

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Hi! I'm Korin... had a non emergency (well the OB thought it was one) c-section almost 9 weeks ago.
I had a planned home birth.. labored wondrfully at home, then pushed at home for 13 hours (yes. thirteen) when we realized that she was stuck, and transfered to the hospital. The surgery was incredibly traumatic, as they had to go in vaginally and push her out, since she was stuck. I had a panic attack on the table and had to be knocked out completely. Needless to say, I'm not over it yet. (as if i'll ever get over it)
I'm not angry at my midwife... she did everything she could to make my homebirth happen. I guess I'm angry at myself for not being strong enough to push her out. Everyone keeps telling me i am so strong for pushing for so long... but if i were really strong i would have pushed her out. iknow many women who i think are complete wimps who cando it, why can't i?
There are a couple of therapists in town who deal with birthing issues, I'm just not ready to go there yet. however, I'm glad this tribe is here.

Hi Kelly

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mata

· #15 · Aug 22, 2006

Do you guys have difficulity talking to those that have had vaginal births?

I don't think so. Honestly, in my circle of friends it doesn't come up. It seems that they have their share of "battle wounds" as well. I do feel fortunate to have friends who are sensitive to how my births went.

schwieb

· #16 · Aug 22, 2006

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Originally Posted by coloradoalice
Do you guys have difficulity talking to those that have had vaginal births? Especially those that go on and on about how easy and wonderful and all that it is?

I would have loved to have a natural vaginal birth. It was my goal both times. It just simply was not to be and it is something that I mourn very deeply. My sister just had a baby, her second. She is totally mainstream, does whatever her doctor says. Anyway, this time around she ended up with a super crunchy OB who suggested my sister was an awesome canidate for a water birth.

She had her baby a little over a week ago. About 5 hours start to finish. No contractions until after 5 cm. A hospital water birth!!!!! No pain meds, no nothing!! Called me less than an hour after the birth ready to just walk out the door to go home.

I want to be happy for her, but the truth is I'm just sad and mad. My births were the polar opposite and so difficult and traumatic.

Anyone else know what I mean?

I can TOATALLY relate!! I can't even watch a Baby Story episode where the woman has a vaginal birth. I keep saying that SHOULD have been me- and this was almost 2 years ago!!

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fenwickmama

· #17 · Aug 23, 2006

Hey Korin!! good to see you mama, tho sorry we both have occasion to be in this tribe

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littleteapot

· #18 · Aug 23, 2006

I'm Babs. DD was born naturally and wonderfully, but DS was born with an unnecessary c-section (he was breech and crowning, and the doc literally shoved his unlubed hand up inside me and pushed my son back into my womb while they ran me upstairs and did the section because even though one tiny push would have birthed him... it was "against their policy" to let me do that) He died shortly after birth. My experience was horrifying and traumatic. I'm due with #3 shortly, and still trying to work through the trauma that the c-section has slapped me with. I'm finding it really hard to feel trust for my body the same way, even though I know it didn't fail me, I feel as though I failed it instead.

chiromama

· #19 · Aug 23, 2006

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Babs. I've read your story before. Much love to you and your family. I truly hope your next birth is healing, and brings you a healthy living baby.

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lenore80

· #20 · Aug 24, 2006

Im glad there is a section on Mothering about this.

My baby girl was born 20 days ago via c-section. We decided to induce the labor (breaking the bag of waters) because I was at high risk for toxemia. I labored for hours, dilated fully, and she got stuck at the pubic bone area. DH could see her head.

We then tried pitocin, the vaccum, and finally a c-section. It turns out that her head did not properly turn. Im more upset by the lack of bonding in the recovery room/Operating room, and that the lactation consultant cupfed her formula.

I'll write more later.

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