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hi all, i've been lurking here for a while. i need some advice and to vent/ramble....<br><br>
my dd turns 2 this friday and i still haven't gotten PPAF. while i certainly enjoy her absence, i was hoping to be pregnant again already. we had planned to start TTC this past may, but obviously that couldn't happen. since then, dh has been changing his mind and deciding that he doesn't really want to TTC now. this is really frustrating for me because i want another so bad. but anyways, i guess where we are now is we're using pull 'n pray with occasional forgetting to pull (and probably praying for different things :LOL )<br><br>
this gets a little graphic, but you all don't seem too squeamish <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br><br>
i've been trying to check CM and CP to get an idea of what's going on with my body and because i'd really love to catch the first PP egg. i can't make any sense of what's going on and i'm almost positive i'm doing this wrong. one day i'll have nothing, the next milky CM, the next stretchy clear CM. and it'll stay stretchy and clear or yellowish for a week or so before drying up. i'm pretty sure it's CM because sometimes it'll be really long and fall into the water when i use the toilet. And as for CP, it always feels pretty far up and open about a fingertip. but i have pretty short fingers and never checked before so i don't have anything to compare with.<br><br>
i guess my question is should i be looking for the same stuff as those who have AF or is there no hope for now? i really feel like something must be going on but i'm not getting any answers like AF or a BFP and it's soooo frustrating.
 

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Hi, Jessica, I was in your shoes not that long ago with no PPAF and TTC (but my husband wanted a baby, too). I also checked my CP, CM and took my temp. My temp and CP didn't seem to help me so much. You can check out my old Fertility Friend charts if you like. <a href="http://circles2.fertilityfriend.com/home/20edf" target="_blank">http://circles2.fertilityfriend.com/home/20edf</a><br><br>
One thing you'll notice is that my CM followed patterns quite similiar to yours. I'd have quite a few patches of egg white CM. (Also, you should note that there are a few charts on there, but I never got my PP AF) Timing BD during fertile quality CM is what I believe made us conceive before I ever had a PPAF.<br><br>
Now, that said -- I think you add a possibly damaging affect on your relationship if you are TTC and your partner is TNTC. Sounds like you need to talk to him about this. Choosing to use an 80% reliable birth control method coupled with you wanting a baby (and checking for fertile quality mucus) can set you both up for feeling resentment. Afterall, when you and your partner decide to TTC then you know you both welcome the child into your lives. Not just you.<br><br>
Best wishes.
 
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