How are the nursing preggos doing? I nurse 2x a day - for falling asleep. I really think my milk is drying up - I thought this before, but nighttimes and naps are becoming really difficult. My son (almost 2.5) is squeezing and digging his head into my breasts. He is also biting. He cries alot. The problem is he has never ever ever fallen asleep in any way ever without nursing. I don't even know where to begin to help him settle down and learn to sleep without falling asleep to nursing (a whole other thread!) - I feel so bad for him (and for me too!!). My husband is usually there to help, but is helpless - my son wants one thing. Anyone else have an unhappy baby? It is still painful to nurse as well, but I can bear it.
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No sign of drying up here...Connor still nurses a few times a day, more on weekends when I'm not at work, and if we miss a feeding I definitely feel it. Although like your son, mine is doing a lot of squeezing and pushing, I have little scabs all over my poor breasts!!!
It's never hurt regularly, a few feedings have been uncomfortable, but his latch is pretty lazy also. I have had to take him off and get him to open wider a few times.
I did night wean...mostly...he's been a little under the weather this week, so I've been allowing him to nurse at night recently, but when he's not sick, daddy responds to the night time wake ups (which are getting fewer).
It's never hurt regularly, a few feedings have been uncomfortable, but his latch is pretty lazy also. I have had to take him off and get him to open wider a few times.
I did night wean...mostly...he's been a little under the weather this week, so I've been allowing him to nurse at night recently, but when he's not sick, daddy responds to the night time wake ups (which are getting fewer).
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Hi there, Sorry to hear you and ds are having a hard time. My ds (2 yrs old) is still nursing but noticeably less and he is night weaned now as of about a month ago. The sleeping is definitely helping me manage my pregnancy fatigue better.
He has bitten me a few times, and it is very painful for me in general so I'd love it if he'd wean himself. We'll see.
He has upped his oat milk intake, and I offer it a lot to help ease the transition.
It sounds like you want to wean him completely.
If so, we held ds and sang him to sleep, this is how we night weaned him. We offered water in a sippy cup. It took 3-4 nights of sad baby boy crying in my arms for a little while, and then falling asleep.
Good luck, you will find a way to make it work for all of you. I hope it's soon.
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He has bitten me a few times, and it is very painful for me in general so I'd love it if he'd wean himself. We'll see.
He has upped his oat milk intake, and I offer it a lot to help ease the transition.
It sounds like you want to wean him completely.
If so, we held ds and sang him to sleep, this is how we night weaned him. We offered water in a sippy cup. It took 3-4 nights of sad baby boy crying in my arms for a little while, and then falling asleep.
Good luck, you will find a way to make it work for all of you. I hope it's soon.
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DS is only 9 months, so he still is nursing pretty regularly, of course. He gets annoyed when it takes a couple mins to get a proper let down, but overall he' doing well. He did pretty much night wean which has been amazing for me as I get sleep! (He did that on his own, he stoped waking every 1-2 hrs and started sleeping through... I wasn't about to poke him.
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I expect we'll be tandem nursing for a couple years.
I expect we'll be tandem nursing for a couple years.
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Nursing my 21 month old. Before I got pregnant, he was eating very little solids. Now he eats EVERYTHING! My milk is drying up but that doesn't deter him. He still night nurses but not as much. He slept through the night for the first time in his life, but it only happened once. He no longer wakes in the middle of his naps for a mid-nap nurse.
To the OP, other ways he will go to sleep: stroller, car.
To the OP, other ways he will go to sleep: stroller, car.
DD 2.5 still nursing away
It does not seem like I have any less milk
I can tell you the gentile nudge I gave her toward night weaning was a blessing, now we are down to 2-3 x day
It seems to be going well at this point. I dont think I would be sad if she weaned, and there have been several nights that DH has put her to bed himself. I am hoping in the summer when it is warm and we are more on the go the nursing will fade away like a distant and fond memory
A girl can hope eh??!!
It does not seem like I have any less milk
I can tell you the gentile nudge I gave her toward night weaning was a blessing, now we are down to 2-3 x day
It seems to be going well at this point. I dont think I would be sad if she weaned, and there have been several nights that DH has put her to bed himself. I am hoping in the summer when it is warm and we are more on the go the nursing will fade away like a distant and fond memory
A girl can hope eh??!!
My three year old is still nursing, but only about twice a day now. I don't think there's any milk in there and it's started to hurt REALLY badly. He nurses to sleep, too, though, so I have no idea how to change that routine. It's worked so well for so long.
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Just taking it day by day for now.
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I have found this to be true as well. Once I hit 12 weeks "AHHHHH" he started to eat and boy does he eat and drink A lot!!!!!!!!!
Originally Posted by MichelleAnnette  Nursing my 21 month old. Before I got pregnant, he was eating very little solids. Now he eats EVERYTHING! My milk is drying up but that doesn't deter him. He still night nurses but not as much. He slept through the night for the first time in his life, but it only happened once. He no longer wakes in the middle of his naps for a mid-nap nurse. To the OP, other ways he will go to sleep: stroller, car. |
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Well, we have not nursed at all for the past five days. We nightweaned early in the pregnancy since I was so exhausted; then we were down to only a few times per day. DD also stopped napping, so that automatically cut out the pre- and post-nap sessions too.
It's so bittersweet--I really was not enjoying it anymore, my milk is gone and it was really painful and irritating to me. DD still relied on it to fall asleep, but on Monday night she fell asleep without nursing for the first time in her life (other than in the car!) She didn't need to nurse the next night either, and from there we just kind of went with it.
Emotionally it's tough because it feels like the end to such a special chapter. But physically, yeah, I am so done and don't think I have it in me to tandem nurse. I definitely was hoping to wean long before this babe arrives in hopes that would lessen any resentment/jealousy DD has about the baby nursing (and not her.)
Should I be grateful or should I cry? Maybe both.
It's so bittersweet--I really was not enjoying it anymore, my milk is gone and it was really painful and irritating to me. DD still relied on it to fall asleep, but on Monday night she fell asleep without nursing for the first time in her life (other than in the car!) She didn't need to nurse the next night either, and from there we just kind of went with it.
Emotionally it's tough because it feels like the end to such a special chapter. But physically, yeah, I am so done and don't think I have it in me to tandem nurse. I definitely was hoping to wean long before this babe arrives in hopes that would lessen any resentment/jealousy DD has about the baby nursing (and not her.)
Should I be grateful or should I cry? Maybe both.
I am thinking I do want to at least drop the falling asleep at night nursing - I could just let the nap nursing go until he drops napping and it would be a natural end to it all. He nurses for such a long time to fall asleep (average of 30-45min.) and it gets so uncomfortable. Thanks for the support Dancemamma - I may try it your way in a couple weeks after talking to him about it and see if it works. Acupuncturemama - how old is your child? How did it work - she lay down in the bed and closed here eyes (inconceivable!!). We still cosleep and hoping to offer him his own bed in a couple months, so if I am going to do this, I need to do it soon - it will be no good to try it all at the same time.
My DD1 was 16 mos when we conceived DD2. My milk seemed to dry up, too, probably around 20 weeks or so. She nursed to sleep, was very attached to me and would not go to sleep any other way. There were times it was unbearable, but I honestly didn't have any other options.
They tandem nursed for almost one year. DD1 eventually fell asleep on her own (but only while watching Ted Nugent's Spirit of the Wild with Daddy). She still likes to fall asleep on the couch while Daddy's playing on his computer (we no longer have cable - a whole different celebration).
DD2 still nurses to sleep. I really don't want to go down the same road, but at least I know I can survive it!
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I hope you find something that works for you and your little one. Everyone's different, just listen to your mama instincts.
They tandem nursed for almost one year. DD1 eventually fell asleep on her own (but only while watching Ted Nugent's Spirit of the Wild with Daddy). She still likes to fall asleep on the couch while Daddy's playing on his computer (we no longer have cable - a whole different celebration).
DD2 still nurses to sleep. I really don't want to go down the same road, but at least I know I can survive it!
I hope you find something that works for you and your little one. Everyone's different, just listen to your mama instincts.
We're still nursing. Usually 2-3 times a day, maybe four at the most. I think DD is pretty attached to nursing, but sometimes it is hard to see her making it all the way to September. I don't think we are going to do anything to encourage her to stop, but who knows at this point. We recently found out that she will go to sleep without nursing if I'm not here, but I don't think it would happen if I was here.
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nursing as normal. it was harder earlier on. she has now adjusted to eating more foods, especially at bedtime. otherwise, earlier, she was waking up "hungry" for something or another nightly around 3 am. at this point, she is virtually sleeping through the night, which is great for me, but she's not "nightweaned" per se.
i want her to continue and i want to tandem nurse.
yeah it hurts, but i decided in the very beginning to just take the pain. it's only the latch on that hurts for me. she asks throughout the day, and other times i also offer. she digs in and squeezes too, but i don't let it get to me.
do you want to wean? i wasn't sure that you do, from reading your post.
one thing i did do for DD, from the very get go, when her statement that my breasts were "empty" was my very first clue that i was pregnant, days before i even missed my period, was that i told her, to go ahead and keep nursing. that the milk will come back eventually.
now we talk about how the new baby will also nurse. DD has decided she gets the right breast, and the new baby will have the left and they will "sometimes switch". i read her books about nursing and tandem nursing.
i'm starting to feel pretty confident that she is going to make it through the pregnancy, still nursing (knock on wood for us).
good luck to you, whatever you decide re: nursing your little one.
i want her to continue and i want to tandem nurse.
yeah it hurts, but i decided in the very beginning to just take the pain. it's only the latch on that hurts for me. she asks throughout the day, and other times i also offer. she digs in and squeezes too, but i don't let it get to me.
do you want to wean? i wasn't sure that you do, from reading your post.
one thing i did do for DD, from the very get go, when her statement that my breasts were "empty" was my very first clue that i was pregnant, days before i even missed my period, was that i told her, to go ahead and keep nursing. that the milk will come back eventually.
now we talk about how the new baby will also nurse. DD has decided she gets the right breast, and the new baby will have the left and they will "sometimes switch". i read her books about nursing and tandem nursing.
i'm starting to feel pretty confident that she is going to make it through the pregnancy, still nursing (knock on wood for us).
good luck to you, whatever you decide re: nursing your little one.
I spoke too soon...the last day or two I've felt really sore, tender, and I swear my breasts suddenly grew!!! I didn't notice any significant growth in the first trimester (unlike my first pregnancy where they grew huge right away!) but now they've made up for lost time it seems. And nursing is not comfortable at all...I keep trying to fix his latch, but that doesn't help. Ugh.
Mine breasts also didn't grow during the first trimester, but are starting to grow now. I am a little concerned that with all the biting I will get mastitis and since I have no let down or milk, it will be harder to clear up. Maybe that doesn't make sense, though. I think I will think on the weaning idea for a couple more weeks. I want to drop the falling asleep at night but I want him to do it on his own - is it too much to ask that he do it on my schedule
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Im so jealous of everyone who is enjoying their nursing relationship! I HATE nursing! I HATE IT! It feels horrible! Its so annoying and I want this to get better! I don't want to wean, I feel he's much too young, but I don't know how much longer I can take this. Its so uncomfortable! I've read "Adventures in Tandem Nursing" and it doesnt apply to us at all. He's much younger than all the other babies, and I feel like a crazy person for hating how it feels like now to nurse. I never felt like this about nursing till the last month or so. I feel like a horrible mom and person.
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I've already replied to this thread, so you can see part of my experience above... BUT, please know that you're going through what probably most of us have. Sure there were weeks, possibly months, of my pregnancy that were so terribly painful that I wanted it to end. But I wanted it to be her idea. I prayed that she would wean miraculously, tried to introduce a pacifier to a 19-20 mo old, even considered trying to pump and use a bottle. DD1 was such a high-needs infant, toddler, now 3.5 yr old.
Nursing this time around seems so much easier because I know how overwhelming it can be. It really seems like a breeze. (Not what you wanted to hear, sorry.)
The other thing I wanted to mention, and obviously may not apply to you, but I think I had some massive PPD with DD1. Getting pregnant with number 2 was not on my to-do list, it just happened. It took me up until the 20 week ultrasound before I was at peace with the pregnancy. I knew to look out for that with this pregnancy and have been taking lots of B vitamins. B12 seems to really help me out. I can tell within days if I haven't taken it.
Hang in there, mama!
Originally Posted by sg784 Im so jealous of everyone who is enjoying their nursing relationship! I HATE nursing! I HATE IT! It feels horrible! Its so annoying and I want this to get better! I don't want to wean, I feel he's much too young, but I don't know how much longer I can take this. Its so uncomfortable! I've read "Adventures in Tandem Nursing" and it doesnt apply to us at all. He's much younger than all the other babies, and I feel like a crazy person for hating how it feels like now to nurse. I never felt like this about nursing till the last month or so. I feel like a horrible mom and person. |
I've already replied to this thread, so you can see part of my experience above... BUT, please know that you're going through what probably most of us have. Sure there were weeks, possibly months, of my pregnancy that were so terribly painful that I wanted it to end. But I wanted it to be her idea. I prayed that she would wean miraculously, tried to introduce a pacifier to a 19-20 mo old, even considered trying to pump and use a bottle. DD1 was such a high-needs infant, toddler, now 3.5 yr old.
Nursing this time around seems so much easier because I know how overwhelming it can be. It really seems like a breeze. (Not what you wanted to hear, sorry.)
The other thing I wanted to mention, and obviously may not apply to you, but I think I had some massive PPD with DD1. Getting pregnant with number 2 was not on my to-do list, it just happened. It took me up until the 20 week ultrasound before I was at peace with the pregnancy. I knew to look out for that with this pregnancy and have been taking lots of B vitamins. B12 seems to really help me out. I can tell within days if I haven't taken it.
Hang in there, mama!
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