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Will it happen before day-weaning? I nurse on demand, and will contnue to, but it wouldn't break my heart if ds decided that once or twice a night was enough.
 

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my son was born 10/04 and we still nurse at night most every night. Usually at midnight and at four. The amount of time spent nursing is down quite a bit though, and after just a few minutes I can remove him and rollover.<br><br><br>
Me sleeping with my BACK to him is a huge help.
 

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Good question and I'm wondering the same thing! dd nurses all night some times, esp when sick or teething. One thing that's helped is moving her to her own bed. she seems to get disturbed when we sleep with her and wants to nurse back to sleep.<br><br>
Any other feedback?
 

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I don't believe in completely child-led weaning. At least with my children, I bed my 8yo would still be nursing all night if I han't nudged him along the way a bit.
 

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I don't know about completely child led. I waited till ds was almost 3 and it was very easy but I don't think it would have happened for a long time if I hadn't "nudged" him. At the time we night weaned, he was not so much nursing at night, he would just semi-wake and latch on, then go back to sleep. I think it was out of habit and how long that would have continued if I didn't stop it, I don't know.
 

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I've read that children self-wean around 4.5 or 5 because that is when they get socialized...around the same time that they don't strip down naked in fron tof strangers, y'know? So, hugs, and good luck!
 

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my DS was more interested at night than in the day - there's too much exciting stuff going on in the day, you see <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> but when i got pregnant i preferred to sleep more... he had been waking about 3 times a night then... i just posted this in another thread here about how we worked on night-weaning:<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">we didn't officially night wean - we just decided DH would try to get him back to sleep for half an hour or 45 minutes and if it wasn't working, or if DS was asking to nurse, then i would nurse him. at first i was ending up nursing him all the time after DH was trying and trying... but then DS got more used to DH and only occasionally asked to nurse. now i can usually just cuddle DS to get him back to sleep and tell him we'll nurse in the morning if he still wants... and he's ok with that 95% of the time... and if he's not, we'll nurse for a little bit, and then it's cuddle time again.</td>
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the way i see it, we offered substitutes, and talked about not nursing at night, but we didn't lay down the law... and we tried to be patient about the process... it was encouraged, but not forced. on demand became on really really needing it demand, not just on usual habit demand. maybe you wouldn't call that on demand anymore... it certainly was a shift in our relationship, but not a negative one... just a change.
 
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