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I'd really like your thoughts on what you would do in this situation:<br><br>
I recently went to pt and I need someone to look after dd 2 days out of the week. She's 20 months old almost. I put an ad in the local paper looking for a pt nanny. When I worked FT, we had a FT nanny (about 35 hours) and it worked out great for dd. It was the best child-care situation for our family and dd really thrived with one-on-one care since I had to go back to work when she was 11 weeks old.<br><br>
For PT, initially, I was looking for a college student who is studying education, or something child relatied, who could come in for about 6-7 hours for two days. We found a girl who is 23 and worked at a daycare for 2 years while going to college pt. She's now in school ft, and she would like to pick up some extra money for school. Her niece is the same age as my dd, so she's familiar with that age level. I got a good impression from her. I also work 10 mintues away, so I can check up on them during lunch.<br><br><br>
The other person is a 42 year old mom of a 2 year old. The little girl was a "surprise" to the family. They have a 10 year old dd. The family is European and has been in the US for 6 years and the mom is very educated, but she is not able to work b.c of her dd. I interviewed her and liked her and then asked her for a second (informal) interview at my house. She stayed for about 3 1/2 hours. I figured her dd would give me a good indication of her parenting. I was pleased to see that she is very gentle with her daughter and appears to be a capable and responsible mom. Her daughter is a little shy, but very attached to her mom. Also, you can tell that she is a nurturing mother. She's looking for something for longer term until her dd is older and until she learns English better. On the one hand, I really like her and the girls can play together. On the other hand, my dd won't have one-on-one time and it can get real tough with 2 toddlers who think everything belongs to them.<br><br>
So, who would you pick? College Student who taught at a daycare or mom of a toddler who has lots of experience? I'm leaning towards the mom, because she seemed very responsible to me and because she is already familiar with that age group and is a mother herself. Plus, my dd took to her dd so well, I was even surprised! The little girl is a doll and I think the two could play very well together, thus, making it a nicer childcare situation. Almost like a playdate for 2 days out of the week. On the other hand, with the college student, dd will have lots of one-on-one time with her and I will be able to enroll her in various park district classes that are available. I can't do that with 2 kids.<br><br><br>
Who would you pick if you had the choice? Just curious about your thoughts?? THANKS! I appreciate it!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
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They both sound like great choices...I'd maybe slightly lean towards mom w/out having met them, but it sounds like either would be wonderful for your dd!
 

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No don't laugh, but I'd flip a coin. Seriously. Heads it's the mom, tails the student. Then, listen to your gut when it lands. That'll tell you who you prefer, kwim? That's what I do when faced with something like that. The way I feel when I see what was chosen tells me whether to go with it or change it. Good luck, they both sound pretty good. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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I'ma certified professional nanny, not working anymore, but did for 10 years. Now I'm a sahm and I say pick the college student. Your dd already has a mom. The student will play and have so much fresh energy. Your dd already has a mom (you) that thinks about all the long term responsible stuff and tries to guide her. The mom already has her way of doing things, college student will adapt to your way easier and be excited to spend the time having fun with your daughter, not refereeing and chaperoning. Pick the one that complements you, not the one that is the same. JMO<br>
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I think you're very lucky to have two choices that both sound quite good! I think I'd be like you and lean towards the older mom. She sounds quite capable and daycare experience is not the same as mom experience. Plus daycare experience is not even quite the same as having nanny experience, you'll probably get a more comfortable situation from the mom. I also personally think having a playmate can be very helpful for both your daughter and your caretaker. Good luck whatever you do!
 

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I'd vote college student. If the mom's own child is sick, she won't be able to care for your child.<br><br>
Plus......no offense to older moms, but I think that *IN GENERAL* college students would have more energy.
 

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That IS a tough decision. I say go with the college student if you have firm ideas about how you want the caregiver to care for your child--e.g., use baby sign language, feed certain foods, etc. She will be more likely to adapt to your style. On the other hand, the mom might be more long term, which is a good thing for your little one--consistency, etc.<br><br>
Let us know what you decide!!
 

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I teach college, and have recruited long-term nanny/babysitters from a variety of majors... as long as their smart, have perfect attendance (yes, some people never get sick, never have lame excuses. those are the ones I look for....) and I say go w/ the college student.<br><br>
She'll be in your house. Working for you.<br><br>
Who are you more comfortable with as an employer? I would feel awkward with another mother.<br><br>
I might second-guess our family's little quirks etc... and that would be one more thing I would stress over...<br><br>
Hope that helped!
 

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I would go w/college student and the one on one attention. When my dd is around other kids her age, it's either a dream or a nightmare depending on the moods of each child.
 

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THANK You for all of your thoughtful comments! You brought out some things that I didn't think about, especially about choosing a caregiver that would complement me, and not just be another mother.<br><br>
Well, we decided to go with the mom. Our decision was based on the fact that I felt very comfortable with her and I could tell that she felt comfortable in our home. We are going to use the college student for babysitting when we have something in the evenings or on the weekends. Basically, I thought about who I would feel the most comfortable with and, of the two, I felt that I could talk to the mom better. With the college student, I felt like more of an "employer," showing her how I do things, what I want done, etc. With the mom, things just seemed to flow easier b.c she was more of a peer, KWIM? Also, the more I thought about it, the more I realized I don't really need someone who has tons of energy to run around with dd for 2 days out of the week. It's not like I am lacking energy. When I'm at home, dd and I do a lot of running around, go to playgroups, totnastics and to the park all the time. I didn't really want someone else doing the exact same things that dd and I enjoy doing. Finally, I think that tipped the scales was the responsibility factor. The college student would not be a long term person, or even a person that I think I could befriend long term, whereas the mom and I have bonded. She likes my energy and I like her easy-going experienced demeanor. So, of the two, she complemented our family the best. Thank you very much for all of your great comments!<br><br>
Libby<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 
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