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I am a planner and a listmaker and a daydreamer. I am also older (32) and soooo ready to be a mom.<br><br>
I've finally decided, after two or three years of playing with possibilities in my head, on my three (3!) duaghters' names (I'll tttc #1 with shettles method next summer).<br><br>
Did anyone know thier babies' names ahead of time. Not just the first , but the second etc?<br><br>
Is it weird? Perhaps dangerous (not very child centered since it makes them part of a long term project)? Foolish?
 

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Oh no we had 3 boys names picked out in a certain order and 1 girl name, since that is what we want. We are now having our second boy so it seems we are getting what we wanted. Actually while trying to pick out the first boy name was the hardest . We had 2 boy names picked out during his pregnancy, but they didn't seem like first boy names, they were our 2nd and 3rd boy names. We couldn't figure out our "first" name until a week before he was born, and we both knew that was it once we said it.
 

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I had first dd's name picked out since high school. Then half way through my pregnancy it just didn't feel right. So we changed it and she is definitly a Savanna, not a Shelby. WHen I was pg with her we picked out a boys name and then got preg with ds we didn't like it anymore. Now, ds is almost 5 months. I am possibly preg again and the girl name we had picked out for him, we still like it, but we like another better. Go figure.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:
 

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I've known I would name my first daughter Elisabeth Jane since I was twelve years old. By the time I got pregnant, I made sure I had two girl names and two boys names all set, so that in case I had twins I'd be set no matter what. As soon as Elisabeth was born, I figured out a third girl name so I'd be set for the next pregnancy. Unfortunately, my SIL beat me to using that name, so I no longer have a back-up name for a girl in case of twin girls. I spend a lot of time trying to think of a replacement name.
 

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I knew my dd's name before she was conceived. I liked the story that the name was associated with. With this baby if it's a boy it will have the name we decided on last time for a boy. It's an Indian name but very close to an American name I've loved for years. If it's another girl we'll use the runner-up girl's name. I loved that one as much as dd's name but dh got the swing vote.<br><br>
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Not weird at all, IMO. The only concern, I guess, is that the names you choose might not necessarily "fit" the child - so it would be best to be flexible and willing to reconsider when the time comes.<br><br>
I never planned ds' name, simply because I never really thought I would have children. But I always knew I would have a dog named Fergus - and I still will, darnit! :LOL
 

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I never worry that my names won't fit my babies after they're born. The names themselves don't have a particular "meaning" for me, I just choose them because they sound beautiful. Over time, of course, the child GIVES the name meaning, and the name comes to mean what, who, and how the child is. I think the meaning goes from the child to the name, not the other way around.
 

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We had names picked out for both a boy and a girl for about three years before dd was born. We'll use the boy name for the next one if it's a boy, and lately I've been trying to figure out another girl's name even though we won't ttc for another year!<br><br>
So, no.. I don't think it's weird!
 

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Souns totally normal to me<br><br>
I really like using family names because a) they remind me of people I love, b) they are classic and never go in/out of style, and c) they will hopefully pass down an appreciation of one's ancestors. We don't have any children yet, but I am a ruminating kind of person. It takes me awhile to find the perfect combination of first,middle and last names. There are no guarantees as to how many of each gender you may have, so I have ranked all the different combos! And then there is the connotation factor and nickname factor ---- I need more than nine months to figure this all out : )
 

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I hope it's not weird cause I love to plan my children's names ahead of time. We'd practically decided on Isaiah's name when we started trying to conceive. I've got a pretty definite list of names which include two boys names and two girls names (we're planning on 1-3 more children). I think as long as you are open to a change down the road (for ex. child is born and you decide the name you picked is wrong for them) then there is nothing wrong with it.
 

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both of my kids names were chosen even before conception, and i have names picked out for 2 more sons and 1 more daughter.. working on some other that i like too. i'm just baby name obessed <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> i love hearing what other people name thier kids.<br><br>
you are not strange, or perhaps i just am too!
 

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Yes me to shelly 4 - I am baby names obsessed.! I also love hearing what people name their babies, and I've wasted so much time digging through the social security website of popular baby names.<br><br>
I just worry I will feel incomplete when I have my first baby because I will have these other two unconcieved but named babies waiting in the wings. I want to enjoy the time we have with the first child, and worry I'll waste it some by anxiously anticipating the next step to the already named 5 member family I have in my head. Of course all this might be a product age (I'll be 33 when I ttc #1 and so worry about secondary fertility).<br><br>
Anyway, at least I know weirdness has company<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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i think sometimes they just "come" to you. i remember thinking of all of my kid's names long before they were even a whisper in the breeze. the last was the most surprising. it just popped into my head out of nowhere and i thought it was a great name for a little boy, then promptly dismissed it. in my big plan there were no more children. the universe had a different idea.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> it was odd how every name that came to me correlated with the gender of the next baby i had. when i think of a name out of nowhere anymore i try to hum real loud. :LOL
 

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My husband and I will be married 6 years next month. Almost from the beginning of our marriage we knew we would name our baby Dakota. Now we didn't really think there would be a baby because I was 47 when we got married. But if one came along, he or she would be named Dakota. About a year or so later the name became Dakota Rayne. After a couple more years we decided to pursue an adoption from China. We planned and planned and followed all the legal steps for Dakota Rayne. But then after a year we were told that we would not be allowed to adopt from China. We decided to try to adopt from Guatemala but I did not feel like I could name this baby Dakota Rayne because that was the name of our "China Baby". We finally decided to name the Guatemalan baby Dakota Ariel. We were accepted into the program and received a referral of a beautiful little girl. We went to Guatemala and spent a week with her. During this time we decided that her name should be Dakota Rhiannon. But the name was still Dakota. We allways knew that would be our baby's name. About two weeks after we got home from Guatemala we got the call from our adoption agency. Dakota's mother had changed her mind and would be keeping the baby. We were devastated. I thought I would never be Dakota's Mom. We continued to pursue a Guatemalan adoption though. About a month later we accepted the referral of a little boy. When I found out about the possible referral I called my husband and asked him what he thought abut the name Dakota Garcia. At first he said that was a funny name for a little girl. Then I told him "She's a boy." We decided to accept this referral even though we had planned for two years on a little girl. Now, Dakota Garcia, (Garcia is his birth family's name and we used it also in memory of Jerry) is fast asleep in his crib in the next room. We've been his parents for nearly 10 months now. And we couldn't be happier. The middle name has changed a few times, but our baby's name is and always has been Dakota. Our next child, who will be girl, is Cassidy Rhianon. We may never have another child. Parenting a toddler is a lot harder at 52 than it was at 20. But if we ever do she will be Cassidy. So yes, I believe it is quite normal to name your children far in advance. Just be willing to be flexiible if the name doesn't fit.<br><br>
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i always knew my first child would be a girl..........and she was. when i was studing spanish lit in college i remember reading about the catalun provence in northern spain. the women from there were called "catalinas" i fell in love with that name and that is who she is . also, dh(if you want to call him that ) mother is named catalina. i had a dream once where i named my baby Malia . i've never heard that name befor. now i'm into political names. If i ever have a nother girl again, which is highly unlikely I want to name her Hanan after Hanan Ashari. I know that is not how you spell her last name.
 

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OK - weird - I didn't realize there was someone with such a similar username... sorry!<br><br>
Anyway, YES we have had our kids' names picked out since before we were married. A few have changed some, but mostly they are set. I'd like to change a couple now but DH had decided they are set... so there! :LOL<br><br>
Anyway, not weird at all!
 

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:LOL I didn't really think of that! One thing at a time for me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 
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