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This is so sad and I feel so sorry for his family....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Its got to be horrendous for his family to have a person you loved so villanized (and rightly so). It would certainly interfer with your ability to mourn.
 

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I feel very bad for them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I really really feel bad for the family. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Unimaginable to me, what they must be going through. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I've been thinking about them so much. Especially his mother. How must she feel seeing those videos and looking into his eyes?
 

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I wonder how the victims families feel with an apology? My first thought is that if I was a mother of a victim, I would be livid. Yes, this family has pain and mourning, but it's a different kind. And to apologize just feels...wrong somehow.<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I wonder how the victims families feel with an apology? My first thought is that if I was a mother of a victim, I would be livid. Yes, this family has pain and mourning, but it's a different kind. And to apologize just feels...wrong somehow.<br><br>
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I don't really understand why an apology would make them livid. I would imagine that silence or a statement without an apology would be worse.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I wonder how the victims families feel with an apology? My first thought is that if I was a mother of a victim, I would be livid. Yes, this family has pain and mourning, but it's a different kind. And to apologize just feels...wrong somehow.<br><br>
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I think I would be more livid without a statement. I think what the family released was perfect, they're horrified that their son was capable of such horror, but still grieve for the son they knew.
 

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I don't feel sorry for the shooter but I do feel sorry for his family and I sympathize with them to some extent. They can't share their grief over the loss they've suffered. I mean who in America would grieve with them right now?
 

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I feel more sorry for them than anyone just because not only did they lose a loved one, they have to live with the fact that he did what he did and although they knew he had problems, they couldn't have known this was coming. They worked so hard for their children to have better lives, and then this.
 

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This reminds me of the Amish shooting last year and how the Amish families embraced, supported and grieved with the killers family as they were victims too.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This reminds me of the Amish shooting last year and how the Amish families embraced, supported and grieved with the killers family as they were victims too.</div>
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Look, that shooter has a mother. A mother who held and rocked him when he was a baby and probably kissed his little toes and pink cheeks, just like the mothers of the victims did. What he did was awful, yes, but he was somebody's child too, and he's dead too. His mother and father deserve to be comforted too.
 

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My heart goes out to his family. I think what they said was kind and appropriate. I can't imagine the pain they are in and I think it shows a lot of character to make a public statement like that.
 

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What I think is horrible is that it's even necessary for them to be sheltered from hate crimes. I understand that people are angry, but it's not the family's fault. I hope that nobody targets them. They deserve to grieve and heal, just as much as anybody else that was affected by this.
 

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I understand that when they had a ceremony releasing balloons at VT for the people who died, they released one for Cho as well.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I've been thinking about them so much. Especially his mother. How must she feel seeing those videos and looking into his eyes?</div>
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Yes, that would be so terrible to see your own child is capable of so much violence. I can't even imagine. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 
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