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I'm not sure which forum this belongs in...<br><br>
I've been invited to an event on Sunday that I need some advice about. One of my former doula clients that I still see weekly for a parents group I lead invited me to her son's "Dedication to Christ". I accepted the invitation because I know how important my presence is to them (partially since I was there for her son's birth, partially because we've become friends) and I really care for this family and baby.<br><br>
I am NOT religious in any way, and wanted to know the etiquette around gifts... I am assuming that most people bring gifts to these sort of ceremonies (I have never been to one!). I don't feel comfortable spending a great deal of money because we aren't "just" friends if you know what I mean (we also still have a client based relationship in some ways), but I also don't want to go empty handed if everyone else will be bringing gifts. The people I know who've had baptisms, christenings, etc. for their children said that common gifts are bibles, etc. but I do not feel comfortable giving a gift that is religious in nature since it is meaningless to me. Any ideas? I am honored to be invited, but it is far outside my own belief system, so I want to be respectful and appropriate to our relationship.<br><br>
Mods- if this belongs elsewhere, I apologize. I'm really clueless about where this belongs!
 

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In our family only the God-parents give gifts. If you want to have a gift with you just in case you can buy a nice picture frame or photo album.
 

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We didn't expect gifts for ds1's baptism (in fact, we included a note in the invitation to that effect.) But, I would probably bring a gift unless the invitation asked otherwise.<br><br>
Perhaps some kind of engraved sentimental gift (frame, piggy bank, wallhanging).
 

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I would think that a nice card honoring the day would be sufficent <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"> I know most people have plenty of picture frames, albums, etc.
 

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savings bonds are always good and the norm around here.
 

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nak<br><br>
henry was dedicated (not christened), and it is the norm here to not receive a gift for dedications, while for christenings a gift is usually given. if you prefer to err on the side of bringing a gift, a book would be wonderful, perhaps a nice keepsake book like a cherished book that you loved as a child and enscribe it with a personal yet professional note about how nice it was to be part of her birth.<br><br>
A card would be more than sufficient, as a mother who invited a few special people to join us when we dedicated Henry.
 

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Thanks everyone for your feedback! I'm sure it will be a nice day. I'm going to get him a book and write a nice card for the family.
 

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I bring plants to christenings. Theres a whole symbolic life force thing associated with a living gift, and when it dies the parents can just throw it out (or compost it) and they aren't burdened with another picture frame. A flowery thing in a hanging pot has big visual impact but doesn't cost very much.
 

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That's a great idea!
 

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I'm assuming that since it isn't a christening they aren't catholic, I'm not either, and if we were to do something like that, we would feel very werid about getting gifts! So your plan sounds good to me!
 

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I think the plant idea is the best. If I ever find myself going to a christening, that's what I'm going to bring!
 

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I love the plant idea! In the past I have brought small non-religious gifts to similar events, because I figured the kid would get enough religious stuff. I didn't feel required to bring anything at all, though. For my DD's baptism, some people brought religious or sentimental gifts and some people brought nothing, which was totally fine.
 
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