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I would like to come here and say that the Lord has opened my heart now. My conscience/the Holy Spirit was always urging me towards GD and away from punitive punishment but I was not listening well.<br><br>
My mother was always against spanking but not at all gentle (yelling, shaming, face slapping) and my dh was "lovingly" spanked frequently with a paint stirring stick because the "Bible said so". This produced a lot of fear in me and a lot of anger in my husband.<br><br>
These Bible verses have shown me that grace-based living is what God intends for us.<br><br>
Galatians 5:22-23<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">22But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23gentleness and self-control.</td>
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Matthew 18<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">1At that time the disciples came to Jesus and asked, "Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?"<br>
2He called a little child and had him stand among them. 3And he said: "I tell you the truth, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. 4Therefore, whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.<br>
5"And whoever welcomes a little child like this in my name welcomes me.</td>
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Matthew 22:37-39<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">37Jesus replied: " 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.'[a] 38This is the first and greatest commandment. 39And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'</td>
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Ephesians 6:4<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">4Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.</td>
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There are many more verses but these were the big ones for me....<br><br><br><br>
I have been so wrong in the way I have treated my precious little Jack (4yo).<br>
I repent of that and look forward to treating you and your baby sister will all the LOVE I have in my heart.<br><br>
I was decieved by other to think spankning was Biblical. IT IS NOT!!! Lord have mercy on me!! I remember when my son was around 2 and my MIL told me it was time to start "using the rod" or something to that effect. I got this sick feeliing like I was going to vomit and pass out. God help me to never brush off that feeling again!! I thought I was just being too emotional. It did not make sense that I lovingly grow, gently birth, cuddle, and nourish this baby to end up hitting him? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/brokenheart.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loss"><br><br>
I cannot tell you how filled with regret I am and how thankful I am to the Lord for revealing this to me. My son is very spirited and is flourishing with me and dh treating him with grace and love..unconditionally. Punitive punishments left all of us angry, frusterated, and worn down. Grace and love have all of us feeling accepted and nutured (and having FUN!) Children are small people made in the image of God. Jesus was especially loving towards them.<br><br>
Thank you to mothering, member dulce de leche, aloff, and gentle Christian mothers website for helping me through this. God help me to never treat my children that way again.<br><br>
I have so much more to say but I am emotionally exhausted from this right now.......Please be gentle with me...I came here so other Christian mothers would not be deceived and would treat their children gently.<br><br>
Jennifer
I would like to come here and say that the Lord has opened my heart now. My conscience/the Holy Spirit was always urging me towards GD and away from punitive punishment but I was not listening well.<br><br>
My mother was always against spanking but not at all gentle (yelling, shaming, face slapping) and my dh was "lovingly" spanked frequently with a paint stirring stick because the "Bible said so". This produced a lot of fear in me and a lot of anger in my husband.<br><br>
These Bible verses have shown me that grace-based living is what God intends for us.<br><br>
Galatians 5:22-23<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
<div class="smallfont" style="margin-bottom:2px;">Quote:</div>
<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">22But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23gentleness and self-control.</td>
</tr></table></div>
Matthew 18<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
<div class="smallfont" style="margin-bottom:2px;">Quote:</div>
<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">1At that time the disciples came to Jesus and asked, "Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?"<br>
2He called a little child and had him stand among them. 3And he said: "I tell you the truth, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. 4Therefore, whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.<br>
5"And whoever welcomes a little child like this in my name welcomes me.</td>
</tr></table></div>
Matthew 22:37-39<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
<div class="smallfont" style="margin-bottom:2px;">Quote:</div>
<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">37Jesus replied: " 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.'[a] 38This is the first and greatest commandment. 39And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'</td>
</tr></table></div>
Ephesians 6:4<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
<div class="smallfont" style="margin-bottom:2px;">Quote:</div>
<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">4Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.</td>
</tr></table></div>
There are many more verses but these were the big ones for me....<br><br><br><br>
I have been so wrong in the way I have treated my precious little Jack (4yo).<br>
I repent of that and look forward to treating you and your baby sister will all the LOVE I have in my heart.<br><br>
I was decieved by other to think spankning was Biblical. IT IS NOT!!! Lord have mercy on me!! I remember when my son was around 2 and my MIL told me it was time to start "using the rod" or something to that effect. I got this sick feeliing like I was going to vomit and pass out. God help me to never brush off that feeling again!! I thought I was just being too emotional. It did not make sense that I lovingly grow, gently birth, cuddle, and nourish this baby to end up hitting him? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/brokenheart.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loss"><br><br>
I cannot tell you how filled with regret I am and how thankful I am to the Lord for revealing this to me. My son is very spirited and is flourishing with me and dh treating him with grace and love..unconditionally. Punitive punishments left all of us angry, frusterated, and worn down. Grace and love have all of us feeling accepted and nutured (and having FUN!) Children are small people made in the image of God. Jesus was especially loving towards them.<br><br>
Thank you to mothering, member dulce de leche, aloff, and gentle Christian mothers website for helping me through this. God help me to never treat my children that way again.<br><br>
I have so much more to say but I am emotionally exhausted from this right now.......Please be gentle with me...I came here so other Christian mothers would not be deceived and would treat their children gently.<br><br>
Jennifer