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I attended an EC workshop by a well-known EC guru lately. However, most of her anecdotes did involve her raising her EC kid out in the country. Lots of going to the bathroom outside, not a big concern for privacy or city living. Big sinks, big house, big sky living. She didn't have a whole lot of advice regarding city ECing. Lots of running around naked. Outside. In the Big, Big Backyard.<br><br>
I am not so lucky. I don't even have a backyard. Our sink is not big enough to pee in, what with all the dishes in there. Our "house" (and I use that term loosely) is tiny. We are out a lot, maybe for hours every day, doing our city thing (school, volunteering, working, visiting friends). While I personally think baby nekkidness is cute, I am quite sure I don't want the creepy dude down the street to think so.<br><br>
Please advise. I know it's possible, on a recent trip we saw an EC family just take the baby out to the street and have her pee on the tree. No big whoop, she was in a diaper but peed outside. Is this what you do? Do you just make several efforts through the time out and about? What do you do in your tiny house - diaper and EC?<br><br>
What do you NYC mamas do? Cos if anybody's got it figured out, I suppose it would be you.
 

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I don't live in NYC, but I live in an LA suburb in California. We EC and use cloth as backup. Our backyard is not too big, but I would just take him out there on occasion during the summer time to pee in the bushes.<br><br>
If I pee him in the sink, it's in the bathroom and not the kitchen. I know pee is sterile, but I couldn't do it.<br><br>
I have the diaper on him most of the time, and I take him to potty after meals and naps and about once an hour while he's awake. Lately, though, he's been letting out this crying sound when he needs to go. It's really the first time where he's signaled like that. The distinctive cry happens on other occasions, but it's normally when he needs to go.<br><br>
While out, I usually just EC the poops. I haven't been able to pay close enough attention to EC the pees when out. It depends, though. We are more successul when we are at someone's house or something like that. He usually poops after a meal. Otherwise, it's pretty easy to notice if he needs to poo because he clearly bears down.<br><br>
HTH!
 

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I never did that naked all the time thing. We use cloth diapers without a cover, so when you are holding her, it is immediately evident that she has peed, but it doesn't go all over the place. I carry a BBLP in my car. Don't know how you could translate that to taxi and subway travel. I also sometimes just go back to diaper use when traveling. I pick up on whatever cues I can, then let the diaper catch the rest.<br><br>
Good luck!<br><br>
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Are you a follower of the flying spaghetti monster, too? :LOL
 

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we also live in LA, it's fairly urban in my area. When we ECed our older son, we lived in a 2 bdrm townhouse with a teeny patio/garden. He wore dipes or training pants, almost all the time for the first year and was only nakey at home during the day after that and only if I wasn't having a stressed out day. We mostly used potties, had 3 of them, one upstairs, one downstairs, one at my parent's house. He rarely peed in a potty away from home, he'd hold it until he ended up going in his dipe or we got home, whichever came first. My 2nd son (who's now 16 mo) does the same thing. If we'll be away from home for a long time, I'll bring along our BBLP and he'll now use that.<br><br>
My first son wasn't much of a signaller, but, then, I wasn't much for paying attention to his signals <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> The little one will not signal if he's nakey until there's a puddle, so he wears training pants if I don't want puddles in the house.
 

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The bblp is pretty small, and fairly conducive to travel. I was on a trip to philly and dc earlier this summer, and carried it around in the diaper bag or under the stroller. We actually did better on the road than when we're at home, probably because I was more attentive to it. I have so many more distractions now at home.
 

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I know some moms EC into a tupperware or ziploc container, then they put a lid on it until they have a convenient place to dispose. I think you can also slip one of those containers into a bblp if the babe is more comfortable that way. I usually just dump mine. But I live in a fairly non- urban area. (still can't say suburban) and DD never poops away from home.
 

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I live in a fairly urban area. We have a small apartment with a small communal yard. I would have been ok letting Ben pee outside, but my neighbors and dh would not.<br><br>
I actually found it easier to ec in a small space. Ben was never far from me, we had a bblp in the room with us at all times, and he was diaper free at home. We started at 12 months, and he was already not in a diaper most of the time, because changing was such a pitb. When he did wear a diaper at home, it was coverless cloth. I always had a pile of pfds or flats handy for misses (again, the small space).<br><br>
A BBLP will fit in a good sized diaperbag, backpack or messenger bag with room for a change of clothes or 2. I don't like diaper bags, we use my school bookbags.<br><br>
I did use the ziploc round container for a while when we went on long car trips. We kept the potty in the car or bag and dumped pee wherever ( on a tree, in the parking lot, in the grass). Ben wore a cd in a cover (proraps) if he would be sitting in a carseat or stroller. We usually just let him use the diaper and pottied him when we stopped.<br><br>
This time I think I'll get a spill proof potty because we will be ecing a newborn and I don't want to run to the bathroom everytime she has to go, but don't want and open container of poop sitting next to me either.
 

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I live in the Bronx (NYC). For about the first three months of dd's life, we used coverless flat diapers most of the time, with some naked time at home. We could tell immediately when dd had gone. Now, we still use the diapers to clean up the hardwood floor during naked time, but dd wears plain pants, panties with stockings, or panties under fleece pants (the last is the "safest" option for when she will be passed around or sitting on a carpet at someone else's house or the like). We wash cloth diapers and wet clothes at the laundromat, once a week.<br><br>
At home, I used to hold dd over the bathroom sink to pee. Now I mostly hold her over the toilet (while sitting backwards on it), or let her sit on a little potty or toilet seat reducer. Actually, I believe this is easier in my 1-BR apt. than it would be in a huge house. We're never far from the bathroom, and we don't need multiple potties! When we're out, we often use a tupperware container. I have also used public bathrooms, trees, bushes, grates, trash cans, and pulled-down cloth diapers, in a pinch. Depending on the situation, it can be hard to pee discreetly in NYC. The tupperware is my "safe", socially acceptable option, when I'm in crowded situations. Sitting on the train, I can pull dd's pants down just far enough (so they still cover others' view of her bottom pretty well, but they won't get wet) and hold a tupperware container right under her bottom, without anyone really noticing. Seeing parents fiddling with tupperware and kids' clothes is pretty unremarkable, I suppose. If I don't have a seat, I have hopped off the train to potty, then caught the next train. I've heard that others can do container pottying without even taking the baby out of the sling, which sounds really cool. But it's more than I personally can manage. :LOL<br><br>
Before I started ECing a newborn, I was pretty nervous about how it would work with my Urban Lifestyle - ha. As you said, "out and about" for us is, like, all day long on a fairly regular basis. But it's actually been much easier than I expected. Offering quick pottytunities before we leave somewhere, when we arrive somewhere, whenever I myself am in a bathroom, before we get on a bus or train, etc. almost eliminates badly timed potty incidents.
 

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I started EC when Alana was 2 months old, she spent the first 3 weeks in NICU. I put cloth diapers on her and when I know she needs to go I take her to the bathroom. I take her also when I change her diaper, when she wakes up and after she eats.
 

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Thanks, everyone! Some good ideas here, and I might join my local diaperfree group.<br><br>
lucymay, why yes I am, in response to your question. Who could not love His Noodly Appendage?
 

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Wait, did you say you live in NYC? If so, you should definitely come on over! <a href="http://groups.yahoo.com/group/NYCdiaperfreebaby" target="_blank">http://groups.yahoo.com/group/NYCdiaperfreebaby</a> We are meeting on 11/10.
 
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