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Just a question. I have a relatively attached 2 year old. She is nearing 2 1/2. I leave her with my mom and she does ok when I work two days a week. She even sleeps over in the same room as her brother at my moms. So she does well.<br><br>
However, every place else she has a difficult time. We were doing Gymboree and she participated sometimes, but I felt it was too busy for her. After fall session, I decided to do ballet. She loves to dance. She adores ballet, the teacher is really flexible and does a lot of movement and play in her class. I stay with her for it and often times am right next to her for the entire class, as she wont do anything if i go sit with the other moms. She participates well and enjoys it as long as Im near her, and she cant wait to go each week (i dont wnat it to seem like i force her).<br><br>
At Sunday school she wont let me leave her, so I stay for that too.<br><br>
I would love to go to the gym and leave her, but i dont want ot leave her screaming, so we dont do that...<br><br>
there is a religious book study coming up at church i want to attend, and they have care in the next room and I dont think I can do it as she wont let me leave her....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Do you other moms of cling ons just not do stuff? I go the gym and attend things when I leave the kids with dh, and she went through a period of crying when I left and I left her anyhow bc she was with Daddy. She is fine now about staying with her dad. I dont know if I should attempt things or keep trying....
 

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Hi to me the whole reason i have done attached parenting from the beginning is to encourage indepence at an older stage..perhaps your daughter hasnt reached that stage yet. My son is 2 and was very attached as a baby but now he cant get rid of me fast enough! If we are at playgroup its like bye mommy and he doesnt even come to me the whole hour or whatever it is, even going to other people and getting cuddles of the other moms and back to playing. I am so proud of his independence and it made all those months and months of clinginess worthwhile. Your dd will get there too, perhaps she is just not ready yet. Just hang in there!
 

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That's totally how my oldest dd was. She always wanted me right next to her in classes. She wouldn't ever go off to play with other kids, unless she knew them really well. She was ok being alone with her daddy, as well as her grandparents and a good friend. She is a very cautious kid and if she didn't know someone really well she wouldn't want to be left with them (sounds understandable). At 3.5 she started to be more independent and take classes without me being in the class. Now she is 5.5, and while she still is attached to me and is often found at my side, she is also an independent little girl. She runs into her school everyday without any trepidation, no looking back. She wants to take all the afterschool classes that she can. So basically, it may take more time for your dd to feel comfortable on her own, but she will get there at her own time. If you want to do someting on your own, leave your dd with someone whom she is comfortable with.
 
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