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No idea where to post this question…..<br><br>
So, it’s pretty darn hot here and for the past 5 years or so, I have always worn underwear and a tank top around the house. Sometimes just a bra and skip the tank top <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> I know DH likes it but I’m pretty sure it’s not appropriate to walk around like this around in front of DS when he’s older. He is only 10 months now.<br><br>
When do you think it’s time to cover up around home? Does anyone else live like this?
 

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My kiddos's are 14 y/o 8y/o and 3 1/2 y/o and i still walk around the house like that somedays. Esp after a shower and at night time. We are all comfortable in our own skin here. I'm interested to hear what other mama's say. I want my kids to know that their body is nothing to hide and to be proud of the way God made them.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I see no issues with it... maybe when they're teenagers, sure, but heck he's only 10 months!
 

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It's time to stop when he starts going "Mom! Why don't you have any clothes on! Ah! I'm soooooo embarrassed".<br><br>
At least, that's what I think.
 

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I'm more comfortable with clothes on but DH walks around completely naked pretty often...last night he came out of the shower and was wandering around the house, and I asked him (just out of curiosity, really) if he was gonna do that when DD is older (she's four months now). I don't necessarily think it's a bad thing...it does feel a little weird to me, but I think that's just cuz my dad was always very private (my mom and sister and I, however, still walk around naked in front of each other when the opportunity arises <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">).<br><br>
Anyway, so I'm curious to hear what other people think!<br><br>
DH and I talked about it and agreed that it's probably an American thing to have a problem with it. I lived in Romania for a year and Europeans really are very comfortable with nakedness...I was working at a camp and there was a big issue one time because one of the Romanian guys went in the bathroom to use the toilet while one of the American girls was taking a shower in the see-through-glass shower stall. She was livid, but he didn't even see an issue with it...none of the other Romanians did either. I think it's a cultural thing, not an "appropriateness" thing...if it's normal in your house, then your kids will feel like it's normal, you know?<br><br>
Course that could be a problem when they're with other people!--I had a friend who was so used to being naked in front of her brothers that she stripped her tshirt off in front of a guy friend so she could try on another tshirt...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> She thought nothing of it but he was shocked!<br><br>
So I think the issue is really 1) what you're comfortable with in your house, and 2) how comfortable you want your kids to be with that kind of thing around others. If they're used to it, they won't think of it as something strange or sexual...but you might want to consider how other people in our culture will view it as well (I mean if your kids were to change in front of other ppl, for instance; obviously what goes on in your house is none of their business). But I do think that most Americans are way too hung up on nakedness, and it's way too sexualized in our culture. I worked as a camp counselor a lot and was sometimes really surprised by how uncomfortable girls were about changing in front of other girls. I know they're teenagers and their bodies are changing and all, but come on, we're all girls, we all have the same parts; just put your swimsuit on already! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> And I had a college roommate who was tremendously modest and would hide in her closet to change her tshirt (even though she had an undershirt on in addition to her bra). That's just over the top if you ask me.
 

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Doubleposting to say: Yeah, what twinklefae said! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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When I was a kid I remember my mom walking around naked, And as a teen I wasn't fond of it.<br><br>
Ugghh, DH actually met my dad for the first time in his boxers <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
I think I will stop just before they are teens.
 

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What's the point of being a WAHM if you have to wear pants?
 

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we do that here; my kids are 5, almost 4, and 3 months. I'll stop when they ask me to. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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We don't believe in kowtowing to the Pants Conspiracy around here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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hahahahahahaha!<br><br>
If you make it normal and not something to be embarrassed about/ashamed of, it is something you can do forever. Except you might want to put on some pants to meet his significant other! hahahaha!
 

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idk... I would say once kids start to get embarrased or uncomfortable about it. When they are old enough to know what the heck you're talking about, ask. Also, make sure your hubby is comfortable with the choice too. I know my hubby wouldn't have an issue with me having any kind of nudity around our dd but, if we had a boy I'm sure there would be a point when he would feel like little boy's minds start turning and would want me to not be running around naked (which only happens if there is an emergency and I happen to be sleeping, showering, or changing at the time).<br><br>
Especially now that I am pregnant I hate the confines of pants when it's hot so when getting home from town or errands I usually strip right down to underwear and a tank. Our 2.5 y/o dd typically runs around the house in underwear or underwear and a tank as well. We keep the sheers over the big window in the living room and put pants on for guests... I call that good. Afterall, guys get to wander around in basketball shorts and nothing else... I think a tank and some boy shorts style underwear is our equal to that.
 

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we're naked or in undies all the time. my 5 yo ds has been somewhat modest this last year, but voices no problem with our nudity. i suppose if my kids get older and ask me not to walk around naked i might comply. then again i might not, and i hope they will be as comfortable with nakedness as us. dh always strips down to his boxers the minute he's in the door. we also cosleep and sleep naked.
 

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I see nothing wrong with underwear around kids at all. It's like a bathing suit in a way, right? All the naughty bits covered, so it's fine.<br><br>
I also think nudity is no big deal. I don't do it deliberately but I don't care if immediately family sees something they shouldn't. Actually the other day my DH (he's 31) saw his mom naked - she was getting out of the shower, didn't realize he was in the house. She saw him and went "oops" and ran away, and they both laughed it off. A little embarrassing but not a big deal. It's only really dreadfully awful if you make it be.
 

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Glad to know I'm not the only one and you all made me feel so much better about this!<br><br>
Thanks.
 

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we live with dh's parents, so obviously I don't run around the house naked. but in front of my mil i'm comfortable in anything...and i do bf around the house all the time so I know my fil is okay with it. dh will wander around in his undies but in our room with the door closed it's anything goes. i grew up being used to my mom walking around naked and my dad walking around in his briefs...no biggie. many of my friends when I was a teenager would meet my dad in his underwear (he used to work nights and sleep days and would wake up at 5pm to come to the kitchen for a snack...and there i was studying afterschool with my friends. awkward.) but i'm very comfortable naked. not so much now, as i'm almost 8 weeks postpartum and still have ten pounds to go until i'm in my size 4 jeans again...stretch marks and jiggly butt and all. but my dh loves me for it and likes me naked, and clothes are constricting. and it's hot in the summer. really long post, sorry!
 
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