[Cutie Patootie]

I havent' quite made up my mind...CLW'ing or not...I just keep going.

Ds is 3 now and I am wondering, for older children do you still "offer" the breast or do you wait to be asked? I still "offer" the breast to ds whenever he is upset and needs comfort, but I wait for him to ask any other time. He did not nurse or ask today at nap, which is really unusual but I didn't offer either. I love nursing both of my kids, dd is 14.5 mos and I want her to keep going strong of course, but I would not be terribly offended if my 3yo weaned himself. I truly cannot fathom myself nursing 3 if that should come around anytime soon.

 

[ericswifey27]

I almost always wait to be asked. I have been known to offer if I sense ds is about to get cranky about something, as a kind of mini intervention of sorts.

I really wouldn't mind stopping nursing, but ds really enjoys it so we continue. He is 2 1/2.

 

[mamabearsoblessed]

At this point we're so busy~ I pretty much wait to be asked though ds is 3 yers 2 mos and he only mostly nurses in at bedtime for literally seconds and in the am for moments. On accasion he'll ask at other points durung the day and I'll nurse him , but he rarely he asks.

DD was 4 yrs 4 mos when clw'ed.

 

[eminer]

Define "wait". When they pile on me, I usually say something like, "But we just nursed!"

I can't fathom myself nursing three, either.

 

[Tonia80]

My 3 year old nurses rarely now but I usually do not offer unless he gest a boo boo or is overtired than I offer it in the same way I may offer a kiss or hug, ya know? Usually though I let him ask.

 

[CharlieBrown]

when he asks!

 

[chandasz]

I follow the "don't offer, don't refuse". Occasionally, I've needed to as DD (2 1/2) to wait a little bit

 

[mezzaluna]

i've heard people say "don't offer don't refuse is a weaning technique" but i don't know whether they're applying that to a certain age range??

i know for my DS there have been developmental phases where he was just too preoccupied to ask, but if i offered he was very enthusiastic about nursing. particularly if he was getting really wound up and frustrated, and i think he doesn't always realize the root cause of his problems being hunger or the need to nurse... he'll just be upset and not able to ask for what he really needs. the older he gets, though, the more i trust his ability to ask me if he really wants it... and the more i ask him to wait a few minutes if it's inconvenient for me then... though i'm still offering when i'm ready if i've had to put him off! he's 20 months today.

 

[Sara Ann]

I stopped offering around 2.5 y.o., unless there was a true need (breakdown, tired, hurt, etc.) for it. I would love it if he weaned sometime soon. I really don't see myself nursing three either. I also would like a little "alone" time for Hayden before new baby arrives.
Xander nurses twice a day, sometimes none. I am just waiting on him.