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As some of you know I am trying to navigate co-parenting with an ex.<br><br>
My daughter & I practice attachment parenting and my ex fully supports this.... however since we are not togther I am looking for co-parenting resources to help us navigate the parenting fields.<br><br>
Most of the resources (books, classes, etc.) are more for parents in nasty relations which we are not but some sort of guide would be helpful. So far we have decided our dd will live with me (we are breastfeeding, co-sleeping, WAHM, etc.) and Dad can have liberal rights of visitation.<br><br>
Any resources, links or stories you have would be appreciated.<br><br><br>
Thanks,<br><br>
Shante'
 

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I'm reading a good book called "Families Apart: 10 keys to successful co-parenting"<br>
by melinda blau<br><br>
so far nothing too earth shattering unusual in it - but it's a good read.<br>
peace,<br>
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Try The Good Divorce, by Constance Ahrons. She describes several different arrangements that worked for parents who were able to co-parent successfully and both remain deeply involved in the kids' lives.<br><br>
good luck!
 

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I'm interested in this too. While x isnt all that supportive of AP, BF and co-sleeping (parts of why we arent together after 6yrs!) i really want us to co-parent and so does he, but its not as easy as just saying it LOL
 

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Wow there seems to really be a need for good co-parenting guidance.<br><br>
So far I have found a single parent AP Yahoo Group as well as good resources on the Attachment Parenting International site in the resources section I think ---- again nothing that screams "that's perfect for us" but much more AP friendly.
 

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I wanted to bump this thread, hopefully someone has come across a great co-parenting article they can share.<br><br>
I'm actually just looking for a great article that explains co-parenting. My ex doesnt understand the concept as his ex-wife and him dont do anything but exchange the kids on the weekend with some conversation during the week about school and what not, i'm looking for more involvment from him. anyway, any articles/links would be great!<br>
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I really believe it is best for the child to have open access to both parents if possible so I knew I wanted to try my hand at co-parenting.<br><br>
I have seen two different versions of co-parenting:<br><br>
1) Parents have joint legal and physical custody (50/50 or 60/40), they all communicate well and both parents <span style="text-decoration:underline;">equally share</span> in the caring for the child.<br><br>
2) Parents have joint legal with one parent having physical custody. The other has reasonable visitation and makes a point to stay an active role in the child's life. This is me should would be better described as <span style="text-decoration:underline;">collaborative parenting</span> than co-parenting.<br><br>
My ex's career and other family obligations have made co-parenting not a realistic option for us. Collaborative parenting on the other hand is a realistic goal.<br><br>
With either version I found this sample co-parenting agreement useful:<br><a href="http://www.cadivorce.com/content.aspx?id=740" target="_blank">http://www.cadivorce.com/content.aspx?id=740</a>
 

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Hi there-- I got this book from my counselor--I think its great. Helps me keep my focus on the kids, and ease up on what I can't control (ie his house.)<br>
Loved the page in the book where it talked about the divorce rules. There are even forms to use about communicating info between parents. I had to order it from the bookstore.<br><br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">Cooperative Parenting and Divorce</span> "Shielding yor child from Conflict" A parent guide to effective co-parenting.<br><br>
by Susan Blyth Boyan, M.ED., LMFT<br>
and Ann Marie Termini, MS LPC<br><br><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FCooperative-Parenting-Divorce-Parents-Guide%2Fdp%2F1880283263%2Fref%3Dpd_bbs_sr_1%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%26qid%3D1202963612%26sr%3D8-1" target="_blank">http://www.amazon.com/Cooperative-Pa...2963612&sr=8-1</a>
 

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Here is a good list of several co-parenting books.<br><br><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FCo-Parenting-Shared-Custody-Joint%2Flm%2FR1IQQDYQOVLJS5%2Fref%3Dcm_lmt_srch_f_2_rsrsrs0" target="_blank">http://www.amazon.com/Co-Parenting-S...ch_f_2_rsrsrs0</a>
 
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