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If you do or plan on co sleeping where will baby sleep during naps? Any opinions on safety of an infant floor bed (mattress on the floor)
 

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Usually we just used the couch, with a bolster. Our couch is not a soft and fluffy type, and during naps I am usually milling about nearby, so I was comfortable with that.<br>
For other times, I have a bassinet to use for naps.
 

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I plan to do the same as I did with ds. For naps if Im not tired and not napping with babe Ill put her down either in a bouncy seat for a quick shower maybe. Or in the play yard (elevated level of course) or maybe even the swing or crib. Pretty much anywhere that she wont be able to fall or wiggle out of. the only thing this time around is if say I needed to take a shower, as a single mom, I have no one to watch DS to make sure that he doesnt start to bother DD2 or give her things shes not supposed to have. Im gonna have to work that out when I get there I suppose.
 

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well B just slept where ever, couch, arms, or anywhere while he was immobile. But for Lilah, DH plans to make her a low rocking cradle and that'll be down stairs for us to use. hehe, I'm so excited for him to make it, he's making one for my BFF too as a surprise for her shower. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I hope baby will sleep happily in a bassinette on the main level when I'm around and if I'm not having a little nap too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
organicpapayamana, a few friends I know did the baby napping and toddler in the back of the shower while they showered and then no one was left to their own devices.
 

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For the first 4-5 months DD napped in a carrier, around 5 months I started nursing her to sleep in our bed and would leave her there. Our mattress was on the floor, with one side against the wall and a twin on the other side. She has never fallen off our bed (now 2.5), and she started rolling over and crawling very early. I just kept the monitor on and would quickly go check on her if I heard her moving. We will do the same with the next one.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I hope baby will sleep happily in a bassinette on the main level when I'm around and if I'm not having a little nap too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
organicpapayamana, a few friends I know did the baby napping and toddler in the back of the shower while they showered and then no one was left to their own devices.</div>
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you know I was thinking about that but I have to take a shower with the door open to make sure the LO is ok so the only way I can keep DS in the bathroom with me is to put him in the shower with me. Im ok with that for now but by the time baby is here DS will be 2 and Im not sure how long that is appropriate for. On top of that, sometimes Im too exhausted to bring him in the shower with me... kwim? I just want an alone shower to relax for 5 min all to myself... so idk. Maybe I can put DD2 in the bouncy in the bathroom with me, close the door and let ds play outside? Although then Ill worry about DS getting into trouble.. though most of the time hes fine. We will see I suppose.
 

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We've always done the mattress on the floor. We did have a bassinet but it never got any use. So I freecycled it years ago. I used a monitor and checked anytime I heard any movement. However, I've never had a baby that moved a bunch while sleeping so I never worried too much about them rolling off the bed. I always felt it was safe in my case. And I was a super-worry wort, especially with my last.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">by the time baby is here DS will be 2 and Im not sure how long that is appropriate for. On top of that, sometimes Im too exhausted to bring him in the shower with me... kwim? I just want an alone shower to relax for 5 min all to myself... so idk. .</div>
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It's appropriate as long as you and DS are both cool with it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Once you aren't, it's not. We're pretty nude comfortable here but lots of people are more or less than we are.<br><br>
I totally get wanting a few minutes alone in the shower. What would DS tink about having play time alone in his room where he's a bit more safe with less to get in to. Or baby gate the baby in the bathroom and DS can play outside the gate?<br><br>
I'm sure you'll think of something. And whenever someone comes to visit and asks if there's anything you need? Tell them you need a shower and then do it!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">It's appropriate as long as you and DS are both cool with it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Once you aren't, it's not. We're pretty nude comfortable here but lots of people are more or less than we are.<br><br>
I totally get wanting a few minutes alone in the shower. What would DS tink about having play time alone in his room where he's a bit more safe with less to get in to. Or baby gate the baby in the bathroom and DS can play outside the gate?<br><br>
I'm sure you'll think of something. And whenever someone comes to visit and asks if there's anything you need? Tell them you need a shower and then do it!</div>
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those are some great points. My apt is really weird with the layout. There is a staircase in DS room so he is never alone in there. I dont have a gate for it because its a spiral stair case. I do like doing the baby gate in a room that DS cant get into... as for visitors.... well since like almost no one is happy im pregnant because Im a single mama by choice this time so I doubt I will have visitors let alone anyone offering their help. But Im pretty self sufficient and will think of something. Ill get into my grove once GiGi is here <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Not sure what we'll do when there are two napping littles, but with my first son, he just naps in our big family bed alone. We have a video monitor that I tote around the house with me while he's snoozing.<br><br>
He slept in our arms for the first 3-4 months, though.
 

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I napped alot with DS for the first 2 months. After that it was sometimes his bassinet but mostly on my chest. When I returned to work (3 months) DH was home during the day and he always napped with DS in our bed. On the weeknds he napped in our bed totally blockaded by pillows.
 

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The plan for us is that the baby will sleep in a carrier during the day unless one of us wants to lie down for a nap with him/her (which is highly likely, I *love* naps).<br><br>
When we are out of the in arms phase I would be totally comfortable with a matress on the floor if the carrier or napping together weren't working for some reason.
 

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Naps for DD were wherever she would fall asleep and stay asleep. I didn't feel comfortable letting her sleep in the big bed alone so she napped in the PNP, swing or carrier until we got a crib. I think the nap issue is really not addressed enough by cosleeping advocates. Once DD was mobile the crib was almost a necessity for us. I guess I have the same plan for the n00b.<br><br>
Papaya - I love clear shower curtains. You could put the newbie on the floor in a bouncy seat while you shower but still keep the door open so DS can pop in and/or you can hear him.
 

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When DD was just a newborn, she pretty much slept on us (usually propped by a boppy or pillow), or in a carrier, or in the antique cradle that we had next to us in the livingroom. When she started wanting regular naps, we would lay her in her crib (unless I wanted to sleep too, in which case we all slept in bed together). I know some people are really against cribs, but we really wanted our daughter to have her "own" space to go to if desired. She mostly took well to her crib, and if she ever cried or wanted to be held, we picked her right up. Playing in the crib (with a mobile or other object of interest) helps to get a baby used to their fun comfy space.<br><br>
Having a safe space for your baby is not a bad thing. I have known too many people whose babies have fallen out of bed and gotten hurt or whom have just never warmed up to sleeping anywhere else but with mom and dad. Sleeping with your baby is the best thing in the world, and I am constantly recommending a family bed to new parents...but as babies grow and become mobile, safety for naps should be considered and also a little snuggle time for the two parents.<br><br>
Now our DD is almost three. At night she starts off in her own toddler bed, but always comes over to sleep with us in our bed and we totally love that! Sometimes I go and get her before I go to bed, because I just want her next to me and can't wait. For naps, she also usually sleeps in her little bed...unless of course I am sleepy too. She has always been flexible about where she takes naps (at other people's houses, for example) and loves having her own special "big girl" bed. I truly think that a healthy balance is best...between keeping them close and letting them explore their own spaces. This is especially true once out of the newborn stage...where all babies just want to be held and nursed and loved...totally natural and welcomed!<br><br>
Follow your heart and your instincts...and you will never be wrong.
 

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just wanted to add that I always nursed DD asleep and then transferred her to the crib, where a comfy spot was all prepared for her. She nursed to sleep wherever she slept! Didn't want anyone to think I was laying her down and then leaving her there awake! I've never done that to this day!
 

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Even though I always co-slept with all of my babies, I always had an extra playpen for the baby to nap in during the day, that way I could set it up in the living room or kitchen and the baby could still be close to me.<br>
In the earliest months both my babies slept either in their sling attached to me... but my DS LOVED to sleep in his carseat <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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With our twins, either they napped in our bed with me when I needed rest, or they napped in a pack-n-play in our living room where I could watch them. But mostly they napped on someone's chest or lap <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">well B just slept where ever, couch, arms, or anywhere while he was immobile. But for Lilah, DH plans to make her a low rocking cradle and that'll be down stairs for us to use. hehe, I'm so excited for him to make it, he's making one for my BFF too as a surprise for her shower. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"></div>
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Tenk-does he have plans for this cradle? I'm very interested...wondering if it's something my DH could peek at and make-just curious if you have even a pic or something or if it was something he's making totally on his own. Sounds totally cool! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Glad to hear all of your thoughtful replies- I'm leaning towards just having a pack and play on hand if it feels right- while I love the idea of a floor room, we live in such a small apartment that the baby's room needs to be used for other things e.g. our clothing etc so I don't feel like it would be child-proofed enough that I would feel comfortable with a baby able to crawl around un supervised
 
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