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I'm due in January and DD is going to be 2 ½ years old. I'm worried about how co-sleeping will go once the baby is here.<br><br>
Right now we have our bed on the floor and a toddler bed next to it. DD likes to jump on the toddler bed, but prefers to sleep right between me and DH. On the nights I get her to fall asleep in the toddler bed, she gets into our bed in the middle of the night. And she is seriously all over. She'll lay across us (head on DH feet on me) on top of one of us, at the foot of the bed, draped between her bed and ours. There are times when she'll be super tired and spend the whole night in her bed. But that's not reliable enough to count on.<br><br>
So how do I protect her new brother or sister?<br><br>
ETA: When DD was a newborn, I spend many nights out on the recliner because she wanted to sleep on my chest. So going to bed without me may be an issue, too.
 

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when my dd was new i had a bassinet next to my bed, ds slept between me and dh and the bassinet ended up being a guard rail, dd slept in the crook of my arm with bassinet there just in case.<br><br>
now i have a side car crib up for dd and just to give our queen size bed more space. i would not EVER put dd next to ds, even at 5 mon. he sleeps to deeply and actively.<br><br>
gtg two babies crying good luck. pm me if you need more support when your lo comes. the first few months were rough <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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no advice unfortunately <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I have a 2 mo old and a 2 yr old and we use a cradle next to the bed for the infant because its the only way we feel safe. DD also has a twin bed in our room (not up against ours though) that she spends part of the night in sometimes, but she is almost always in our bed before the night is over, and she kicks a LOT, which is dangerous to us, let alone our baby.
 

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DD#1 was almost 2 when DD#2 was born and since the baby wasn't rolling we just put her on the outside with a pillow to her back and she slept on her side and nursed. DD#2 slept in between DH and I. The first couple of weeks were hard and I didn't actually sleep much in the bed because the baby didn't nurse well while lying down but after we got that worked out, it was fine. The worst part was my hips would begin to ache from sleeping on my side so often. I'd have DH and I switch sides of the bed sometimes so I could lie on my other side. Also to nurse DD#2, I'd just roll over and put my back to the baby if she was sleeping. I don't move when I sleep so I knew she was safe. DD#2 is now 4 months old and she's big enough that I can let them sleep next to each other with no problems. Of course DD#2 is the size of a 9 month old already so that might help. I worried a lot about them sleeping together in the bed but it's turned out to be much easier than I expected. My DH takes DD#1 to bed at night too and has for a while so I didn't have that worry. That might complicate things a little bit.
 

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we are the adoptive parents of a baby girl, now 13 months, and we are expecting a second child very soon.<br><br>
sleep has become so precious, that we are worried one will wake the other. has this become an issue for people with toddler and nb?<br>
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All we could figure out to do was dh sleeps with ds1 in one room, I sleep with ds2 in another. We're still in that arrangement now, but now that the kids are older we are pretty ready to try different combos - sometimes the boys have fallen asleep in the same bed and they're fine now that I don't worry about ds2 as much. As soon as we get a king size bed that will open up possibilities too.
 

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Yes, the kids wake each other up in our house. At first it was the baby waking her sister and around 6 weeks it was DD#1 waking her sister. DD#1 was getting her 2 year molars though and it was pretty hard on her. But for a while I wasn't sure who was waking who anymore as everyone seemed to be up in the middle of the night. At 4 months now, DD#1 is sleeping through the night again and DD#2 only stirs slightly to get me to nurse her and we all sleep very well again.
 

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We sleep with a snug-tuck pillow on one side of the bed, which the baby sleeps next to, then me, then dh, then almost-3 year old ds by the other wall. This works great, and we've been doing it since ds #2 was born. Occasionally ds#1 decides he wants to be next to the baby, but even then I've just put my arm sort of around the baby so I'd notice if my older son started rolling onto him or something. During the day, we've been using an amby bed for naps with the baby, and that's worked well too - I definitely recommend getting an amby if you don't want to wear your newborn while s/he is napping - with ds #1, we got him used to being up against someone constantly, and it was incredibly frustrating to NEVER be able to put him down for naps. He also quit napping at all when he got too big to wear, and now won't take naps even if he needs one. Argh. But that's another story! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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When my second was born my oldest was 3 and had always co-slept so I sidecarred a crib - even though the baby didn't really sleep in the crib part I knew he couldn't roll out. This worked out well for us - the first night was horrible but after that it was actually fine.<br><br>
Now my baby is 19 months and we've moved and sold the crib so I have a twin over full bunk bed - my now 4 year old sleeps up top and I sleep below with ds #2. Works out well because Ds #1 still pops down sometimes at night and Dad has a king sized bed to himself. My boys also now sleep next to each other a lot on the full sized bottom bunk, which I'd like to keep up when DS#2 weans and I can go back to the big bed (which will hopefully happen in the Spring because I'd love to get pregnant again)<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">.
 

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We have a 2.5yo and a 6mo. It's a real adventure!<br><br>
DD1 has a toddler sized bed in the main bedroom with us and she starts the night there, moving to the family bed around 2am. When dd2 was brand new our set up was the co-sleeper attached to the big bed in case we needed more room for dd2 and the order was co-sleeper/dd2, then me, then dh, then dd1 when she joined us for the night. This kept "active sleeper" dd1 far away from newborn dd2 and provided a little extra room.<br><br>
Now we have a siderail instead of the co-sleeper but it's still dd2, me, dh, dd1.<br><br>
We've been lucky, I know, but even when dd2 was screaming it really never bugged dd1 and dd1's loud dreams haven't woken dd2. But we live on a noisy street near a fire station and both girls got used the sirens and loud cars in the womb and can sleep through almost anything. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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