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I've been lurking since March 26 when I got a very unexpected BFP. I was convinced the dollar store test was wrong, despite being a week late (& hugely bloated.) But as I read about the round ligament pains (which I'd been having every time I moved or sneezed), I slowly realized that no, the test wasn't wrong.<br>
So I read along, feeling almost all of the same things everyone here was feeling, just waiting to see what would happen. I admit, I wasn't thrilled to be pregnant. I was very content with my three, feeling like at four yrs old, my youngest couldn't possibly nurse <i>that</i> much longer. After 10 years of being pregnant and/or nursing (and nursing for the past 7 consecutive years!), I was ready to focus on rebuilding my body. Ten years of mothering feels like it has taken a lot out of me. So the thought of going through another pregnancy, not getting much sleep, lots of nursing (which I love, but it <i>is</i> a great demand on the body) and dividing my time amongst yet another child was a bit overwhelming.<br><br>
And then I came upon 12 weeks, saw my midwife, heard the heartbeat & it seemed settled. So here I am.<br><br>
Morning sickness stinks and though I've felt icky every day, I've only thrown up 3 times. With my other three pregnancies, I threw up all day, every day, until nearly 20 weeks. This has been my first pregnancy without gluten, and I can't help but wonder. Even though I've felt icky, it's been *nowhere* near as debilitating as it was with the others. Mostly just smell/food aversions - especially to chicken & the computer.<br><br>
I look like I'm a good 5-6 months along & people have actually been asking me since I was 10 weeks along if I'm pregnant. Maternity shorts/skirts have been my friend for a month now.<br><br>
The kids are thrilled and have been calling the baby "turkey" since it's due right about on Thanksgiving.<br><br>
I started feeling definite movements about a week or so ago (around 12 weeks.) It's been noticeable earlier and earlier with each pregnancy - with my first, I felt her at 16 weeks, can't remember with my second and with my third, I clearly felt him at 11 weeks. I thought I felt this one earlier, and I may have, but I'm not sure. I'm pretty slim - maybe that's why I feel them early?<br><br>
We've planned a home birth and I'm not counting on my mw getting there in time. My labors are fast and easy - what a blessing. My labor with Dd1 was 3.5 hours from when that first contraction woke me from sleep until she was born. Dd2 came in exactly 1 hour from that first contraction waking me until she was here (mw missed that one) & Ds was born in 2 hours. We definitely won't be traveling for Thanksgiving.<br><br>
I lost my Dad the day after Valentine's Day. It was very much a shock and among all of the other signs of grief, AF was actually early - which has never happened in all of my life. I've heard that shock and grief can alter your cycle & I suppose that was the case. R. & I had sex once in the month following my Dad's passing and though it should have been a "safe" time, it was apparently the perfect time for this determined little soul to join our family.<br>
I know this sounds waaay out there, but I've heard that a soul will linger in this world for some time before passing on, especially in the case of a traumatic death. I find the thought of this baby's soul sharing this world with my Dad's soul, for however brief a time, to be very comforting.<br>
I'm sure this new little life will be a welcome distraction from the holidays and my Dad's first birthday without him being here to celebrate it.<br><br>
I think that's all for now. I probably left out some big details, but I only "came out" yesterday & I'm feeling a little "naked on stage", iykwim.
 

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Welcome!<br><br>
I am also due around Thanskgiving and calling the baby my little turkey <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Welcome to our little bubble, and thank you for sharing your story. Sounds like your little one really was determined to find you!<br><br>
Where I come from it is believed that a soul lingers here for 40 days before passing on...
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave"> Welcome!!<br><br>
Glad to have ya join us!!
 

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Another "turkey" baby here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Though it's gotten the nickname "bellybean" from me. The kids (and me, though I try to keep my mouth shut and opinion out of it) think she is a girl. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
and congrats!<br>
I felt a lot like you...wanting a little break from the reproduction for another few months...though I did want 1 more....this one's got interesting timing. I too should've been "safe" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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Congrats! And I totally understand your feelings of shock. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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welcome!
 

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Good to meet you - welcome!
 

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Glad you are here! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave">
 

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All three of my pregnancies have been unplanned. This last one wasn't supposed to happen for another 6 months or so! I kinda like the thought that these little ones are "meant to be"! Welcome!
 

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Welcome! I recognize you from the allergy forum (I mostly lurk there). My due date is actually Thanksgiving, but I never thought of calling the bean "turkey." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Mine was a bit of a surprise, too. After taking 4-6 months while TTC, this happened quickly while merely "not preventing," at an older age...<br><br>
This is also my first gluten-free pregnancy, and I didn't feel nearly as sick as the first two.<br><br>
I'm sorry to hear about your dad. I lost my dad 2 years ago, and it was hard to contemplate bringing another life into this world that he would never meet.<br><br>
Congratulations and good luck!
 

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Congratulations on your surprise, and welcome!<br><br>
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss of your father. I was 17 when my dad died, and I love what you said about the idea of those two very important souls getting to spend some time together before your little one headed to you. If you ever want to talk, PM me.
 

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None of mine were ever "planned" either, some bigger surprises than others - especially the one who came to us while I was on the pill. But I couldn't imagine life without any of them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/stillheart.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stillheart"><br><br>
Thanks for all of the warm welcomes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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This one wasn't planned for me, either. I got pregnant in my last semester of school, when I was supposed to be going out and getting a job and so forth after graduation (which, given the job market, the amount I'm showing now, and other circumstances just probably isn't going to happen until after the baby), and I really wasn't happy about it at all in the beginning.<br><br>
I oddly found that eating wheat-based products was the only thing that made eating tolerable, which was kind of strange! I normally eat low gluten, not out of necessity but because someone else in the house is gluten sensitive, so we normally cook gluten-free. Usually, I feel better that way, but not during MS.
 
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