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I was induced with Anneke two and a half years ago. I'm really sure what I want to say in this post -- just kind of talk about it, I suppose. I am pregnant now and planning a homebirth, but I'm having trouble with trusting myself to be able to do it. Am I just not healthy enough to birth on my own? My mother wasn't, apparently. She had three inductions. Did I do something wrong during Anneke's pregnancy? I know I didn't exercise enough and I probably didn't eat as well as I should have. . . Could I have avoided pre-e? Is that even possible? Can you only trust your body to birth as it should if you eat a perfect diet, exercise every day and are healthy in every way?<br><br>
I also feel like the labor I had with Anneke wasn't authentic, that it didn't really "count" as labor, does that make sense? I keep trying to learn from what happened during her labor, but I want this one to be so different, and that one was so medicinized that I'm having trouble making a comparison.<br><br>
And to top it all off, my midwife and I looked over my hospital records and she said that give my bp, she would not have sent me for an induction without waiting a few days. So maybe I didn't really have to go through all that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Sigh.
 

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I feel for you because to have your first birth induced is really tough. That happened to my sister years ago and she was so traumatized. She did go on to have a wonderful home birth experience. She did not eat a perfect diet by a long shot and was not in perfect health.<br><br>
I was more fortunate and had natural births until my last baby. I agreed to an induction at almost 42 weeks after three days of excalating blood pressure. I just couldn't hold out any longer and there were no signs of labor. It was tough, not anything like a natural labor. I did manage to go med free and was very proud of that.<br><br>
I am pregnant now and wonder again if maybe my body is just too old to know what to do. I would go through an induction again knowing what to expect this time. I know I can do it KWIM. Not my first choice but still far better than having a c-section.<br><br>
I have difficult pregnancies and usually require a lot of rest. I am not allowed to exercise other than swimming and short walks. Nothing that raises my heart rate. However I have a large family to care for each day and I do things like hang out three to four loads of laundry each day and other household chores. So definately not sitting on my butt all day. I do try to be careful of my diet but we are not strict about it.
 

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The Brewer diet might prevent pre-eclampsia. It's generally good for you, too.<br><br>
Did you have an epidural with your labor? if so, right away or later? I think induced contractions count MORE than natural ones. Natural ones are usually more gentle.<br><br>
Just because your mother had three inductions doesn't mean she wouldn't have given birth just fine without them. Same with your first. Just remember that your body hasn't had a chance to go into labor yet on its own - which doesn't mean it won't do a great job! Sounds like a doctor's "failure to wait" rather than any failure of your body.<br><br>
Most women with healthy babies did not have a perfect diet, perfect exercise, etc. Heck, does anyone?<br><br>
You can do it!
 

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I'm trying to do the Brewer diet, but I am really bad at it. It is soo much food!<br><br>
I didn't have any pain meds during labor.<br><br>
I just really regret not knowing more about pre-e and labor induction in general, or I maybe could have been spared the whole ordeal. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I know I should just get over it and focus on the future, but there is a part of me that thinks I won't be able to do it.
 

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You will be able to do it! If you can do an induced labor in the hospital without pain meds, a natural labor at home should be a piece of cake.<br><br>
My cervix wouldn't quite open all the way last time. I spent 18 hrs at 9.5 cm before transferring to hospital and getting pitocin. Two drops of pitocin and they declared me complete and finally let me push. But I know that this time it can open on its own, all the way! It has done it before, so it knows what to do. Your body too. Even though the timing wasn't its original choice, it knows how to open up and push that baby out!
 

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The last thing we should do is compare our labors to that of our mothers. Just 30 years ago, a lot of moms were induced, they were still pretty much put to sleep for the birth, and they were told that formula was the best choice. The practice of medicine and "advances" in childbirth have come a long way since we were born. Don't let that be the reason for doubt in your mind!
 

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My first was an induction. I go through the 'what if's fairly often myself. What if I had just waited another few days? What if I had tried castor oil? What if the barometric pressure had been different? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">:<br><br>
In the end, I remind myself that I did the best with what I knew at the time and everything turned out fine. However, with my second, I knew better and so I did things differently. I ended up with a normal, unmedicated labour and birth. I count both births as positive experiences, but the first was just not exactly what I wanted, even though it was not a negative experience, if that makes any sense.<br><br>
Keep in mind that many, many healthy pregnancies go at least to 42 weeks with no complications. I often wonder if normal pregnancies are meant to actually go to 42 weeks instead of 40. Also remember that every pregnancy and every woman is different. If the only thing 'wrong' is that you go overdue, yet the baby is fine, you, your BP and everything else is fine, there is no real reason to induce.<br><br>
Also, pre-E is much more common in first pregnancies and it can effect the healthy/active as well as the 'un-healthy'/inactive. It doesn't mean you will have it again.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">: I hope everything goes well for you this time around. I was much less shy about standing up for what I wanted the second time around. Don't be afraid to firmly ask for what you want.
 

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I was also induced with my first due to pre-eclampsia. I take responsibility for its development. I have since had a natural labour and birth at full-term. Though, it was prodromal and awful with a pph and I still don't trust my body to know what the heck it's doing. So I feel your anxiety, mama.
 

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-- I had toxemia, induction for three days at 37 weeks, c-section.<br>
-- I had toxemia, induction for one day at 38 weeks, successful VBAC.<br>
-- I had high blood pressure and bed rest for three weeks, stripping the membranes at 38 weeks, successful VBAC in hospital 2 days later.<br><br>
-- This time? I need to trust myself, eat well, and I'm going to have a successful VBAC at home. I may or may not end up with the hypertension again, but I don't think I will repeat the toxemia.<br><br>
You'll be fine! And the nice thing about most midwives is that if you begin signs of toxemia, they will do whatever they can to help calm it so it doesn't get that far you'll need induction.<br><br>
You'll do this!
 

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Doctors have an unbelievable fear of pre-e. I had a cesarean because of suspected pre-e (never put on meds or anything). My second pregnancy they wanted to do another cesaeran and wanted me to go into the hospital at 36 weeks "for tests" (although I had just refused a cesarean so I think they really just wanted to get me to the hospital). They insisted that I was in "very bad shape".<br><br>
I went home, took my bp again, and it was 10 pts lower top and bottom than they said. I had my child at home daddy assisted (no medical personnel) and was perfectly fine, without a single sign of high blood pressure.<br><br>
They are so quick to induce and gut us for pre-e because they don't see the down side of inductions and surgery, imo. Do your research, and keep tabs on your own BP and I KNOW you can do it!! Just take care of yourself and try not to stress too much about it. I know how hard that can be. *hugs*
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I was induced with Anneke two and a half years ago. I'm really sure what I want to say in this post -- just kind of talk about it, I suppose. I am pregnant now and planning a homebirth, but I'm having trouble with trusting myself to be able to do it. Am I just not healthy enough to birth on my own? My mother wasn't, apparently. She had three inductions. Did I do something wrong during Anneke's pregnancy? I know I didn't exercise enough and I probably didn't eat as well as I should have. . . Could I have avoided pre-e? Is that even possible? Can you only trust your body to birth as it should if you eat a perfect diet, exercise every day and are healthy in every way?<br><br>
I also feel like the labor I had with Anneke wasn't authentic, that it didn't really "count" as labor, does that make sense? I keep trying to learn from what happened during her labor, but I want this one to be so different, and that one was so medicinized that I'm having trouble making a comparison.<br><br>
And to top it all off, my midwife and I looked over my hospital records and she said that give my bp, she would not have sent me for an induction without waiting a few days. So maybe I didn't really have to go through all that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Sigh.</div>
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Whoa! I am right with you. I could have written your post. I was induced with my first at 39 weeks because of what my OBs called a mild case of pre-e. The more I know about it now and the more I tell people my story they are flabbergasted that I was induced. There wasn't even a hint of, let's wait and see. At my 39wk appt my bp went up to 140/90. I told to do the 24 urine and was scheduled for an NST the following Mon (my appt was late Thur), oh, and also had some blood work. Went in on Sat to drop off my jug, went to L&D for a bp check, still 140/90 (at this pt I was a basket case, so I am sure that had something to do with it). I rest for a little while and my bp went back to below 120/80. I was sent home. On Mon I went for the NST, baby looked great, but I was a basket case and my bp was 150/100 the whole time (my heart rate was also about the same as the baby's, so that should have told them that my bp was not a true reading). After the NST I was whisked off to get a fluid check, they said my fluid was a little low. So, I was sent right up to L&D and admitted. Once at L&D I was told that my protein in my urine was 152 (or 156, can't remember) and that 150 was the cut off (I have since heard that the cut off for mild pre-e is actually 300). The continuously monitored my bp which never even got close to 120/80 (more like 110/70 and I wasn't on any meds). I fought the induction for a couple of days until Wed night when a dr came in and told me I was putting my baby's life in danger (baby and I looked fine on everything, oh and my blood work came back perfectly normal). So, he scared me into letting him give me the heavy duty pit and my baby was born about 16 hrs later. Oh, I should add that I had absolutely no swelling of any kind, not even in my feet and ankles and certainly not in my face and hands.<br><br>
I feel like I was railroaded. Why didn't they send me home, tell me to rest and get plenty of fluids and check me the next day or 2? I only lived 6 blocks from the hospital and up to that pt my pregnancy had been perfectly normal. I am now 35 wks (and in a different practice thank God) and I too am wondering how I will handle labor as I don't feel like I can tell from my first. It was so unnatural. I wasn't at all dialated or effaced when I was admitted. I don't know what it feels like to have a contraction that isn't medically induced. I also had an epidural because I couldn't take it anymore. I had wanted none of that <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
All I can say is I know exactly how you are feeling. Trust your body. You can do it.<br><br>
Beth
 
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