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Just before bed tonight DSD came to me and said, "Katie, I don't have any clean pants to wear to school tomorrow." I calmly told her that I would wash some for her tonight and sent her off to bed. Inside I felt guilty, angry, hostile, hurt, and like I'm failing as a mom because the laundry pile is to the moon. I have no energy or motivation to do much at all and the little things I manage to achieve around here just seem insignificant. I'm not sleeping well because I can't get comfortable so I'm tired all day. DF did the dishes and cleaned up the kitchen after working all day. I feel so useless, like a bump on a log. I'm a SAHM and do nearly nothing all day long lately. I miss being able to clean my own house, make dinner for my family and play with the DC. I'm sure they're all counting down the days with me until the baby comes so they can have me back.
 

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I totally hear you. We have had some chest cold this week, that on top of pregnancy has me down for the count. This too shall pass.
 

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Ugh my laundry and my dishes are too the moon. I don't have a dishwasher so the dishes being out of control is a really bad thing. I am just so overwhelmed. I have depression too though and that is totally contributing.
 

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Aw gee, don't beat yourself up! A day without clean pants is not the end of the world. You are busy making a new human being, what could be more important than that?<br>
I'm not sure how old your DSD is, but I find that laundry is one chore that even really young children can help with. Even if they're too young to turn the washer on, they can carry clothes to the machine & sort the clothes before they go in.
 

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Im with you on this one! My husband has also been working out of town every week for the last month and a half and Im here at home by myself all day everyday.. But I still cant seem to get motivated to get things done. Ill usually wait until the day before he comes home or the day of, and try to pick up a little bit so it doesnt look so much like I havent done a damn thing all week. It just takes so much energy to do anything and I just dont have any energy to begin with!
 

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I agree with ~Katrinka~, don't beat yourself up over this! I can totally relate - I am soooo tired all of the time and don't feel motivated to do <i>anything</i>! It's just hard to find the energy. I especially feel bad because dd always wants to play and I just sit there like a lump. It makes me feel like a bad wife/mother. I just keep telling myself that this is temporary though! I felt the same way when I had awful morning sickness. Feel better!
 

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I haven't done housework in weeks, aside from laundry and mopping. DH is self employed and right now is between jobs, while I am working 40hrs a week. I guess he started to get bored because now when I get home from work most days, the house is clean, laundry is picked up, dishes are in the dishwasher, trash has been taken out. He brings in groceries. It's like a whole new world for me. He even has taken a disliking to my mopping skills and now insists on doing it himself. So laundry is about all I have to do, which is great because an hour on my feet gets them so swollen I have to put them up.<br><br>
I have been really lazy about showering lately. I guess that sounds gross but I'll go 3-4 days when I used to go 2 max. I just don't care. I am making an appointment to get my hair and eyebrows done for the first time in almost a year, because I deserve it and it might be incentive to make myself look better on a daily basis. I feel so big and dumpy,maybe a haircut would put me in a better mindset and make me try harder.
 

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I'm so glad I'm not the only one not taking showers. I felt so guilty last week when I realized I'd worn the same thing 3 days in a row without a showering. My apartment is also a mess. I don't even really have any excuse. No extra kids to take care of. No job. Heck, I'm in my 8th month and I'm still the smallest person in my family. I feel like such a baby. But not bad enough to get up and make dinner. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Thank you mamas. I feel better knowing it's not just me. I can also tell DF that it's normal for this stage of the game and it will pass. I think if I can just set small goals for myself each day then I might have a better chance of getting something done. As it is, the thought of doing all the laundry or cleaning the whole house just seems so overwhelming to me. Better to achieve a few small tasks than nothing at all.
 
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