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I'm just plain confused. I've read a lot of books about breastfeeding like Dr. William Sears book and the Art of Breastfeeding and Dr. Jack Newman's book. These books all seem to espouse feeding on demand. I have a big (16 pound) 3.5 mon. old baby boy who I co-sleep with and feed on demand. I thought this was the right thing to do based on my reading and the support I got from my public health nurse. My little guy goes to bed around 8 every night but can easily awake 3 times for a feeding or every hour - it all depends on his gas, reflux. I nurse to sleep unless for some reason he passes out from a car ride. I am just plain sick of trying to rock him to sleep and my DH works nights so nursing is the easiest.<br><br>
Now i'm confused. I see so many posts on Babycentre.com and even this site - moms talking about their breastfeeding schedules and complaining if their baby is waking even 1 or 2 times in a night. Am I alone? Is this what I should be aiming for? I thought my baby was "normal" but I am now so confused after looking at these different sites.<br><br>
Any ideas? Thanks.
 

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Your baby is perfectly normal. Moms complaining doesn't mean that much... well, it means they are tired and looking for a sympathetic ear. But it doesn't mean that is excessive waking for a babe. You are doing great... feed the baby when he wants it. It is simply the very best thing you can do for him. And when he has a growth spurt and it goes from 3 times a night to 6, feel free to complain!
 

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Thanks! I just wonder sometimes - it's confusing when you read one thing is normal but it seems everyone's baby is doing something else. He has been nursing every hour almost since he got a vaccination on Thursday and I know he is not feeling right. Thanks for the supportive advice.
 

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my daughter is 5 months and she wakes twice a night to eat, and when she has a growth spurt.... we might not sleep for 2 or 3 nights, but shes growing and has wet diapers and most importantly, she isnt being deprived of anything, shes happy and a happy baby makes a happy momma, even if she is tired. So , keep nursing your baby on demand, it wont last forever, and its soooo good for them.<br>
Im 20 and I still eat every 2 hours or so, and I hope knowbody ever tells me Im too old to do that! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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It is so confusing at the start cause all babies are different and the books can't really give a good sense of that. I was waiting for when my dd would space her feedings out more. It never happened. She's 7 months and still nursing like she did when she was 3 months. She goes to bed at 7.30 and wakes up about 7am. In that time, she'll nurse about 2-4 times. But it's so much easier now she's older. I hardly notice her nursing at night. Kellymom.com has good info - I find it more detailed and specific than the books sometimes.
 

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<i>Now i'm confused. I see so many posts on Babycentre.com and even this site - moms talking about their breastfeeding schedules and complaining if their baby is waking even 1 or 2 times in a night.</i><br><br>
It sure is confusing to be a breastfeeding mother and get all this conflicting advice! THere is so much misinformation about breastfeeding and you are absolutely doing the right thing to nurse on cue.<br><br>
Don't be surprised if the moms who are scheduling their young babies lose their milk supplies by the 3rd or 4th month.<br>
Here are articles that explain why:<br><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/bf/concerns/bf-links-concerns.html#schedule" target="_blank">http://www.kellymom.com/bf/concerns/....html#schedule</a><br><br><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/bf/concerns/bf-links-concerns.html#frequent" target="_blank">http://www.kellymom.com/bf/concerns/....html#frequent</a><br><br>
I like the phrase nursing on "cue" because IMHO nursing on "demand" seems to imply that the little baby is rude and demanding. It's this kind of attitude that makes mom's lose their milk supplies if they limit feedings (or think they did because "I wasn't making enough milk because he wanted to nurse ALL the time...") It's normal for babies to nurse very often and that alone does not indicate any kind of problem.<br><br>
There is absolutely no reason to stop nursing to sleep. Nursing to sleep is wonderful and great for your supply!<br><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/parenting/comfortnursing.html" target="_blank">http://www.kellymom.com/parenting/comfortnursing.html</a><br><br>
Keep up the good work, and check in with your OWN gut instincts...you are doing GREAT!!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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<i>He has been nursing every hour almost since he got a vaccination on Thursday and I know he is not feeling right.</i><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Did you know that besides nursing being emotionally comforting because he needs to be attached to YOU, it's also physically helpful because it has endorphins...natural pain relief!
 

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just thought I'd chime in too -- the others are right - your babe is completely normal <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
my dd is 8.5 months and wakes every 2 hours from 9 pm until 6 am. She used to sleep about 3-4 hours at a stretch and then she got teeth and major separation anxiety. Also, I think she piles it on at night because I work during the day (4 days/wk) and the total amount she takes from a bottle hasn't increased in several months. At first I thought I would go bonkers when she started waking more often to nurse but then I decided to bring her into bed with me (she had been in a cradle then a crib next to my bed) and life is much better now.<br><br>
I've found that the best thing to do is ignore all grandparents, in-laws, most other moms, and just go with your instincts. You know when your babe is getting enough to eat and if he's happy. (I'm currently fighting the "you mean you haven't started solids yet?" battle.)<br><br>
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just a thought, you had said that you were sick of rocking him to sleep. do you have a sling? i found that our babes need to be close to us for A LOT of the day and night. being in the sling while you do your housework, dance, or whatever will help him to go tosleep without "rocking" (btw, don't believe ppl who tell you you will spoil the babe by holding him too much...it just isn't true! )<br>
and nursing in the sling has been a LIFESAVER for me<br>
you have gotten some great advise so far about nursing on cue, so i will just second it all <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
you are not alone! babes nurse a lot! bm gets digested in about 90 min, so they may nurse every hour<br>
make sure you at least sleep durring one of your sons naps if you an, it will help with the sleep deprivation! have you learned how to sleep/lie down and nurse?
 

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Thanks again for the advice. My little guy was up every hour last night and wide awake from 3 - 5:30 a.m. so I'm a little tired today! It's nice to see all this support and information. I think I will dig out my sling too - I haven't been using it lately but I know he liked it.<br><br>
Despite the sleep deprivation I often suffer, I just love my little guy and nursing him is a special experience. I know it won't last long so I want to enjoy this time now. Thanks for making me feel everything is "normal"!
 
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