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I have a 12 1/2 month old and he sleeps with us and breast feeds when he wants too..... My husband and I love that he sleeps with us... it really works out for all of us. The CIO thing was not an option..... But... I am a bit confused.. So many people are against co- sleeping and breast feeding (for a long time). Somtimes I start to wonder if there is any truth behind what they are saying such as.....<br>
1. He sleeps with you? You will never never get him out.....I figured at some point the little guy will want to move to a big boy bedroom.... Is this true... when do co sleepers move out of the family bed?<br><br>
2. If I do decide to stop BF how will he ever fall asleep? Any books out there about night weaning you can suggest?<br><br>
3. I figured we would bf until he is ready to stop.... really no later than 2 or 3... People say OMG that is sooooo long.... I then feel like I have to quote the world health org.... I just get sooo sick of people comenting.... and I am not the type of person who is afraid to say what we do.... I dont want to hide or feel ashamed... I know that I am doing the best thing for my child....<br><br><br>
If any one has any opinions that they can give me that would be great....<br><br>
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I think you're doing wonderfully! From what I read here, it's fairly common for 2-3 year olds to naturally outgrow nightwaking & nursing to sleep. Ditto the co-sleeping with a few subtle nudges...although I hear more of that at 4 years...<br><br>
Dr. Jay Gordon's website has some decent info. on nightweaning -- he starts by saying that he doesn't think it's really necessary -- unless it's causing problems elsewhere (hard on Mom, etc.). He also is big on co-sleeping. I think his website is something like <a href="http://www.drjaygordon.com" target="_blank">www.drjaygordon.com</a>... Elizabeth Pantley's "No Cry Sleep Solution" is a good resource as well.<br><br><br>
You'll see many posts around here commenting on their family/friends/acquaintances/strangers saying the same things. There are some pretty funny comebacks as well to stop rude people from getting into your personal lives.
 

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Hey, Rocco's Mommy, I think a lot of us here can tell you that it does come to an end. Thankfully (to me anyway) It's not an abrupt end. Ds (3yo) has been starting to sleep in his own bed since during my pg with dd (5mo). SOme nights he needs to sleep with a parent. Others, he needs to be alone. Many nights, he starts out on his own and then moves into the big bed in the early AM. It was 4:30 this AM.<br><br>
Their sleep is so...active when they are young kids--all the dreaming, waking to go potty, so much daytime learning to process. I figure we'll really set a goal of their own bed, consistently, by the time they start school.<br><br>
Sometimes I just want to snuggle with him too--which is why I am really lax when he comes out of his bed.<br><br>
I have had reactions from people saying "wow--that's a long time," but they are the same ones who said, "you'll never get him out." They were wrong--he enjoys his own bed. I think saying "wow--that's a long time" is inaccurate too. 5 years of a lifetime?<br><br>
Just remember to do what is right for you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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1. He will move out of your bed. It'll start with his own room, then he'll be getting his own house. Then you'll have people calling you Grandma and you'll wonder what happened (says my mom).<br><br>
2. He will be able to fall asleep without breastfeeding. We started with my ds a couple weeks ago where he can nurse at bedtime, but not all the way to sleep. I nurse him, kiss his cheek, tuck him in and go. Of course, he's three. But it does happen.<br><br>
3. I just ignore the negative people. It used to be hard, but now that I'm nursing a 3 1/2 year old, it's easier to brush them off <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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1. when do co sleepers move out of the family bed? my dd moved out of the FB when she turned 3. Her baby brother was coming and she felt she was ready. However, we didn't push her out until she felt ready.<br><br>
2. If I do decide to stop BF how will he ever fall asleep? Any books out there about night weaning you can suggest? sorry, no advice here.<br><br>
3. I figured we would bf until he is ready to stop.... really no later than 2 or 3... People say OMG that is sooooo long.... I then feel like I have to quote the world health org.... I just get sooo sick of people comenting.... and I am not the type of person who is afraid to say what we do.... I dont want to hide or feel ashamed... I know that I am doing the best thing for my child....<br><br>
When people ask me how long I will be nursing, I treat THEM like the ignorants (as opposed to them treating ME like one) I say "yeah, didn't you know that breastfeeding is best not only for babies? you should be more up to date on the news, honey!"<br><br>
hope this helps
 

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1. He sleeps with you? You will never never get him out.....<br><br>
At 5 years my son is now able to stay in his bed for the entire night. Our 3yo starts in his room and then ends up in ours. Our 7mo is in our bed all night. It will happen. Most of the time I wish my 3yo would stay in his room. I have to have dh move his at least once a night because he is literally on top of me. With the baby on one side and him on top of me I get a little anoyed.<br><br><br>
2. If I do decide to stop BF how will he ever fall asleep?<br><br>
Try to establish a night time routine. We do: cleanup, bath, teeth brushing, story.<br><br>
Any books out there about night weaning you can suggest?<br><br>
Don't know if it mentions night weaning, but "The Nighttime Parenting" Book by Sears has good info<br><br>
3. I figured we would bf until he is ready to stop.... really no later than 2 or 3... People say OMG that is sooooo long.... I then feel like I have to quote the world health org.... I just get sooo sick of people comenting.... and I am not the type of person who is afraid to say what we do.... I dont want to hide or feel ashamed... I know that I am doing the best thing for my child....<br><br>
Good for you to speak up about your beliefs. DS#1 weanes at 4, DS#2 weaned at 2, and DS#3 is still going strong. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Keep up the great parenting!
 
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