When I ask my 4 year old not to do something , she has started asking what will happen if I do? Sometimes there are just no "natural" consequences that I can see,and I do not feel it is right to let her just do the thing I have just asked her not to do, and there be no result. My husband does not buy into some of the GD stuff, and although he does not yell or spank, he will show anger and pick her up and put her in her room with the door closed and let her cry. I don't do that, and she cooperates with him MUCH better than me, and still seems just as close to him. It is like she knows that I won't really do anything except talk to her, and she seems to like the talking. She will do something she knows she shouldn't, and then say,"OK, now let's talk about it." I am so confused. I have read a zillion GD books, but it just seems like she is almost looking for more structure from me. Does anyone have the same feeling?