[allgirls]

since I found out I was pregnant again..last time I had a homebirth with a midwife...it was waayyyyyyyyyyy better than my 2 hospital births however not entirely without intervention...

1. The second mw(there are always 2) was a lady I had never met..it was a busy day and she came by until someone else was freed up...she kept turning down my hypnobirthing cd

2. I like complete silence while labouring...the midwives kept whispering in the kitchen..finally I left the house and went outside on the deck(it was July)...they followed me!...

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3. I feel I was pressured into allowing arom at 9.5 cm(baby was not tucking chin) because I was 42 wks 2 days and ms was concerned about meconium

4. The cut the cord immediately even though hubby was supposed to...baby was fine...starting to pink up but a little mucousy...

5. They injected pitocin for possible pp bleeding to bring on contractions instead of just allowing baby to nurse to bring placenta...the massaged and tugged and such as well...I don't like that

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6. baby's temp was 37c at 2 hours and heart beat was a little irregular so we ended up at the hospital with the pediatrition from h.e. double hockey sticks...baby had IV and antibiotics...and I was so week and tired and frightened I wasn't capable of standing up for myself....her temp went down to normal by the time we got to hospital but they insisted she say for 48 hrs and I wasn't able to fight...every time I walked into the special care nursury I was so sad...big healthy 9lb baby...and they would say..."she's fine" as though I should leave...I never left her...they weren't quick enough to call when she was hungry. Oh, I have since read that premature cutting of the cord causes irregular heartbeat in newborns...don't know what there is to that...anyone?

So I am not completely happy...I should have been stronger and fought harder but you know what, I shouldn't have had to ..we should have observed her right here and not jumped the gun...but I didn't know what to do...I had 2 previous babies in hospital but nothing like that had happened.

Anyway I am thinking I want to be like the cat I had when I was young who would go away and have her kittens..under the barn or somewhere, all alone, in a quiet place. I had a friend present last time and I know she will expect to be here this time but I don't want anyone this time...maybe DH if he's home. He is away all week so that's hit or miss...

I feel like doing an "oops" it went to fast...in fact I probably will...I am 10 minutes from the hospital...9-11 is a call away and to be perfectly honest...I don't think I will need either.

Anyway I am 21.5 weeks at this point...about halfway there...I will be checking infrom time to time to see how things are going...

I guess I have a lot of questions and don't really know where to start...where do I start researching...where do I learn how to do this...can I use hypnobirthing and be unassisted?

anyway...at least now I have it out there...thanks for listening

 

[Arora The Explorer]

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Originally Posted by allgirls So I am not completely happy...I should have been stronger and fought harder but you know what, I shouldn't have had to ..we should have observed her right here and not jumped the gun...but I didn't know what to do...I had 2 previous babies in hospital but nothing like that had happened.

Don't beat yourself up about this.

You did the absolute best you coudl do... you were having a baby afterall! You weren't focused on policing the people you trusted to usher in your baby!

I'm so sorry. Your birth does sound so full of interventions to me. And, I can't believe they didn't leave you alone.

Ug.

Welcome to the forum. I wish you a happy & healthy pregnancy and beautiful birth.

There are a lot of great links in a "sticky" at the top of this forum. One of my favorite sites is http://www.freebirth.com/ I think it will answer a lot of yoru questions.

 

[homemademomma]

sigh. that sounds frustrating. i work with a midwife who is afraid to leave a laboring mom alone for more than 5 minutes. its really wierd, imo. at the b.c. i apprentice at we have birth assistants come in at the last minute *just in case*, and usually the women havent met them. the midwives (especially one of them) get kind of wound up during 2nd stage and there is a lot of semi-directed pushing, and fingers in the vagina type stuff. i hate it!

 

[orangebird]

Huh? 37c is totally normal. It is equal to exactly 98.6 F.

Everything those midwives did sounds super annoying, I would be pissed too! I hope you have a much better birth this next time whichever route you end up going. We are lucky to have so many supportive UCers around here!

I hate that women still have to fight for their births. It pisses me off enough that we have to fight to be left alone and treated normally at hospitals, and it pisses me off even more that women are having to battle during births in their own homes. It is so very very sad. Those meddlewives suck! So sorry mama!

 

[AngelBee]

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[amyjeans]

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Originally Posted by allgirls I guess I have a lot of questions and don't really know where to start...where do I start researching...where do I learn how to do this...can I use hypnobirthing and be unassisted? anyway...at least now I have it out there...thanks for listening

So sorry you went through that, but it seems you found something inherently wrong with your experience and need change.
Fire away mama! It sounds like UC is the answer.
all my best!

 

[allgirls]

I know 37 is normal...I questioned it at the time and she said it's high...I am a Farenheit girl and so I thought maybe I had mis-converted

...my husband didn't know what a normal temp should be(his first child)

I am still not sure what I am going to do. I think I will start with a birth plan...present it to my new midwife and go from there...if she objects to anything I will be doing UC

Also I am not calling anyone until I am so far into labour there is nothing to be done...no guarantee they will get there on time that way but I prefer that to them being there and annoying me.

I still have a lot of time..I am only 22 wks...I will carry on as though I am having a midwife but somewhere along the line I am making a decision and I think I am going UC. It just feels right to do it that way.

Thanks ladies

 

[hoppytoad]

My advice is to go with your heart.

It's the best measure of what is right for you.