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Constant, incessant, SCREAMING. (x-post from GD)

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Okay, my son is 20 months corrected age. He has lately turned to screaming all the time. I've tried to watch what triggers it. Everything triggers it. Not just crying but, full on gasping, whailing, shrieking, screaming. I am at my whits end.

I have tried speaking softly. I have tried letting him scream with me there next to him, reassuring him. I have gotten to the point I was so angry, I put him in his room to scream, b/c *I* needed at time out or I was going to snap. I have tried tiring him out. Nothing. I just don't know what to do.

He bangs his head. He hits his arms on things. It is awful. We try to stop him, but we've just said that "hey, when it hurts he'll stop, right?". Wrong.

He has mild CP and he's frustrated. We can't walk when his peers are. I get it, but the screaming is drivng me to questions my own sanity and I am getting really angry with him on a daily basis. It's just ridiculous.

He screamed the entire flight from Züruch to Boston 3 weeks ago when we went to visit my mum. It was so bad, that we we asked to move to the empy first class section of the plane so thhers did not have to deal with him. There nothing pysically wrong with him as we did have brief relapses of solitude, until he got PO'ed again.

He is not really vocal yet, so talking to him when he's like this is of no use.

Help. I am losing my mind.

Olivia (I posted this here too, b/c, I thought maybe some of you would have insight on dealing with a physically delayed child with CP).
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I don't have a child with CP so I'm not sure what all the issues are .. . but here are some thoughts I had about your post. Is it always an issue of frustratio that upsets him, or does he just sometimes seem to do it for no reason? If he sometimes just does it, it could be that he's in pain. Maybe he's teething or has gas, etc.

If he has sensory issues (not sure if he does, just putting it out there) he could be picking up on things that would not bother you and me: shoes being uncomfortable, too many bright lights, the whir of the plane engine or a change of pressure. My dds have sensory issues (outgrowing full-blown SID) and with both, little things become huge things.

If it's a behavioral thing because he's frustrated about his body not doing what his mind wants to do, I was wondering if many sign language would help? You don't have to teach him "real" signs, although that would be helpful for other caregivers. Maybe he just needs some signs for "drink" or "hungry" or "hurt" or "help me" to take away some of his frustration at not being able to make you understand.

With SN kids I know that you have to push them to achieve therapy goals. Maybe he's frustrated that everything is so hard for him, that he has to try so much. Make sure you present him with a few activities each day that he can easily do and feel a sense of satisfaction about.

And now some advice that I was told by another parent when Abi was younger. Let her feel in control sometimes. Let her choose the activity or the shoes she wants to wear or what she will eat for lunch, or what he wants to play with, with you playing along side him. Present choices. Toddlers like to be in control and if he can feel in control some of the time, he may engage in less power struggles at other times.
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