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So, I've been in counseling for domestic violence and the counselor has urged me to either set boundaries on my STBX's contact via email/phone/etc. or cut him off all together.
My worry is that when I finally have the money to hire a lawyer for a divorce (international custody will be an issue, I'm afraid, so I can't DIY this), my STBX might claim that I have tried to keep him from having contact with his children. My STBX is in his home country and my DC and I are here in the U.S. We came home with his permission (I have our original flight plans, etc. and emails from him saying I should have the children with me.), but I really fear that he will try to say that I have run off with them and if I try to cut his contact because of the damage it is doing to me and the kids, he will claim that this really is just to keep him from his kids.
Has anyone had experience with this issue in court? Leaving an abusive spouse and cutting off contact for your safety/health and then it later comes up in the custody discussion or other divorce proceedings?
Thanks to all of you for your support not just of me, but to all the other mamas who are struggling in here to make sense of things and make a good life for their children.
My worry is that when I finally have the money to hire a lawyer for a divorce (international custody will be an issue, I'm afraid, so I can't DIY this), my STBX might claim that I have tried to keep him from having contact with his children. My STBX is in his home country and my DC and I are here in the U.S. We came home with his permission (I have our original flight plans, etc. and emails from him saying I should have the children with me.), but I really fear that he will try to say that I have run off with them and if I try to cut his contact because of the damage it is doing to me and the kids, he will claim that this really is just to keep him from his kids.
Has anyone had experience with this issue in court? Leaving an abusive spouse and cutting off contact for your safety/health and then it later comes up in the custody discussion or other divorce proceedings?
Thanks to all of you for your support not just of me, but to all the other mamas who are struggling in here to make sense of things and make a good life for their children.
