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<p>I'm thinking about an elective ultrasound to bond a bit more with this baby. Being a second pregnancy and I spend so much time trying to keep up with my toddler, I haven't really bonded with this baby. In the "I'm pregnant" section a mama mentioned that a 3d ultrasound helped her feel more connected. I did get a 20ish week diagnostic ultrasound but it was rather rushed since the tech had a busy day. (We were also a bit surprised by the gender.) We were given a couple of pictures but they were really poor quality so I feel like I don't even have any momento pictures from this pregnancy.</p>
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<p>Anyone care to talk me into or out of this? I know my hubby's only reservation will be the money. He already mentioned an elective ultrasound after I expressed disappointment in the pics.</p>
 

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<p>I don't see anything wrong with getting the ultrasound in the situation you've described. You know it's not necessary but you feel it would positively impact your mental state. As long as doing it is not going to negatively impact your ability to take care of your family then I don't see a reason NOT to do it.</p>
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<p>Full disclosure: We are planning a 3D ultrasound in a couple weeks. It will be the grandparents first time to see *any* of their grandchildren on ultrasound and seeing as how this is the last one we wanted to share the experience with them.  I want it for the same reasons you do...bonding & emotional state. </p>
 

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<p>i think feeling the need to bond is a vrey valid reason, im not getting one, but that is the best reason i can think of to get one. i would not feel i had to explain myself if i were you. you know what your heart and your family needs right now more than any of us</p>
 

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I'm actually considering one for the exact same reason. From the beginning I feel like I've been putting this pregnancy on 'hold'. In my area, there is a company called 'first vue' that has some packages starting under 100 dollars.</p>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>allisonrose</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1278433/contemplating-a-3d-ultrasound#post_16034372"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I'm thinking about an elective ultrasound to bond a bit more with this baby. Being a second pregnancy and I spend so much time trying to keep up with my toddler, I haven't really bonded with this baby. In the "I'm pregnant" section a mama mentioned that a 3d ultrasound helped her feel more connected. I did get a 20ish week diagnostic ultrasound but it was rather rushed since the tech had a busy day. (We were also a bit surprised by the gender.) We were given a couple of pictures but they were really poor quality so I feel like I don't even have any momento pictures from this pregnancy.</p>
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<p>Anyone care to talk me into or out of this? I know my hubby's only reservation will be the money. He already mentioned an elective ultrasound after I expressed disappointment in the pics.</p>
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<p>QuestionGal - That does sound like a neat experience for the grandparents. When I was visiting family this summer, my mom and aunt were talking about how ultrasound technology was nothing like it is today when they were having kids.</p>
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<p>Adorkable - I'm not sure if I'm 100% convinced about it really. On one hand, I think it will help my bond. On the other hand, I'm not convinced that ultrasound is completely risk-free.</p>
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<p>texmati - I did look into some of the places recommended by my midwife in her parent handbook. Looks like it's $90-100.</p>
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<p>Unfortunately, we have expenses coming our way due to my hubby losing his keys (some of which didn't have a duplicate). We still need to make another sizeable payment to our midwife next month. Hubby is considering switching jobs due to lack of security in his current position which means changing insurance from a PPO that should cover a good chunk of the homebirth to heaven knows what. :sigh:</p>
 

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<p>For me the price alone put me off, but since then I've read some about risks of ultrasound that are not well understood, so I would stay away from elective ultrasounds.  You'll bond with your baby in the right time - I wouldn't worry about it. </p>
 

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<p>I just had one done with my second at 29 weeks...for the same reasons you are thinking about.  I feel like when I was pregnant with my daughter, I was very focused on being pregnant and awaiting her arrival.  She was also conceived with the help of fertility treatment, so I had a couple of early ultrasounds and then two more in the later parts of my pregnancy (18 and 29 weeks,one of which was able to be 3D).  </p>
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<p>This baby, another girl, has felt sort of like a mystery to me.  Maybe because it's not the first time around (this is actually my third pregnancy though, first ended in m/c), or maybe it's because I'm focused on parenting a two year old, I don't know, but I felt like it was important for me to see her face, in order to get to know her a bit more.  I'm glad we did (and boy is she cute).</p>
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<p>I'm not terribly concerned with the risks of ultrasound, and we felt comfortable and safe doing it.</p>
 

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<p>I figure u/s is safe enough that if you really feel like you haven't bonded and this will help, you should go for it. Of course I've had a million (not this pregnancy) because of complications and my babies are healthy so I can't see any harm in them. Plus, the pictures are pretty neat. lol. Since I had to be in all the time during my last pregnancy, the tech flipped the 3d thing on and took a few pictures for us just because.</p>
 

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<p>I also wanted to add that part of why I don't regret doing it or paying the money is because (and this may seem silly), but I didn't want my younger daughter to wonder, how ever many years down the road, why there were pictures of her sister like this and not her.  When I was growing up, my older brother had this very cute baby album full of pictures and little captions.  And while there were plenty of pictures of me, they were thrown in a box and never put into an album.  It didn't mean my parents loved me any less, and I knew that, but it certainly hurt my feelings from time to time (my mother eventually made an album for me when I was graduating from high school).</p>
 

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<p>I'm getting one next week and am very excited. All of my family and my DS will come to the appointment. I also did one with my DS and it was really amazing. I think it will help DS bond with his new baby sister as well.  A 3 year old has a hard time with the reality of a baby in Mommy's tummy.</p>
 

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<p>bella99 - That is a good point. I'm the third child so I know exactly what you mean about pictures tossed in the box.</p>
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<p>For now, I'm leaning towards no due to cost and the need to travel for it (about an hour). But at some point, I want to discuss it a bit more in depth with my hubby.</p>
 

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<p>Fwiw, the Fda doesn't recommend doing any ultrasounds without a medical reason. There is no evidence or research proving the safety of ultrasounds.  That said, I totally understand the emotional aspects of seeing your baby and am not judging anyone for doing or not doing them.</p>
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<p><a href="http://www.fda.gov/ForConsumers/ConsumerUpdates/ucm095508.htm" target="_blank">http://www.fda.gov/ForConsumers/ConsumerUpdates/ucm095508.htm</a></p>
 

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<p>Well Mamalo, my midwife was aware I was getting it done, and was fine with it.  I wouldn't have felt comfortable hiding it, and she knew of the place, and knew that they had a policy of confirming that there had been previous ultrasounds or prenatal care for liability reasons.</p>
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<p>I feel like I've done enough research, with my daughter's pregnancy and this one, that I felt comfortable doing this and not feeling like the risk was in anyway substantial.</p>
 

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<p>Mama Lo - I have seen that before and it is a large part of my hesitation.</p>
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<p>That said, events lately are causing my hubby and I to lean towards getting one. My town's water was recently found to be contaminated with perchlorate (an industrial chemical that can affect the thyroid). There's a huge question mark in our minds about how long this contamination has been going on since there's a lack of info about when the water company last tested. We are both feeling insecure about the baby's health. </p>
 

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<p>In that case I would be contacting your midwife/Dr and letting them know your concerns about the water.  The places that do the "for fun" 3d ultrasounds cannot assess the situation or offer a diagnosis. </p>
 

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<p>I agree with Question Gal and would ask my midwife / Dr for a medical u/s.  You want to make sure you get the information on your baby from an expert (who can also act on it) - otherwise you'll end up with more rather than fewer questions.</p>
 

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<p>this is my first pregnancy and I'm with a homebirth midwife, so I only had the choice of optional u/s.  I didn't get any until 28 weeks, when I felt like I just wanted to get at least one to confirm in my mind that there really is a baby in there.  So my midwife recommended getting a medical u/s, so I could have the bonding/seebaby and an evaluation at the same time.  Of course, I got all dizzy in teh middle of it with lying on back that long.. so they had to finish it with me on my side.  LOL</p>
<p>The 3D ones are tempting - there are so many stores in my town of many breeders.  but the price and risk are probably talking me out of it. </p>
 
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