[AAK]

For those who don't know me. I am Amy and have two wonderful dd (5 &2). First was born at hospital with OB. Horrible birth! Even worse pp. Second was born same hospital with a fab mw. Great birth, fab pp.

Even though I had a great birth and I know I could do it again (even in a hospital) I am just sick of the inconviences of the hospital. So, once again I tried to convince dh of homebirth. My argument: I KNOW I can do it without drugs, it is a pain in the neck to get the kids to moms at midnight, I don't have to wait for permission to bring my baby home.

Well, I like to think I argue well. I am well educated and have been able to answer dh's questions immediately. However, I really think that the biggest factor in convincing him is that his good friend and wife recently had a homebirth and are adament that they would never change it. Also, dh knows (from last time) how well I do in water. At the hospital I could labor but not birth in water. This time I will do both.

Amy due Jan. 20 2006 with #3
Still nursing #2

Oh yeah, I don't plan on mentioning it to my mom (she is irritatingly ignorant) but dh's family is mostly supportive even if they don't quite "get it".

 

[wendy1221]

Congratulations! I'm starting to think I'm really in the minority here w/ a dh who is as into homebirth as I am. LOL!

 

[amanda2b2]

congratulaitons!!

 

[2+twins]

Congratulations! That's wonderful!

 

[honeybee]

Congratulations!

I was just about to post the exact same thing, with a few minor details different! :LOL

I had a great hospital NCB last time, but like you I want to avoid the inconveniences of a hospital. For one, I'd like to actually rest after the baby's born instead of getting woken up so another nurse can check vitals! We are currently ttc, but I've been working on dh for a while. I did not expect any decisions until after we talked to a midwife, but he told me yesterday we could have a homebirth since I wanted one so much! :adore

Now we just have to get pg!

Melissa

 

[Jaysie1]

That's great! I *really* hope I will have the same luck with my DH. He came with me to interview 2 mw's and he has watched the "gentle birth choices" video, and read some of the research I gave him (i'm a doula, so i had it handy). But he's still "thinking about it." I want to have a homebirth so badly...I really hope he'll come around because i'm not into the "my way or the highway" method of marital relations. :LOL

Better not come to that!

Congratulations on your HB plans- can you send some of that DH-convincing energy my way?

Thanks!

 

[2+twins]

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Originally Posted by Jaysie1 I really hope he'll come around because i'm not into the "my way or the highway" method of marital relations. :LOL

But isn't that essentially what a dh/partner is doing if they won't "allow" their wife to give birth at home (or wherever she chooses)??? Food for thought.

 

[Jaysie1]

Quote:

Originally Posted by love_homebirthing But isn't that essentially what a dh/partner is doing if they won't "allow" their wife to give birth at home (or wherever she chooses)??? Food for thought.

I hear what you're saying, but he isn't saying, "No." He's still trying to process all of the choices and make a decision for himself. I would certainly want the same courtesy extended to me! I just hope he will eventually make the same decision as ME. :LOL

 

[Missy Princess Eha]

How wonderful! I am so glad two of you have had DH's come over to your side of things! :LOL