Originally Posted by girrllie
I felt very strongly that this was not his decision. With my first birth, he wasn't comfortable with a HB, so we went to the birthing center . . . where I could never visualize giving birth but he liked a lot. Last time, *I* was the one who went through 24 hours of labor. *I* was the one who got cut open. *I* was the one who went through recovery and still carry the scars.
So this time, I didn't even ask him. I told him. I'm giving birth at a birth center (different one than the first time). And when we were talking about it with a friend (who's friend is about to have a cesarean but doesn't know it yet and her Dh loves her doc but she really doesn't.), I told my friend straight out - "It's my decision. Not my DH's." Later we talked about it and DH said he knew that. And was o.k. with it.
He doesn't go through birth. I do. That's really just how I feel about it.
Originally Posted by altarflame
Perhaps a birth center would be a good compromise?