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Do you use a bedrail, pillow?? if so what works best for you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Thanks
 

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When it was just the one baby with us they slept in the middle.I never had to worry about a hurt baby since some of them preceded wedging in under us(I usually ended up falling off until I realized what was happening) or they would start squaking and kicking until we moved(even as a newborn).DH wasn't always home but he was surprisingly sensitve to the baby(I was the one he squished and kicked LOL).In hotels I did use pillows but then I didn't very much sleep worrying and there were a couple of falls.<br>
It wasn't until I had my last baby that I actually bought a bedrail.He ended up rolling into the crack between the rail and bed several times before I got rid of it.it did have mesh so he was fine or he would have loudly made his anger known but I was uncomfortable.<br>
I finally started using the crib(with#4!).I pushed it against the wall took off one side,put our bed ( without the frame) against it and Keoni sleeps very well there and it's held up even with kids jumping and everything.<br>
Now I have to rethink how we are going to do ours when this baby comes since Zoe sleeps with us too.I'm working on weaning her,2weeks!I don't want to be the crazy LLL example again.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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We started with a moses basket beside the bed, then gave up on that and just had a chair -> crib -> nothing pushed up against the side of the bed until she started rolling at around 5 months (or whenever it was). We got a bedrail then, and that lasted a month or two. Finally, we moved the mattress to the floor, which is where it's been ever since and will probably remain for the next 3 years.<br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Now I have to rethink how we are going to do ours when this baby comes since Zoe sleeps with us too.I'm working on weaning her,2weeks!I don't want to be the crazy LLL example again.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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I don't want to, either, but DD (11/07) has other ideas!
 

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With our first, we just put the king-size mattress on the floor.<br><br>
With our second, we used a bedrail (<a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FProducts-Safe-Sleeper-Rail-Ultra%2Fdp%2FB0002VAF3Y%2Fref%3Dcm_cr-mr-title" target="_blank">this model</a>).<br><br>
I like having a tight-fitting bedrail, because I like to sleep (and nurse) on both of my sides. We started out hoping that ds could just sleep in the middle of the bed, but then I didn't feel secure enough to have him nurse on the bed-edge side (I usually fall asleep while nursing). A rail helped give me more flexibility in terms of nursing/sleeping positions.
 

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with #1 , she slept in the middle until she started rolling around then we lowered the bed to the floor (no frame/box springs) and pushed it in a corner and she slept by the wall.. with #2, we got a bedrail from the beginning and he slept on that side until he as about 8-9 months then we lowered the bed to the floor because he was pulling up on the rail and he rolled off the other side of the bed once.. then when he was 15 mo we figured out the side car crib thing.. wish we would have done that sooner! i think we'll probably do the side car crib from the beginning with #3 except from like 8-12 months when baby can't climb down from the bed safely..
 

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DD was (is) between DH and I. For this one, I think I am going to get a rail (similar to what was posted above) and DD will still be in the middle and then new baby on my side with the rail.<br><br>
I also have a bassinet for the first little bit if we need it. I have a co-sleeper and DD never really slept in it.
 

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We have our Arms's Reach co-sleeper on my side of the bed. No one has ever really slept in it, but if they fall off the edge of my bed they would roll into the co-sleeper which is only about a 4 inch drop. It hasn't ever happened. I stuff a baby blanket in the crack between the co-sleeper and my bed. Strangely, neither of my kids has ever rolled around in bed until after I weaned them.
 

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We have this awesome bedrail which comes on top of the mattress and clamps down so there is no way the baby can get stuck between the bed and the rail. We have a king side bed. It works great!
 

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I teach Safe Sleep, so I'm super anal about what I will do when co-sleeping, which I've done from birth with both of them. It's a big part of how we parent, but when I teach safe sleep three times a week, it's hard not to freak out about it! We use a co-sleeper, not that they sleep in it usually, but it is what's next to baby. Baby is between me and the co-sleeper, never between me and DH or other DC. All pillows are behind my head, and all blankets are below my knees (they kind of come up on an angle) so baby has an open space with no covers, pillows, etc. Once baby is rolling we then use a bed-rail, but baby still stays between me and the rail. My kids have been 18 months or older before they were ever between me and DH.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">With our first, we just put the king-size mattress on the floor.<br><br>
With our second, we used a bedrail (<a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FProducts-Safe-Sleeper-Rail-Ultra%2Fdp%2FB0002VAF3Y%2Fref%3Dcm_cr-mr-title" target="_blank">this model</a>).<br><br>
I like having a tight-fitting bedrail, because I like to sleep (and nurse) on both of my sides. We started out hoping that ds could just sleep in the middle of the bed, but then I didn't feel secure enough to have him nurse on the bed-edge side (I usually fall asleep while nursing). A rail helped give me more flexibility in terms of nursing/sleeping positions.</div>
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We used one just like this one (though it was a different brand).
 

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I used a co-sleeper at first. I usually nurse baby down in the living room watching t.v. and then put babe down in the co-sleeper for the first sleep. Then when babe wakes, I bring them into the bed to nurse. The baby flips from between us to between me and the cosleeper through the night as I switch sides to nurse from. Does that make sense?<br><br>
When babe outgrows the co-sleeper ( was 18 months old for us) I put a bedrail on the bed. Again, babe switches sides through the night. My dh is VERY aware of babe in bed and we've never had a problem, and I don't anticipate one ever. If he's drank too much...he sleeps on the couch. But that's only happened a handful of times in 8 years of cosleeping.<br><br>
Oh, and I used a bedrail vs. a pillow because a pillow takes up too much room in the bed. We've got enough people in there...don't need a pillow taking up precious room!!!
 

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We have two ds in the bed now and we use a twin bed next to our king for "overflow" usually two of us end up in it (one adult and one child), so I imagine with a third moving into the bed my dh will sleep with the oldest in the twin and I will have the baby towards the middle and the toddler on the outside (nursing both).
 

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With our last kiddo we attached a twin bed to the side of our queen (in the corner of the room).<br>
that worked very well.<br>
it was me and the babe on one side, where i could easily slide her onto the twin if necessary, and DH on the other side.<br>
for the 1st month or so she slept mostly on the twin unless she was nursing, by 5 months she was sleeping between DH and I.<br>
Once she was large enough to learn the get on the bed/ get off the bed technique (9 or 10 months) we took both beds off the frame. this left the twin (which had been even with our queen and really just an extension of the same bed space) about 8 inches lower than our queen. Form then on untill she moved out of our room she slept 50% on the twin, and 50% between DH and I.<br><br>
With my 2nd we had a side cared crib, and that was a total PITA. I ended up with my upper body on the crib many nights. Not comfy.<br><br>
This time we are going with the same twin attached to queen set up. We have the same frame, and a spare twin mattress (no need to go buy another) so we are all set. It was a very convenient set up last time. Xitlaly took all her naps on it, even DH would sleep on the twin side of the bed if he was on night shift and coming to bed at 3 or 4am. - baby and I never noticed him come in (and thus no disturbed baby at 3am!) It really is nice having just one super large bed.<br><br>
Actually If I ever had a room that I could fill one side with mattresses (tightly fit of course) from wall to wall.. I soooo would.
 

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oh! and this whole thread reminds me that with my toddler recently moved into the girls room, and me quickly becoming *big* preggo... I can now get my mattress off the floor and back onto the frame.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> After all, it's embarrassing calling someone into your room at 7am when your 8 months along to help you get UP out of bed.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">We have this awesome bedrail which comes on top of the mattress and clamps down so there is no way the baby can get stuck between the bed and the rail. We have a king side bed. It works great!</div>
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This is what I used in the past as well, after having a leg get caught between mattress and netting of bedrail.<br>
I was checking out this co-sleeper pillow <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FBetter-for-Babies-Inc-Co-sleeping%2Fdp%2FB000QSGT4C%2Fref%3Dsr_1_2%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbaby-products%26qid%3D1273469191%26sr%3D1-2" target="_blank">http://www.amazon.com/Better-for-Bab...3469191&sr=1-2</a><br>
but it looks like it takes up a lot of room and this was also mentioned on reviews I read.<br><br>
I too with not let the baby sleep next to DC or DF for first few months and ensure no blankets, pillows near baby. We don't have our king bed on frame now, just box spring so fall would not be tooo far... I think I'm liking the twin bed next to bed idea. Libby (almost 4) still comes to our bed at night a few times a week.<br>
Thanks for sharing your experiences!
 

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I never let the baby sleep in the middle of us because my husband is a violent and deep sleeper, he would have elbowed and/or rolled over on and smothered the baby.<br><br>
I just put the bed next to the wall, and put the baby between the wall and me, husband on the outside. I wouldn't put any pillows near the baby.
 

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I'm not sure how our sleeping set up will look this time around but in the past with ds1 he selpt between us. Ds2 slept between meand the Arm's Reach co-sleeper (but never actually in it until he was close to two). Right now we have a double bed pushed next to our queen. My 5yo still comes in some nights and ds2 is still snuggled right in next to me. My worries are the fact that ds2 still likes to sleep really close to me.<br>
My guess is that dh will co-sleep with the boys in their room and me with the baby. He works some nights so *hopefully* the boys will be content with the double next to my bed with the baby in it with me.
 

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Baby will DEFINITELY not go between DH and I. It's too unsafe (and not recommended). I keep the baby on the outside of me with a bedrail on the other side. This time around instead of a bedrail we may be using a Co-Sleeper. Not for regular use, but just there for that barrier and an option if it ever becomes necessary. I also invested in a ton of sleep sacks this time around.
 

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<a href="http://www.fox6now.com/videobeta/dab8bf" target="_blank">http://www.fox6now.com/videobeta/dab8bf</a> ... t-or-wrong<br><br>
very sad, but interestingly states that in 100% of the deaths that babies were formula fed, I never knew there was a correlation
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><a href="http://www.fox6now.com/videobeta/dab8bf" target="_blank">http://www.fox6now.com/videobeta/dab8bf</a> ... t-or-wrong<br><br>
very sad, but interestingly states that in 100% of the deaths that babies were formula fed, I never knew there was a correlation</div>
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Wait, what is that clip supposed to be? I'm getting something about a drunk driving crash.
 
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