Cosleeping and tandem nursing

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SugarAndSun

Discussion Starter · Apr 13, 2006

After a dicussion I had with dh I am a bit nervous about cosleeping with two and nursing two. I hope it doesn't turn out to be a sleepless nightmare for all of us.

Does anyone have any words of wisdom? DS1 is only 18 months and often wakesup crying and wants milk. There is no rationalizing with him or telling him about the sun goingup or down or anything because he is so young. Thanks for any advice!

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georgia

· #2 · Apr 13, 2006

I'm currently nursing two and co-sleeping with two, too

My older nursling was 21/22 months when my youngest was born. He was still so needy and didn't "get" the waiting thing. Still doesn't! Anyway, we just make it work. Some nights are tougher. Some nights work out beautifully. We take it as it comes. That's kinda my mantra. Just muddle through and things have a way of working themselves out. Creativity is key, as is support.

I have one baby on either side of me. I just roll over to nurse....and sometimes, when the older one is really needing me, he climbs over my back and nurses while my youngest nurses. We end up all over the bed. Never know where anyone is going to end up in the morning

I cannot imagine any other way than nursing and co-sleeping. It would be so much harder on everyone. You can do it, and it's going to all work out

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Fiddlemom

· #3 · Apr 14, 2006

I did this, but gently nightweaned the older one before the baby was born because I just couldn't handle getting woken up so much at night while I was pregnant.....an idea which may or may not be of interest to you, I realize! However when baby #2 came along a month early, when ds#1 was 23 months, we were still having sleep issues and were working on the No-Cry Sleep Solution ideas, chart, etc....(actually have a very cute pic of ds#1 "reading" that book around then).

Also, ds#1 had a crash course in waiting for things once the baby came. And with patience he rose to the occasion amazingly well, considering he wasn't 2 yet. It's that way with every second child coming along, I suspect.

Having ds#1 only nursing during the day really helped me. PM me if you want & I can send you a PDF of an article on tandem nursing that's about to come out in API's Attachment Parenting journal.

good luck....you will find your way through...have faith!

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merrybee

· #4 · Apr 14, 2006

I am tandem nursing and co-sleeping with a 2 and 3 yo who are 15 mos apart. Like Georgia, I can not imagine doing it any other way. There are nights that seem like one long nightmare and others that are blissfully peaceful, however most fall somewhere inbetween. I can tend to both of my nurslings needs without ever getting up which is wonderful!! Of course there are times I need to get up and find myself pinned down

. We each have "our spot" and tend to nestle in together in a predictable cuddle, until one or both has a growth spurt. Then we have a few restless nights while we find our "fit" again. Is it all smooth? No, nothing in life is. Is it all worth it? I say yes. There is nothing like sleeping babies up against you-- yum!

On the rough nights I think of how lonely I am going to be when it's time to sleep without them! Good luck, you'll find your way.

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damyen's mommy

· #5 · Apr 14, 2006

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I have one baby on either side of me. I just roll over to nurse....and sometimes, when the older one is really needing me, he climbs over my back and nurses while my youngest nurses. We end up all over the bed. Never know where anyone is going to end up in the morning

This is what we do. Except my ds does this for morning nursie. He is pretty much nightweaned. When the milk first came he nursed more than dd though but it evened out.

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