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do you cuddle or sleep in your own "area"?

  • yes, we cuddle with dc

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  • no, we need our own space

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Ds (16 months)and I used to cuddle all night long, but ever since he could roll over he seems to enjoy his own space.<br>
I guess I'm just feeling guilty....we recently nightweaned because we were all going insane. It actually went smoothly and ds is much more rested. But now we sleep on two different mattresses pushed together (so still in the same room). IF ds wakes up, dh will go over to him and put him back to sleep and lay with him if need be. I guess it just hardly seems like cosleeping to me anymore <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I wonder if he'll be able to sleep by us when he's a bit older.<br><br>
I guess I just envisioned co-sleeping as all cuddles, but it doesn't seem to be that easy.....ds doesn't seem sad. Just me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I need my space, and so does DS!<br><br>
We recently pushed a crib mattress up to our bed (all on the floor) to give us more room.
 

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Other~ DS goes to sleep without me so other than the initial goodnight cuddles when he goes to bed (5 minutes or so) it's me cuddling him for a few minutes when I go to sleep later...he doesn't wake when I do this (thank goodness LOL). Once i'm asleep though I don't like to be overly crowded<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> !
 

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We start with a cuddle and then end up in our own space....we pushed her crib (that didn't get put together until her 2nd birthday....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">) up against the wall and our bed is next to it so we'd have some more room....esp with our full size bed. She recently became a flip flopper in bed so the extra room has been great....<br><br>
Most of the night we all have our own space and then dp gets up for work and I snuggle closer to her and she's still in her own space....when she's closer to waking, she'll roll close to me, peek at me and snuggle super tight and put her hand on my face and smile.....and we snuggle for a bit before getting up....<br><br>
She snuggles most of the night if she's not feeling well...<br><br>
Wondering how all this will change with her new sister come end of summer....
 

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It depends how cold it is. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I say other too. Both ds and dd like to snuggle and so do I but sometimes I need my space. Especially when I have a little arm across my face and a foot in my gut<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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We cuddle while nursing and then my huggy pillow goes between my knees and arms. If I'm facing DD I can put my arm around her too. If I am facing the other way she snuggles up to my back.<br><br>
Most nights at some point I do move her over about 6 inches just to have a little space.
 

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CUDDLE! I LOVE snuggling with my 14 month old DD, she's so - well - snuggly! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> There ARE times I like stretching out, but mostly - cuddling rocks! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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I voted other. I need my space and will leave to find it. Dh and the dc need to snuggle. I am so glad they have each other. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I need space, she likes to cuddle. As soon as DH quits worrying about rolling on her, they can cuddle and I can sleep.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I voted other. I need my space and will leave to find it. Dh and the dc need to snuggle. I am so glad they have each other. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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Me too!! I'm so glad DH has someone to cuddle with now (both our DC) so I can sleep in my own space<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Depends on how I'm feeling - we snuggle for a while and then I usually sleep on my side and push my back right up next to dc, that way I can feel her and she knows I'm near. She LOVES to cuddle, but sometimes I need my space.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Depends on how I'm feeling - we snuggle for a while and then I usually sleep on my side and push my back right up next to dc, that way I can feel her and she knows I'm near. She LOVES to cuddle, but sometimes I need my space.</div>
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This is another good option! Let them cuddle up to my back. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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cuddle <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:
 

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I have a certain way I need to sleep, so I usually turn away after nursing. Sometimes DS cuddles against my back for a while, but not often. Other times, I'll fall asleep on my back, still touching him. But I'd say overall we sleep in our own space now.
 

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I usually start off the night in cuddle mode, but truly I like it in more in theory than practice. DS is the sweetest creature on earth, but he's bony and hot-natured and insistent upon sleeping horizonally with his feet, perfect though they may be, smack in my face. If I could convince him to spoon, that would be a different story, but he's really much more of a fork kinda guy. No, more like a Swiss Army knife, all pokie parts jutting out in every direction.<br><br>
So I give it a few minutes of sweet snuggling, then I roll over, butt to butt, and go to sleep.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Depends on how I'm feeling - we snuggle for a while and then I usually sleep on my side and push my back right up next to dc, that way I can feel her and she knows I'm near. She LOVES to cuddle, but sometimes I need my space.</div>
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That's how I sleep. I will usually cuddle up with dd (or ds if he's in our bed too) for a bit and then I roll over and I can feel her against my back. I need my arms in a comfortable position to sleep. Dd seems to like a bit of her own space but ds is a total cuddler and needs constant contact.
 

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This is going to sound weird- I voted other because, for me, it depended on the child.<br>
With ds1, we cuddled. In fact, I could not sleep without him pressed up against me, and he seemed to feel the same. Now, with ds2, I really feel like I have to have my own space, and he needs it too, because, after nursing to sleep, he rolls over into his own space and stays there until he wants to nurse again.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">
 
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