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Cosleeping frustration

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I'm hoping someone can offer some words of wisdom or encouragement. I'm not sure which one I need the most right now. My dd is almost 10 months. We have co-slept since she was born. We have a 2.5 year old dd also who sleeps in a crib in her own room. The problem is tha lately, cosleeping hasn't been working. We have a queen bed and I'm not sure if she isn't comfortable or we aren't comfortable ("we" meaning dh and I), but noone is sleeping well. Dd tosses and turns, dh and I toss and turn. Everyone wakes up cranky. Except Dd#1 who sleeps peacefully! We have a 3 br home. Dd #1 has her bedroom, Dh and I a room, and a computer room . The plan was to wait until Dd#2 was sleeping through the night in our bed consistently, then move her into the room with her sister. She would go in the crib and dd#1 would move into a bed. Well, I'm not sure we are going to be able to wait that long. The problem being, the crib won't fit in our room. I would love to put it beside our bed, but our room is pretty small. We have a smaller portable crib, but the weight limit is 20 lbs and dd is 18 1/2 lbs now. I don't think she will sleep through the night, so I don't think putting her in the room with dd#1 is a good idea. I wouldn't want to be having to calm both of them down all night. Any ideas?

Last night, dd2 crawled off of the foot of our bed. I think that was the beginning of the last straw for Dh. He flipped out, saying we had to figure something out. He kept waking up making sure she was okay, thinking she had a concussion or something.

I love sleeping with my baby, and I wish I could continue, but I dont' see a safe way. There is no way dh would put the mattress on the floor. He was on the fence about cosleeping in the first place. And crawling off the bed is only ONE of our problems.

Okay, I'm done rambling.

Thanks for listening.
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My wife and I have a 16 month old daughter that co-sleeps with us. We don't always get the best sleep, but that tends to be when I come to bed late and wake my wife. Lately, I have been sleeping in a different bed If I am up late. We have had discussions about what we are going to do when we have another child. I suggested to my wife that our dd can sleep with me in one bed and my wife will sleep in a different bed with the baby. My wife wants our dd and baby to sleep with her. Our dd rolled off the bed once, because my wife had our dd was on the side of the bed. She now sleeps between us or we put pillows on one side. Our dd usually wakes 3 or 4 times to nurse. Based on what I read and articles posted on mothering, babies/toddlers are not usually going to sleep through the night. Having your dd2 near you when she wakes is a good idea for both of you. I hope the below suggestions help.

1. Look for a co-sleeper that attaches to your bed. For example
2. Have your dh sleep with dd#1.
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