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I don't have a space issue - we have a king sized bed. I have a waking each other up issue - and a comfort issue - and I'm curious how those of you have made c-sleeping with two work.<br><br>
My DD is 6 months now and since 4 months has been sleeping poorly (daytime distraction, nighttime teething). She goes down in the pack and play next to my bed (used to be co-sleeper but she's crawling now) and when she wakes for the first time I've been putting her in bed with me. She wakes every couple of hours, usually to nurse, sometimes just to touch me. Some days she'll wake for the day at 6, some days 8. This would all be okay with me if I didn't have...<br><br>
My 3.5 yo DS. He was a co-sleeper until 18 months and since then has started nights in his bed, waking anywhere between 12-5 (usually 12) and screaming from upstairs for my DH (who brings him back to bed). He too wakes a lot in the night, wanting to cuddle - usually with me. He usually wakes for the day at 6:30 if not earlier. He has to have his breakfast bar and is insanely whiny in the morning (mostly b/c he takes 1.5 hours to go to sleep and doesn't sleep enough which is an issue in itself). This worked ok for us until the baby was born.<br><br>
Now, either DD wakes up DS when she nightwakes or I have to move DS off me quickly and end up waking him anyways. In the morning if she gets up early, she wakes him up (even less sleep for him) or he INTENTIONALLY wakes her.<br><br>
I used to get sleep. Now, I don't. Both kids sandwich me in so I can't move. They both have to be touching me, but I can't move without waking the baby. When DS wakes DD intentionally I wake up irritated with him and that usually carries through the morning. I'm not a morning person in general but now I'm crabby all the time (I SAH with them) and am not enjoying my kids like I used to and they are not getting the energy and attention they deserve. Something has to give and I'm lost as to how to remedy the situation.<br><br>
I hate to put DD in a crib in another room, but am thinking that might be the only solution - well, unless I make DS stay in his room, but the thought of that "training" is horrible - he hates being "alone" in his room and to be honest, I can understand that - I don't like to be alone either!!!<br><br>
So what works in your house?<br><br>
Oh, and having DH go up to DS' room won't work as a solution b/c he travels quite a bit and I'm alone with both kidlets all night.
 

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Could you put a twin mattress next to the king bed and have DS sleep there - he'd be close enough where you could touch him and cuddle him a little and have his own space so you are not feeling so sandwiched. OR could you put DD in a co-sleeper attached to the bed?<br><br>
Not an easy situation. Remember, this won't last forever, it just feels like it!
 

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We cosleep with a 14 mo. and a 22 mo. old<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Yes-I have a back ache every morning also from being sandwiched<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> But as in your case, they both need me to sleep better-we did put a toddler bed right up against my side of the bed and my 2 year old will stay there for part of the night. So like the previous post said too, that might work if you put a bed for your 3 yr. old right by you. Then our 1 yr. old sleeps between my DH and I. I hope it gets better-sleep is so important-maybe you could make yourself take a nap with your babies (if you don't already<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> so you can get a little more sleep-Good Luck<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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